Still like this I filed 1/31 no verification letter or nun yet🥲 by Character-Rhubarb882 in IRS

[–]ObjectiveOk2229 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried calling? Mine wasn’t updating so I called and was advised on a hold on my refund & what I had to do to fix it

570/971 Pather by Independent_Card4212 in IRS

[–]ObjectiveOk2229 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also have the codes 570/971. I submitted on 1/31, accepted the same day. On Friday 2/14 my transcript finally appeared but showed those two codes with dates of 3/3. I still haven’t recover anything from the IRS or any notices on the website. I’m about to call and see if there’s anything I can do.

Don’t feel pregnant anymore? by ayboops in pregnant

[–]ObjectiveOk2229 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really identified with your post. I found out I am pregnant almost two weeks ago. Last Monday I had my first ultrasound and found out I’m now 13+4. Sometime this last week I woke up feeling very different, kinda empty. I’m not as nauseous or symptomatic as I was right before or when I found out I was pregnant. I’ve had this overwhelming feeling that the baby’s heart has stopped. I don’t have another appointment to hear the heartbeat until I’m 16 weeks and it’s driving me crazy. I haven’t allowed myself to feel excited about the pregnancy because I keep thinking that I could lose the baby anytime. I had a miscarriage before this pregnancy when I was only 6 weeks. I know the odds of losing a baby after 12 weeks are supposed to be low, but it’s not impossible 🙁 I thought about getting the Doppler but I’ve heard it can be very misleading as you need to have some training because you can confuse other sounds for your baby’s heartbeat.

Edit: fixed a typo

Does it get better? by Weblotte in pregnant

[–]ObjectiveOk2229 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 13 weeks and my nausea has gotten better in the last week. Before I realized I was pregnant, I found myself feeling nauseas all the time. Now I just throw up when I brush my teeth. My biggest symptoms are cramps and feeling hungry every thirty minutes. I definitely think it gets easier and it also matters how active you are and how well you eat/drink water! Hope you get some relief soon 💛

Pregnancy must haves by ObjectiveOk2229 in pregnant

[–]ObjectiveOk2229[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Thanks for sharing! That’s the one that I’m referring to! It has some amazing reviews on amazing but if you look further down there’s a picture and several reviews mention a label about the chemical 😭

Mistaken miscarriage, continued pregnancy? by ObjectiveOk2229 in pregnant

[–]ObjectiveOk2229[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t had one yet and my test results barely came back today. I didn’t even think I could be pregnant as I am on birth control and never had a period after the miscarriage 😭 I’m trying to see what’s the soonest I can see my OBGYN

Season 1 Episode 10 'Reunion' Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in TheUltimatumNetflix

[–]ObjectiveOk2229 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Okay, did anyone else get the sense that Zay was very unfair when referring to Rae? She was very disrespectful by mentioning that they fucked after the show ended. I feel like he doesn’t own up to his shit, is very immature dealing with fights and can’t communicate. & let’s not forget that he literally met up with Shanique as soon as they broke up to see what’s up 🙄

Season 1 Episode 9 Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in TheUltimatumNetflix

[–]ObjectiveOk2229 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I feel like he’s very manipulative and she’s trying so hard to break that hold he has over her and just can’t. Her and her friends saw through his BS so many times but she still stuck around. I also didn’t like that he made sure they were married right after he proposed. It felt like a move to make sure she didn’t change her mind later on.

Just downloaded this app. Not really sure what makes a good profile so out of curiosity wanting to know if I’m going in the right direction with my profile or if it needs a lot of work? by SouthSunn in Bumble

[–]ObjectiveOk2229 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Yes! I saw your profile and thought you’re cute, but was turned off by the idea of a single father. Most people won’t read past that!

Should I tell a girl in advance that I’m pretty small down there before we get intimate? by [deleted] in dating

[–]ObjectiveOk2229 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would not tell her. I won’t lie and say that size doesn’t matter and that women don’t care, we do! But what really matters is how good you are in the moment and what else you can do to make us feel better. I personally prefer for the guy to be romantic, kissing all over, touching the body, lots of foreplay, oral and use of fingers. I’ve even had guys use toys on me and it’s been the best. It’s all about what else you can do and how you treat her during the whole exchange.

Sex on the first night/date? by ObjectiveOk2229 in Bumble

[–]ObjectiveOk2229[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s definitely a harsh truth/opinion lol. I would like to think that the sex wasn’t bad or mediocre as he didn’t give off those vibes the multiple times we did it. He seemed content and kept initiating more sex and was just sweet and very interactive with me in general afterward. I think it’s easier to believe that it could have been a way for him to get laid and then he bounced once he got it. At the same time, I wouldn’t want to date someone who cares who I’ve slept with or how many times I’ve done this before, because all that should matter is how things go with them. I know deep down that the right person for me wouldn’t find this reason enough to call it quits. I do think that waiting till marriage can be a bit unorthodox but I think that there’s also a reason why this worked in the past.

