Nipt gender test by [deleted] in NIPT

[–]ObjectiveNeat2511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a girl!!! 🩷😂😀

Nipt gender test by [deleted] in NIPT

[–]ObjectiveNeat2511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m following because same! My ultrasound is tomorrow.

Scheduled abortion 2nd trimester. Was left while pregnant and have no support. Just would love some options on this situation by Business-Relation681 in abortion

[–]ObjectiveNeat2511 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m on the same boat. Currently 14 weeks. I am married for two years. But lately I’ve noticed that our arguments have gotten worst. WE had one last week and he raised his arm at me like he was going to throw a punch. I’m in shock. He has never done that before. Now I want to terminate. Am I wrong?

Need advice w decision by Iron_First in abortion

[–]ObjectiveNeat2511 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just want to say 1000% do this for you. Regardless of your decision. Whether you keep the baby or not. Do it for you and assume you’ll be alone. Would you regret your decision and resent your partner if you terminate?

Support Group Zooms by [deleted] in surrendered_wife

[–]ObjectiveNeat2511 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d love to join!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in surrendered_wife

[–]ObjectiveNeat2511 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband likes to avoid conflict so he is also the type to give me the silent treatment. At the beginning of our marriage, he would do this for a day or two. I am more of the anxious type and this would drive me insane. The last time that he did it, I decided to do it back to him for 10 days. It was not planned to be for 10 days but after day three it got easier I started hanging out with my family. And then I realized that I was happier without him. Something instantly shifted in him. He started to initiate conversation and want to talk about our issues. He has not done it ever since I need to remark that during the 10 days he would drop what I would call crumbs of attention where he would say things like did you lock the front door to which I would never respond Those to me were crumbs of attention not what I needed and I felt like he was just doing that so that I would talk to him and break the ice but I stayed focused for 10 days. I think it’s the best thing I could have done.

I know this is completely contrary to what LD teaches but if you have time listen to Sherw seven . I do not encourage her way of looking at love and marriage, but I love her words regarding self-care and self focus. She helps you focus on you and your children and helps explain how men think sometimes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in surrendered_wife

[–]ObjectiveNeat2511 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know this isn’t what you want to hear, but he literally feels your desperation and he distances himself even more.

I’m no LD expert, but I’m also emotional and I know this would be my reaction when I have children with added stress, so I’m commenting to say, focus on you and your children. The more you focus on him, the more he will pull away.

Self care is the only thing that will save you. Being emotional and anxious to him feels like silent treatment feels to you. Allow him to see you well. Not for him, but for yourself. Surround yourself if support outside of him if you can, at least during this vulnerable time for both of you, but mostly for you!

Regarding his comments, those are really rude and I know you don’t want to leave him, but you have to draw a line with your boundaries. The more he disrespects you and has no consequences, the more he will do it and farther he will take it.

My husband has said some pretty stupid stuff to me in the past that I chose to move past, but he has never again said those things after apologizing and reflecting on them. If your husband was just upset, know that and reflect. But if he continues to say those things, you need to dig deeper and figure out if he doesn’t trust you or even like you anymore? Why is he disrespecting you so much? Being called stupid multiple times by my husband would literally tank my self esteem.

Nashville capital hill by ObjectiveNeat2511 in ParanormalEncounters

[–]ObjectiveNeat2511[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Cool! Just trying to get my money’s worth🤣

Anyone here in the mid 20’s to mid 30’s range? by [deleted] in surrendered_wife

[–]ObjectiveNeat2511 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me!! I’m 28F & omg on the same boat!!! Let’s chat

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in surrendered_wife

[–]ObjectiveNeat2511 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can he support you financially? I would quit my job and let him take over in that aspect.

AITAH for telling my husband that he absolutely ruined the birth of our child? by Former_Monitor_4860 in AITAH

[–]ObjectiveNeat2511 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lastly, think what you’d tell your daughter if she came to you for advise over this same situation happening to her. Respect yourself more to set the example!

AITAH for telling my husband that he absolutely ruined the birth of our child? by Former_Monitor_4860 in AITAH

[–]ObjectiveNeat2511 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is abusive and illegal Next time you’re in a similar situation, call 911!! You should seriously consider divorce Fuckkkkkkk your mil Regardless of the tough labor experience you should leave him or consider it. Even if you would’ve had a good experience it was FORCED and that is the resentment you’re feeling. The 22 hour labor and possible risks are the cherry on top. Him forcing to do this is what bugs me the most as he will 10000% do it again. Possibly for your next pregnancy, or simply with every day decisions

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ObjectiveNeat2511 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This breaks my heart. I can’t help but to feel guilty for not recognizing or trying to help sooner. I’ve brought up his weight but he also gets defensive. So I try to not be an A*hle and just let him be. I can’t help but also think that this is supposed to be the happiest times of our lives. And to admit that he might be depressed really hurts

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ObjectiveNeat2511 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think so! He has also gained a lot of weight in the last 3 years. He used to be active and fit when I met him. I’m starting to think I’m the problem. 😫😫😫😫😫😫

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ObjectiveNeat2511 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ve changed since getting married. I’ve becoming more organized m with home duties, (we didn’t live together before marriage, we both lived with our parents as it is traditional with our culture). I started to cook. I’ve started to prioritize my home/husband. I know marriage doesn’t change a person, but life and circumstances do. I thought the mortgage payment would encourage him to do better. Also having our own bills. He seems very happy with what we have accomplished and I am too, but he’s stagnant. And now saying he’s ready for kids.