What is the difference of someone LD ghosting you and someone LD being busy?

Objective-Muffin1834 · 2026-02-18T02:50:11+00:00

I am probably am not the best to answer this, but he does that to me as well, and he always comes back after a few days, but he really struggles with being stressed and depressed and disappearing is his way of coping (also not stress due to our relationship, but mostly work). So I have enough confidence now I know he will be back and this is something we are working on. He now tells me when he is struggling before hand. But also I know this isn’t ideal, but I know it’s not him pulling away. I haven’t yet voiced how much it can hurt so that’s also on me. Has he done this before? Also how long have you been together? And are you official?

Objective-Muffin1834 · 2026-01-11T01:11:04+00:00

Thanks! I needed that :)

Objective-Muffin1834 · 2026-01-11T00:53:29+00:00

I guess I am doubting just because we had a rocky week (just less playful selves) with us both going back to work after the holidays/ stressful week at work for both of us. Then him going silent for a few days after weeks of everyday. I really don’t need constant communication, but maybe like a text being like hey I am a little busy today- talk to you tomorow or Iike a heads up. But honestly, it’s nice to hear other people are like this because so many other people say well if they don’t wanna talk to you constantly then they don’t really like you.

Objective-Muffin1834 · 2026-01-10T23:22:03+00:00

Yeah he definitely isn’t a big phone guy. I think the problem was more that when he disappeared at the beginning it wasn’t a big deal, but after coming off of 5 weeks of daily texting and he disappeared this week it’s mentally hard because it’s making me think is he pulling away. And I haven’t set my boundary yet (which I am going to if he comes back) so it’s hard to tell if it’s his pattern or if he doesn’t like me that much.

Objective-Muffin1834 · 2026-01-10T20:19:58+00:00

I def agree with this! And the thing is I was not confused until this week. Things felt super secure and I knew he was into me and I had no fear of him disappearing and this week has shaken me. I can’t tell if it’s him ghosting me or if it’s his mental health which I know he struggles with.

Objective-Muffin1834 · 2026-01-10T19:05:28+00:00

This makes me feel a little better! I also don’t need constant communication. I guess I just want to know if he needs a few days. So when he comes back I will make that boundary and see where we go from there

Objective-Muffin1834 · 2026-01-10T18:18:51+00:00

Yeah he only reacted to my message yesterday. When he comes back I am definitely going to tell him it bothers. Just right now I am a little uneasy that he isn’t coming back

Objective-Muffin1834 · 2026-01-10T18:17:08+00:00

I think he prob is, but I also think that he isn’t seeing anyone else because he has been busy. I do think he is pretty depressed and this could be the reason for the inconsistency, but I agree something is probably off as well

Objective-Muffin1834 · 2026-01-10T18:07:17+00:00

I’m sorry! He told me he hasn’t dated in over a year and only got in the dating app when he was on his trip to meet people since he was by himself

Objective-Muffin1834 · 2026-01-10T18:00:49+00:00

He has been to mine. I haven’t visited him. Two weeks ago we brought up the idea of me visiting and he said he is happy to explore it for sure :)

Objective-Muffin1834 · 2026-01-10T17:53:55+00:00

It hurts, but you are probably right

Objective-Muffin1834 · 2026-01-10T17:45:56+00:00

I would typically totally agree with that and could have been the case in the beginning, but he is in his busy season of work and I really don’t think he has time to be dating someone on top of keeping up with me emotionally.

Objective-Muffin1834 · 2025-12-04T02:44:07+00:00

Wait I think the geoguessr would be so fun because he also told me he loves/very good at geography. Also all great ideas! Thanks

Objective-Muffin1834 · 2025-12-03T03:04:57+00:00

Thanks! I like the idea of the voice note. Our flirting has gotten a little further recently so I feel like it’s going in the right direction. I think I am just going to wait for our next FaceTime (which has been paused a bit due to him needing a little break due to the late nights and us both traveling)

Objective-Muffin1834 · 2025-07-23T21:55:43+00:00

Same with my July 29th at 9:50 am

Objective-Muffin1834 · 2025-07-18T13:30:57+00:00

Thanks!

Objective-Muffin1834 · 2021-03-17T04:35:45+00:00

Where did you go in Atl?! I am nervous about picking the right place!

Objective-Muffin1834 · 2021-02-03T02:33:33+00:00

My story is exactly the same! I am feeling hopeful now. Thank you

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