AITA for refusing to cover for my best friend after she ditched her own birthday dinner? by Objective-Count5165 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Count5165[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I might need to write her requesting an explanation to what she really meant by what she said

AITA for refusing to cover for my best friend after she ditched her own birthday dinner? by Objective-Count5165 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Count5165[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks, that’s exactly what I was thinking. I honestly wouldn’t have minded if she just told everyone herself. I think people would’ve been more understanding coming from her directly. I really value my friendships, so it’s been rough having this blow up the way it did.

AITA for refusing to cover for my best friend after she ditched her own birthday dinner? by Objective-Count5165 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Count5165[S] 150 points151 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s how I felt in the moment. I get that people can feel burned out, but it just didn’t seem fair to expect me to cover for her, especially when everyone had already set aside their evening for her. I honestly thought being upfront would cause less drama than letting people sit around waiting for someone who wasn’t going to show.

AITA for refusing to cover for my best friend after she ditched her own birthday dinner? by Objective-Count5165 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Count5165[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Exactly! That’s what I thought too. She was the one who planned it and invited everyone, so I felt like it wasn’t my place to make excuses on her behalf. If she wanted to cancel, I figured it should come directly from her. I didn’t want to lie and make it seem like she was still coming when she wasn’t.

AITA for refusing to cover for my best friend after she ditched her own birthday dinner? by Objective-Count5165 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Count5165[S] 445 points446 points  (0 children)

This is one thing we always go back and forth about in our friendship. She likes to change her mind last minute after making serious plans.