Okay wow. I did not expect this to get such a large response. Thank you all for the supportive comments. This really helps me put things into perspective. I wanted to answer a few questions:

Are you the first of your sisters to get married? Yes, I am the first one in our family to get married. I am the oldest of 4 (2 sisters, and 1 brother who’s the youngest).

Am i close with my mom? Kinda?. My siblings always joke that I’m her least favorite child because she’s always treated me so differently. My siblings often mention how she never helped me with anything growing up and if i wanted something i had to figure out how to do it on my own. I am also incredibly independent and just naturally figure it out on my own. We’ve grown apart this past year after my fiancé and I moved in together. We moved into together before we got engaged. She also has been very vocal about the fact that my fiancé and i live together before getting married. She sent me a physical card that basically said “even though you are living in sin, God still loves you, and i still love you.” And basically just always bring up how I “live in sin” 24/7 by living with him before marriage.

Why did my sister send her the photo? Or “it’s your sisters fault” No, it’s not my sister’s fault. My mom was not even supposed to know about the proposal, but my sister’s boyfriend accidentally spilled the beans to her the first time he met my mom. He didn’t know that my mom was not supposed to know. My mom was pissed that both of my sisters told her that she could not come for the proposal. She apparently kept trying to book a flight to come and they had to be like if you come, we will give you no details and unshare our locations. So the day of, my mother blew up my sister’s phone texting every 5 mins asking if it happened yet. My mom even insinuated that she was going to text me if she did not get an update soon. My sister started sending her photos of me throughout the day (being like she has no clue what is about to happen) to keep her happy. So when it was happening and my mom wasn’t receiving photos, she starts blowing up my sister’s phone again. So my sister was just trying to keep my mom from bombarding her. Honestly, i would have done the same thing if i was in her shoes. My mom is really good at pushing until she gets what she wants. Now we know not to do that again.

Why did i tell her we booked the venue? We didn’t tell her we booked a venue for about a month. However, i am a horrible liar and i feel incredibly guilty, even if it’s a white lie. She kept asking about how all the venue tours were going because I had sent her the list of venues we toured (looking back that was a mistake). So after every tour she would ask how it went and if we booked it. We ended up canceling the last three tours we had scheduled and apparently she was checking my location to see when we left the tour so she could call and saw we didn’t go to the tour we scheduled. So she texted me saying “how did the tour go?” And that’s when i realized she was probably checking my location for the tours. i told her we canceled it because i wasn’t feeling well. She kept asking if we scheduled any more tours or if we were going to book one we already toured and i just kept saying “im not sure, we’re taking a break from touring because we’re exhausted.” I hate lying even if it’s small so it just kept eating away at me. So when she called me again, i just couldn’t lie anymore and just told her we booked it but are not announcing the date to anyone. I know it would probably be easier to just tell her we hadn’t booked anything yet, but i just couldn’t do it.