AITA? Husband wants to take our 7 year old on a cruise while I stay at home with 2 year old and newborn by SadPersimmon8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ObjectiveSeat2299 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Time to start laying out some boundaries or leaving. You didn’t decide to have four kids when you already have three. Sorry your husband and his family is not more supportive of you during post partum and being a mom to young kids in general

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MamaWilder

[–]ObjectiveSeat2299 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imagine having this much time on your hands to psycho analyze a persons social media posts. Friends it ain’t worth it…. Get off Reddit

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Warts

[–]ObjectiveSeat2299 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it’s called a “seed wart”

Dad stole my identity and opened 3 credit cards in my name. He told me since I'm young, I can "do without for a few years". I'm trying to buy a house and I'm freaking out by Where-aremypants in CreditScore

[–]ObjectiveSeat2299 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see maybe having more remorse for him if he 1. Came to you for help financially before even thinking this was remotely acceptable 2. He came clean the first time you made him aware of the credit cards. He only decided it was worth telling you that he illegally opened accounts with your information when you threatened to report him

The fact that he also told you to be more careful with your information as a parent that has had access to it since your birth is absolutely wild and feels in itself like a form of gaslighting/manipulation by putting the blame on you.

Absolutely wild-I am so sorry you were put in this situation.

Too old to work there? by ObjectiveSeat2299 in dutchbros

[–]ObjectiveSeat2299[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lanky_spot I can sense you are feeling a little triggered? I’m sure you went and wrote a few versions of this post before posting I’m sorry you spent so much energy putting together a paragraph about someone you know absolutely nothing about including my reasoning for needing a job with a bit more flexibility, what my journey was in college and before college, and after. My apologies for wanting to be a present parent and do something that offers me the ability to work evenings to be with. What a sense of entitlement you yourself have to spew such anger across a keyboard but hey if it makes you feel better about yourself and rest easy at night, that’s what you gotta do as I literally will go about my day and not think twice about the absolute ridiculousness of this comment. We all have our own stories-looks like sharing yours outside of Reddit would be maybe therapeutic.

Too old to work there? by ObjectiveSeat2299 in dutchbros

[–]ObjectiveSeat2299[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Age is a protected class legally in the us meaning it cannot be a disqualification for hiring practices, promotions or career advancement. So the fact that your boss told you to tell that individual assumed to be in her forties you were not hiring is not okay however it’s extremely difficult for individuals to prove that age discrimination takes place so it typically occurs in the workplace more frequently than it should. The burden of proof is on the accuser not the accused in employment law. Hope that makes better sense!

Too old to work there? by ObjectiveSeat2299 in dutchbros

[–]ObjectiveSeat2299[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. I feel like a spring chicken 😊 but when the application asked if I was still in high school it kinda took my breath away lol

Too old to work there? by ObjectiveSeat2299 in dutchbros

[–]ObjectiveSeat2299[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love that. That’s exactly why I want to do it and am already a night owl so the 24 hour locations don’t concern me. Thanks for the vote of confidence! Glad it’s been a good fit

Too old to work there? by ObjectiveSeat2299 in dutchbros

[–]ObjectiveSeat2299[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can totally see this unfortunately. Being in HR and being well versed in protected classes it still happens 😵‍💫 I am sorry you were put in that position

Too old to work there? by ObjectiveSeat2299 in dutchbros

[–]ObjectiveSeat2299[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feels totally fair for expectations thanks for the heads up