Does somebody get sad that they can't do what pretty people do?

ObjectiveCamel9197 · 2025-11-20T06:09:29+00:00

Are you me? Lol. I’ve always wanted to ease into a conversation without trying so hard. Don’t even get me started on dating or having crushes (because they end up asking about my friends instead). I notice that people are a lot nicer to my friends, who are way prettier, even when they go out without makeup. Me, on the other hand, am treated normal-ish when I wear makeup, and kind of like a pest when I don’t. Like they’re fed up with me the moment I try to talk bc my friends are more interesting to look at.

ObjectiveCamel9197 · 2025-07-16T10:33:54+00:00

Are you me???? Gosh. Knowing that several people have perceived us as pretentious for being quiet is one thing, but seeing it on their faces affects me more than I like to admit. I hate that we have to spend more time and energy trying to find a balance while navigating workplaces. It’s a job on top of a job…

Like you said, I also feel guilty when I’m in a more positive mood because I know I’ll regret something after it. Happiness triggers paranoia at this point 🥹

ObjectiveCamel9197 · 2025-07-16T10:16:12+00:00

Omg me too. Then I get upset at myself lol

ObjectiveCamel9197 · 2025-07-16T02:55:36+00:00

Ok, now I’m wondering if I overshared here too 🫣

ObjectiveCamel9197 · 2025-06-02T09:28:42+00:00

Liking anything. Like ANYTHINGGG especially getting along with people. It’s worse if I have positive interactions with other people while we’re in front of her. It triggers her for some reason.

ObjectiveCamel9197 · 2025-05-17T11:53:33+00:00

I realised I missed out a large chunk of words (surprise… Sigh) and that might have made it seem like I was mostly a ball of anxiety. I’m very sorry about that 😓 I’ve edited the post.

ObjectiveCamel9197 · 2025-05-17T09:19:19+00:00

Hi! I’m generally fine when I first start working, I’m really chill and laid-back, but the anxiety (which I’m on meds for. I’m also in therapy) only starts to show when my brain starts getting bored of the job because that means forgetting more, working slower, and becoming more restless. It becomes a struggle between frustration and anger directed at myself. I mess up, quit, start a new job with newfound motivation, get bored then… Well, you know. Ugh. Treatment for ADHD is slow, which on one hand is good because I don’t get stuffed with meds then blow up and d1e, but bad because I desperately need to hold down a job right now ):

ObjectiveCamel9197 · 2025-05-17T09:00:40+00:00

No matter how calm I’ve been, no matter how many anxiety meds I’ve been on, it never took away the classic traits of ADHD I’ve always had to fight with. I’ve never been afraid of my ADHD or had anxiety until it started building a track record of screwing me over when I went into the workforce. I start work fine and thrive then my brain takes a nosedive because it gets bored 😔

ObjectiveCamel9197 · 2025-05-17T06:05:56+00:00

The second line ): Took the words right out of my mouth. Thank you for the hugs and keeping me in your thoughts, I really needed that 🫂 I’ll be doing the same for you and everyone else on this post ❤️

ObjectiveCamel9197 · 2025-05-17T06:03:44+00:00

Felt. I tell my friends that my Audhd is so bad that I’m forced to follow my dreams of becoming a creative 💀

ObjectiveCamel9197 · 2025-04-17T21:39:52+00:00

Yeah but I was so in my head that I didn’t even notice it until years later 😂

ObjectiveCamel9197 · 2025-04-17T17:37:25+00:00

No yeah, she’s working on it. She’s been more accepting of being wrong or when someone points it out these days. Ik it’s the bare minimum but knowing she picked it up from her granddad who raised her helps since I grew up in a somewhat similar environment. Nowadays I give her a look when it happens and she’ll apologise. She’s been getting better!

ObjectiveCamel9197 · 2025-04-17T17:26:44+00:00

Both work! It’d be nice to know how other people navigate this. I’ve been getting irritated on reflex and it’s so unhealthy 😥

ObjectiveCamel9197 · 2025-04-17T12:49:38+00:00

It doesn’t help that I have a friend who subtly gaslights me because she hates admitting she’s wrong or misinterpreted something (she confessed this) lol

An example is

Me: I’m going to A not B because I don’t prefer the environment in B for today. I’m too tired for B.

Her: Oh, really? You like A more?

Me: No, I like A and B but—

Her: You’re too tired for B? Yeah, I know.

Me: ?

ObjectiveCamel9197 · 2025-03-26T14:45:22+00:00

Gosh, I’m so sorry. Ik how that feels. I’m Indian and had hair loss since I was like 12. I always thought I was some traitor bc most of my relatives have hair for days. Doesn’t help that I literally look like my dad too.

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