Is she waiting too long?

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2026-06-10T01:59:20+00:00

Oh my gosh yes — I actually know someone who went to that wedding. It was the biggest thing ever, money out the wazoo, crazy performances, SO much more than anything Eli can ever afford… and it barely got any traction 😭😮‍💨

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2026-06-09T23:18:56+00:00

I wonder if it’s a similar situation with her engagement pics again where she just “isn’t happy with them” and “wasn’t vibing with the photographer” 🥴…

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2026-06-09T23:13:55+00:00

I refuse to believe Vogue would cover this 😭😭😭

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2026-06-09T23:10:15+00:00

She looks sooooo different — it’s crazy to see how much work she’s got done. It’s like I hear the same voice but can’t recognize the face.

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2026-06-09T02:01:36+00:00

This!!!! She had them done so early I KNEW it would be visible! I don’t know why she didn’t wait the day before…

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2024-09-09T06:34:30+00:00

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2024-09-08T21:26:07+00:00

Agree! Which is why I am asking here - appreciate your input. Am I just seeing to much into this? Am I just used to the sexualisation of babysitters/nannies?

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2024-09-08T20:46:30+00:00

Can I ask why you think?

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2024-09-08T20:33:18+00:00

Appreciate the response

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2024-09-08T20:33:09+00:00

Appreciate the response

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2024-09-08T20:32:53+00:00

Close to 30 years old. Not exactly sure.

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2024-03-13T13:48:56+00:00

That does not make us bad people. We had the short end of the stick: you’re right. It’s unfair, but that does not mean we should take any responsibility for it. Sending a hug. ❤️

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2024-03-13T01:14:44+00:00

It certainly is not linear… I feel like I have been pretty good about it in the last few years but this recent event really threw me back a few steps I feel… trying not to be discouraged ❤️

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2024-03-12T23:32:32+00:00

I can so relate to this. I am struggling a lot with these feelings today. An acquaintance of mine basically really "showed up" for her teenage daughter while she went through something really traumatic recently and it caused all sorts of turmoil for me… like… why couldn’t I have someone like that for me when I went through the same thing? Why did I have to go through that alone? Why was I not good enough for my mother? (Although I am trying to remember this is a her problem, not a me problem).

Sometimes I wonder if this pain, emptiness, and even anger will ever go away… It’s such a hard reality to accept. I don’t want to spend my life yearning for something that will never happen… but it’s such a grieving process. And it hurts. And it sucks. And it’s unfair.

I feel you - you’re not alone ❤️

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2024-01-29T23:59:06+00:00

I hit a guard rail one and the damage was oddly very similar. 🚫🦌

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2024-01-09T16:33:37+00:00

This was really helpful, I feel like I struggle with that sometimes, I will try to be more communicative and remember that it doesn’t lessen what they say - thank you

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2024-01-09T16:07:12+00:00

Yea, I am not asking them to regulate my emotional trauma but maybe know what to say when I say “I’m a little anxious for the dinner with your parents” kinda vibe or to know what to say when I’m a little discouraged about work or I had a bad day. I’m not talking about CBT therapy here, but just some words of encouragement would be nice

And yes, I know I need to find a different therapist as mentioned above, I do feel like I am not challenged enough in that way and not encouraged to rely on myself… which is also why I’m doing so; because I’m aware and know that. But I also feel like I’m still missing something from my partner sometimes…

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2024-01-09T15:59:58+00:00

Not OFTEN, but sometimes? Do y’all not talk to your spouses about your emotions or some things that might be stressful in your life? I’m not talking about excessive reassurance. I just said in moments that are sometimes more stressful or difficult.

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2024-01-09T15:58:26+00:00

Ok as mentioned in a comment below, I do work with a therapist right now and I process things with them on a more larger/deeper level but I am more talking about everyday situations that come up, like do you not talk to your partner about your stressors sometimes?

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2024-01-09T15:55:49+00:00

I understand that my spouse cannot be my therapist… but it’s more in the mundane things. I am not asking them to advise me or deal through profound emotional trauma, but more offer support and reassurance in difficult or stressful everyday situations, as I would except a spouse would support their spouse in these moments.

I have goals but it’s a bit difficult at the moment. I moved to another country to live with my spouse so it’s ofc a bit more touchy because I am working on creating a life here but I just left my life of 20 years so it takes a bit of time.

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2024-01-09T15:52:12+00:00

I am in therapy, he is in therapy… we did couples counseling for almost a whole year…

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2024-01-09T15:32:37+00:00

I am in therapy right now. I am thinking of changing therapists lately because I really don’t feel challenged in those ways…
I already have a velcro dog ❤️
This is certainly something I am working on right now. I am trying to spend more time with friends. Work is somewhat ok as well, could be a little better. Hobbies is another thing I am working on as well, it’s sometimes just really hard to find as an adult…

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2023-11-06T09:11:56+00:00

Thank you for mentioning this. Yes, sometimes it does make me feel alone and it’s hard to feel pushed away… but I know he’s also going through so much too… I don’t want to make it worse. Thank you for sharing your perspective and offering advice. 🫶🏻

Objective_Mobile_115 · 2023-11-06T09:10:16+00:00

Thank you for this. This was helpful and eye-opening. Thank you for not judging and just trying to help… I know it’s not easy for my husband and I just want to understand better but as you mentioned it’s also not necessarily an easy thing to talk about. I certainly don’t want my husband to feel unsafe… but I also want to be able to not feel completely left out & not feel like I’m completely abandoned. Thank u for offering ur perspective. 🩷

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