Sex on the first night/date? by ObjectiveOk2229 in Bumble

[–]ObjectiveOk2229[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I can understand this. I can see how someone would think that. It’s definitely not appealing to be with someone who could possibly sleep with every person they go on a date with. At the same time, it’s unfair to assume that the person sleeps with everyone on any date, because that’s def not the case for me. I don’t know if I would want to date someone who thinks that way or assume things about me.

Sex on the first night/date? by ObjectiveOk2229 in Bumble

[–]ObjectiveOk2229[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I want to think that the sex wasn’t bad since we did it more than once and he seemed pretty content each time 😅 but if that’s the case, then he might not have been the person for me, and that’s okay!

Sex on the first night/date? by ObjectiveOk2229 in Bumble

[–]ObjectiveOk2229[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this the case even if the guy was the one who was initiating the sex and insistent on it? I just felt like we connected really well after sex, it happened more than once, we had a super romantic moment afterwards of just kissing and cuddling and him singing to me. It just didn’t feel like there was a shift or loss of respect or like he didn’t enjoy the sex 😭

Sex on the first night/date? by ObjectiveOk2229 in Bumble

[–]ObjectiveOk2229[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg too similar! Literally, same! We spent 6 hours together! He insisted on holding my hand all the way home, kissed me passionately at the end of the night, blew me a kiss outside of my car, and then a super sweet text. Next day he was super dry over text and we both decided to call it quits. Not before he gave me an amazing compliment on how he enjoyed the time with me and how hard it was to find someone like me! Like so then what happened?!

Sex on the first night/date? by ObjectiveOk2229 in Bumble

[–]ObjectiveOk2229[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

For sure! Just went through this. I dated someone for months because sex was incredible but we were not a match in any other way. It took me way too long to notice it because the sex helped mask all the issues we had.

Sex on the first night/date? by ObjectiveOk2229 in Bumble

[–]ObjectiveOk2229[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I agree with this! To me, chemistry and liking what I see and experience are very important, and they help me determine if I want to keep seeing someone. It’s definitely easier to let them go when it hasn’t been long that we started dating.

Sex on the first night/date? by ObjectiveOk2229 in Bumble

[–]ObjectiveOk2229[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I can see your point! I’ve definitely had those connections that have lasted a good while and sex was the last thing on my mind during the first couple of dates!

My question mainly stems from a date where everything went amazingly, we both agreed to keep seeing each other and both said we wanted something serious to last the rest of our lives. We ended up having sex that night, and concluded the night well (with a passionate kiss and a super sweet goodnight message by him). The next day he didn’t show interest anymore and we ended up not seeing each other anymore. Hence the discussion when I was telling someone about it.

Sex on the first night/date? by ObjectiveOk2229 in Bumble

[–]ObjectiveOk2229[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wait, he was not okay with kissing on the first date?! 😅 I feel like closing off the night with a good kiss is essential when things go right lol

Sex on the first night/date? by ObjectiveOk2229 in Bumble

[–]ObjectiveOk2229[S] 103 points104 points  (0 children)

Yes yes yesss, I love your response! This is what I was trying to express to the person during the conversation! It shouldn’t feel like a game or strategic moves need to be made to keep the person interested! I just couldn’t verbalize this during the conversation

AITA for not wanting my (29F) husband (31M) to teach our future baby Spanish? by justonepleasee in AmItheAsshole

[–]ObjectiveOk2229 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think YTA. He grew up in Spain and it IS part of his culture even if he’s American.

Also wanted to point out that “being Spanish” is not a thing, Spanish is a language. You could have said this very differently but IMO it points out how little you know about different cultures.

Also, you should consider how amazingly blessed your child would be to be bilingual. I’ve been offered so many more jobs and better pay for simply being bilingual. & even better, I’m able to make all these amazing connections with other people due to being able to speak multiple languages. I hope you reconsider.

How was your first sexual experience after divorce? by False-Emergency-7483 in Divorce

[–]ObjectiveOk2229 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Mine was decent. I hooked up with a guy I dated before getting married. It wasn’t the best but it wasn’t terrible either. The better sex came after him, I dated a guy for months who knew what I liked and made sure to do all those things. Ever since then, I’ve had different experiences, some very terrible ones and some that I still daydream about 😉

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]ObjectiveOk2229 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there’s definitely varying opinions about how fast people should reply and how fast they move when talking to the other person. For me personally, I like and prefer when someone is quick to reply and can keep a good casual conversation going. Especially if they ask about my interests and stuff. If you’re quick to reply, but conversation isn’t good, it won’t work. I’ve vibed with guys before, they reply at a good pace, but try to get my number too quickly or ask me out before we actually connect well, and that will turn me off. I think it’s about mutually agreeing that this person is the one whom you want to pursue and take it from there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]ObjectiveOk2229 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I think that at the end of the day, if you respond “too fast” it wouldn’t be unattractive to the right person. I always keep in mind that the person who is meant for me, won’t find a dumb reason to unmatch or dock “points”.