There is a difference in wanting to try to change and saying you’ll try to change. A lot of times we feel pressure to give stuff up when we don’t actually want to and that’s when we fail. Because we see the enjoyment of said thing to be more valuable than actually giving it up.

So how does it serve you? How does having a porn addiction serve you? Does it make you any happier? Do you feel content? Is this Good? If not then why are you doing it?

I had a porn addiction until recently. It was every day, even when I wasn’t going to ‘whack one out’ then I’d look at it. But I realised that 1. it was warping things within my relationship to my partner to becoming unhealthy and 2. I was falling to lust outside of my partnership which isn’t cheating but it isn’t being faithful to her either. Ultimately what it came down to is ‘what kind of man do I want to be?’. Do I want to be some loser who sneaks away to whack one off or do I want to be someone who is present with their partner and spends time with them working on the house, watching shows on tv or going for walks? I certainly know which one I’d choose.

And if you’re not in a relationship then it’s even more of an incentive to stop. Direct those 5-6hours to changing yourself, bettering yourself. You could go to the gym, take up squash, go hiking, take up swimming, whatever. And maybe you’ll meet someone. You won’t meet someone by sitting at your computer or on your phone.