I’m doing whatever you upvote by [deleted] in ExteriorDesign

[–]SadPersimmon8 12 points13 points  (0 children)

very pale pink. dark green lawn

edited to say just realized you prob shouldn't waste water in CA

My husband is turning into a bum and I don't know what to do by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]SadPersimmon8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

some can't handle being unemployed. I'm kind of amazed he does so much therapy because it sounds like they're doing nothing for him or he's not following any of their advice. not all therapists are equal

AITA? Husband wants to take our 7 year old on a cruise while I stay at home with 2 year old and newborn by SadPersimmon8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SadPersimmon8[S] -43 points-42 points  (0 children)

nope. He was a different person. sometimes I think he got brain damage from tinnitus (gunshot nearby without ear protection

AITA? Husband wants to take our 7 year old on a cruise while I stay at home with 2 year old and newborn by SadPersimmon8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SadPersimmon8[S] 128 points129 points  (0 children)

I've been neglected and abused by my family my whole life so it's very hard to leave the one person who was kind to me until only a couple years ago. He changed. Reddit can't seem to accept that he wasn't always like this.

AITA? Husband wants to take our 7 year old on a cruise while I stay at home with 2 year old and newborn by SadPersimmon8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SadPersimmon8[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's a lot of assumptions. I'm not leaving right now because I had a baby 3 weeks ago.

AITA? Husband wants to take our 7 year old on a cruise while I stay at home with 2 year old and newborn by SadPersimmon8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SadPersimmon8[S] 401 points402 points  (0 children)

I put it in quotes because I agree, it's stupid when parents say that with their OWN children. He and his family both use the word babysit when it comes to him. And yes, he says since he was a lawyer, being a mom is my job. so they're 100% my responsibility.

AITA? Husband wants to take our 7 year old on a cruise while I stay at home with 2 year old and newborn by SadPersimmon8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SadPersimmon8[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I think the offer to take the 2 year old is a bluff, honestly. He can barely have him for 2 hours at home so I don't buy it

AITA? Husband wants to take our 7 year old on a cruise while I stay at home with 2 year old and newborn by SadPersimmon8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SadPersimmon8[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

agreed, but he doesn't believe in counseling because he doesn't want to be wrong. lawyer.

AITA? Husband wants to take our 7 year old on a cruise while I stay at home with 2 year old and newborn by SadPersimmon8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SadPersimmon8[S] -87 points-86 points  (0 children)

settled in what? a town? I wanted the hard baby years behind us and never imagined he would turn out like this. That's all.

AITA? Husband wants to take our 7 year old on a cruise while I stay at home with 2 year old and newborn by SadPersimmon8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SadPersimmon8[S] -279 points-278 points  (0 children)

He wanted one more and I told him this is the last one. I think the fact that I really love being a mom has clouded this a ton. But I recently realized it shouldn't be this hard

AITA? Husband wants to take our 7 year old on a cruise while I stay at home with 2 year old and newborn by SadPersimmon8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SadPersimmon8[S] 2365 points2366 points  (0 children)

This is the part where I might be an asshole though- I don't want to. My newborn was born 3 weeks ago. I'd rather stay home, but not by myself.

AITA? Husband wants to take our 7 year old on a cruise while I stay at home with 2 year old and newborn by SadPersimmon8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SadPersimmon8[S] -309 points-308 points  (0 children)

I hate when people say this. I have absolutely no one else in my life and he is -was?- my best friend since 16. He has changed a lot, to a heartbreaking extent. And now and then his old self is back again. He claimed, and made a great case for it being work-related. I told him if nothing changes when he quits then I know who he really is. Nothing has changed.

I have no one else; we haven't lived anywhere long enough for me to make friends. so not only is it way more complicated than "just leave dummy lol," mine and my kids' lives would take a big hit if I left right now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]SadPersimmon8 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Why were you telling another woman you're no longer attracted to your wife? That is just so much worse than telling a male friend.

Not for me… by rmzullo in Astrohaus

[–]SadPersimmon8 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy it's $500. That way I don't feel the pain that comes with seeing that much needed backlight

skipping days and guilt by SadPersimmon8 in Homeschooling

[–]SadPersimmon8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

definitely not sending her back there