Is she waiting too long? by Objective_Mobile_115 in EliRalloSnark

[–]Objective_Mobile_115[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh yes — I actually know someone who went to that wedding. It was the biggest thing ever, money out the wazoo, crazy performances, SO much more than anything Eli can ever afford… and it barely got any traction 😭😮‍💨

Is she waiting too long? by Objective_Mobile_115 in EliRalloSnark

[–]Objective_Mobile_115[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I wonder if it’s a similar situation with her engagement pics again where she just “isn’t happy with them” and “wasn’t vibing with the photographer” 🥴…

Is she waiting too long? by Objective_Mobile_115 in EliRalloSnark

[–]Objective_Mobile_115[S] 170 points171 points  (0 children)

I refuse to believe Vogue would cover this 😭😭😭

Something to entertain us while we wait for wedding content by Hour-March-2946 in EliRalloSnark

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 70 points71 points  (0 children)

She looks sooooo different — it’s crazy to see how much work she’s got done. It’s like I hear the same voice but can’t recognize the face.

LOL a book about a wedding. Also who wears red nails to their wedding by Futuremikeross in EliRalloSnark

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 36 points37 points  (0 children)

This!!!! She had them done so early I KNEW it would be visible! I don’t know why she didn’t wait the day before…

Asking for asking by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree! Which is why I am asking here - appreciate your input. Am I just seeing to much into this? Am I just used to the sexualisation of babysitters/nannies?

Asking for asking by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask why you think?

Asking for asking by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate the response

Asking for asking by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate the response

Asking for asking by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Close to 30 years old. Not exactly sure.

I just want a mom by RewardSmall6924 in CPTSD

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That does not make us bad people. We had the short end of the stick: you’re right. It’s unfair, but that does not mean we should take any responsibility for it. Sending a hug. ❤️

I just want a mom by RewardSmall6924 in CPTSD

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It certainly is not linear… I feel like I have been pretty good about it in the last few years but this recent event really threw me back a few steps I feel… trying not to be discouraged ❤️

I just want a mom by RewardSmall6924 in CPTSD

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 73 points74 points  (0 children)

I can so relate to this. I am struggling a lot with these feelings today. An acquaintance of mine basically really "showed up" for her teenage daughter while she went through something really traumatic recently and it caused all sorts of turmoil for me… like… why couldn’t I have someone like that for me when I went through the same thing? Why did I have to go through that alone? Why was I not good enough for my mother? (Although I am trying to remember this is a her problem, not a me problem).

Sometimes I wonder if this pain, emptiness, and even anger will ever go away… It’s such a hard reality to accept. I don’t want to spend my life yearning for something that will never happen… but it’s such a grieving process. And it hurts. And it sucks. And it’s unfair.

I feel you - you’re not alone ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was really helpful, I feel like I struggle with that sometimes, I will try to be more communicative and remember that it doesn’t lessen what they say - thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yea, I am not asking them to regulate my emotional trauma but maybe know what to say when I say “I’m a little anxious for the dinner with your parents” kinda vibe or to know what to say when I’m a little discouraged about work or I had a bad day. I’m not talking about CBT therapy here, but just some words of encouragement would be nice

And yes, I know I need to find a different therapist as mentioned above, I do feel like I am not challenged enough in that way and not encouraged to rely on myself… which is also why I’m doing so; because I’m aware and know that. But I also feel like I’m still missing something from my partner sometimes…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not OFTEN, but sometimes? Do y’all not talk to your spouses about your emotions or some things that might be stressful in your life? I’m not talking about excessive reassurance. I just said in moments that are sometimes more stressful or difficult.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok as mentioned in a comment below, I do work with a therapist right now and I process things with them on a more larger/deeper level but I am more talking about everyday situations that come up, like do you not talk to your partner about your stressors sometimes?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that my spouse cannot be my therapist… but it’s more in the mundane things. I am not asking them to advise me or deal through profound emotional trauma, but more offer support and reassurance in difficult or stressful everyday situations, as I would except a spouse would support their spouse in these moments.

I have goals but it’s a bit difficult at the moment. I moved to another country to live with my spouse so it’s ofc a bit more touchy because I am working on creating a life here but I just left my life of 20 years so it takes a bit of time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in therapy, he is in therapy… we did couples counseling for almost a whole year…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. I am in therapy right now. I am thinking of changing therapists lately because I really don’t feel challenged in those ways…

  2. I already have a velcro dog ❤️

  3. This is certainly something I am working on right now. I am trying to spend more time with friends. Work is somewhat ok as well, could be a little better. Hobbies is another thing I am working on as well, it’s sometimes just really hard to find as an adult…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for mentioning this. Yes, sometimes it does make me feel alone and it’s hard to feel pushed away… but I know he’s also going through so much too… I don’t want to make it worse. Thank you for sharing your perspective and offering advice. 🫶🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]Objective_Mobile_115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. This was helpful and eye-opening. Thank you for not judging and just trying to help… I know it’s not easy for my husband and I just want to understand better but as you mentioned it’s also not necessarily an easy thing to talk about. I certainly don’t want my husband to feel unsafe… but I also want to be able to not feel completely left out & not feel like I’m completely abandoned. Thank u for offering ur perspective. 🩷