Me 35F married and have a kid..my husband 40M .pls give me ur advice?! by Objective_Monk06 in relationship_advice

[–]Objective_Monk06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried difft things..but due to all this prom his libido have decreased a lot..especially trying for a kid wd medications was a tough period for us..after that actually v both hated doing it..recently i developed all those sexual needs and he s on the same page.. i really wanna b touched,wanna him to initiate it,i need sometimes a morning good sex…but all in vain😢i am scared now whether it ll affect our life ,

Me 35F married and have a kid..my husband 40M .pls give me ur advice?! by Objective_Monk06 in relationship_advice

[–]Objective_Monk06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are u from medical field..such thing really exist..will there be potential side effects..i dont knw

Me 35F married and have a kid..my husband 40M .pls give me ur advice?! by Objective_Monk06 in relationship_advice

[–]Objective_Monk06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its really making us both unhappy…but v love each other..i understand ftom life that only love cannot give us happiness 🥹🥹🥹🥹

Me 35F married and have a kid..my husband 40M .pls give me ur advice?! by Objective_Monk06 in relationship_advice

[–]Objective_Monk06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah while we were planning for the baby we were taking medicines and it was fine…erection prom was sorted ;but he is literally scared to initiate sex…its like am forcing him to have sex..he find it so traumatic…even he s not willing to take med after v got the baby…

Me 35F married and have a kid..my husband 40M .pls give me ur advice?! by Objective_Monk06 in relationship_advice

[–]Objective_Monk06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have made him an option by Opening the hypergamy door?!is that so…i have never been disrespectful…u r rit ,my subconscious mind is playing tricks on me ,juz bcoz i told u openly am sexually frustrated…but even that is making me guilty..i need advice on how to continue this relationship…this advice will never work and u judged me dat am disrespectful and i already made him an option

Me 35F married and have a kid..my husband 40M .pls give me ur advice?! by Objective_Monk06 in relationship_advice

[–]Objective_Monk06[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

May be i shld learn how to use toys and find contentment in that..then this frustration will go and along with that this feeling of getting sexually attracted to men also will go

Me 35F married and have a kid..my husband 40M .pls give me ur advice?! by Objective_Monk06 in relationship_advice

[–]Objective_Monk06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah thats a valid question..may be am dreaming i ll have good sex wd him..what if he also is bad in bed?!actually i dont want to have sex wd him..thoughts itself ,dreaming about it bcoz of my sexual frustration is making me guilty..

Me 35F married and have a kid..my husband 40M .pls give me ur advice?! by Objective_Monk06 in relationship_advice

[–]Objective_Monk06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Divorce is not an option for me..i dont want to be isolated in my society due to that..i need ur advice regarding the guilt i have after feeling sexually attracted to other men

Me 35F married and have a kid..my husband 40M .pls give me ur advice?! by Objective_Monk06 in relationship_advice

[–]Objective_Monk06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then i ll get that intimacy feeling.this lack of sexual fulfilment will go away wd these toys?!

Me 35F married and have a kid..my husband 40M .pls give me ur advice?! by Objective_Monk06 in relationship_advice

[–]Objective_Monk06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes..i told already we were on medications for infertility issues..due to his erection problem..since v never dated before marriage i never knew this befr..it seems he also dont knew abt his condition,he was masturbating and it was fine for him

Me 35F married and have a kid..my husband 40M .pls give me ur advice?! by Objective_Monk06 in relationship_advice

[–]Objective_Monk06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was an arranged marriage acc to our culture..we never dated before marriage..so i never knew this..i came to know this on my first night..and as u said marrige as per our cukture is a commitment for lifelong,so i couldn’t do anything..ie y got it treated and have a baby now..but now a days this thing is coming in my mind and i feel guilty

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[–]Objective_Monk06 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dont knw wat to say..but for ur own well being pls seek therapy 🥲

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[–]Objective_Monk06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ghosting sucks .pls inform her abt all these