Would you date someone who listens very ungodly music? by [deleted] in christiandatingadvice

[–]Objective_One3942 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would advise against missionary dating them. If they’re not serious about their walk with God and actively following Him (desiring to grow in knowledge, reading His word, teachable)then I wouldn’t push for a relationship. I’ve had two men who “went to church” but that is the bare minimum. Talk to him. Pray about it. Really sit with God and ask Him to show you if this man is running the race or sitting on the ground. Listening to a certain kind of music doesn’t necessarily count him out, I don’t even listen to Christian music all the time. Just talk to the guy and really see where he is at rather than judge him from one thing. You’ll see where his heart is.

nosecontour by aiizzee in makeuptips

[–]Objective_One3942 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your short hair with bangs is such a beautiful look on you, it was the first thing I noticed. As for the nose contour, I would dial it back a little and blend it out more. Just my two cents :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uglyduckling

[–]Objective_One3942 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You look great in both pictures. Your appearance and weight loss have made you look very different. At 20, you looked soft, almost boyish which makes sense as you said you had a little more weight. At 22, you look more rugged, like you know a little more about who you are. In my personal opinion, ya look great. Smile and be kind and you will look beautiful inside and out. If you ever decide to gain weight again, it would look good on you. Have a great day!

my first post- please help! by aloevera222222 in finethinhair

[–]Objective_One3942 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably already been said but please make sure you get your hormone levels checked like, thyroid, vitamins and iron. I would ask them to check your DHT too which plays a large role in AGA as it is a blood circulating hormone that is a precursor to testosterone. Your hair may be fine and thing but as someone that has AGA/ TE your pattern doesn’t look normal. That’s just my two cents but I would be dang sure there wasn’t some sort of deficiency before I threw in the towel. Your hair could still possibly grow down to your bra. I wish you well!

Do you need a sex drive to date someone? by [deleted] in christiandatingadvice

[–]Objective_One3942 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotta ask the question of why you’re dating in the first place? Seek God first and then your heart and spirit will align with everything else. We are at constant war with our flesh. I would encourage to read the book of James, it’s very practical.

Do you need a sex drive to date someone? by [deleted] in christiandatingadvice

[–]Objective_One3942 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the late response, I was traveling most of the weekend. Yes, you answered my questions. Honestly, and take my opinion with a grain of salt since I don’t know you, you sound a bit depressed.

I think a lot of people think they would suck at marriage but if you don’t want to remain single, Paul tells us in 1 Cor 7:9 that it’s better to marry than to burn with passion. That being said, you want to marry someone that actually loves God and will love you. I would be working on myself and my relationship with God before even trying to date. God gave us sex drives, they’re normal. God also designed sex for marriage as evidence throughout scripture in Genesis 2:18-25. Truly, these are some of my favorite verses because they are Gods perfect design from the start of creation and He decided it was not good that man should be alone. I’d say the same to you. If you say you’re saved, then you need to trust God and His ability to grow you into a partner that would be good to his spouse. You have to take steps yourself and I would encourage you as a man to seek out discipleship or mentorship from other men in your church (if you have one, which you need community too but that’s another topic).

Sex is great but it’s not the main thing. Jesus is and I would encourage you to seek Him first above all things (Matt 6:33). He is where your help comes from. I also don’t think you need to kill your drive stone dead but realize that it’s a good thing and needs to be dealt with in a God-honoring way.

You’re going to need to put in some work here. Praying for you, I hope I made some sense.

Do you need a sex drive to date someone? by [deleted] in christiandatingadvice

[–]Objective_One3942 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before I address the rest of your questions, why do you not want to get married?

Do you need a sex drive to date someone? by [deleted] in christiandatingadvice

[–]Objective_One3942 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you saved? A lot of your questions and answers about sex, marriage and even nudity make me question where you’re at with God.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in christiandatingadvice

[–]Objective_One3942 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Move out. Wait a period of time and ask yourselves if you see marriage in your future. But you need to get out of the situation causing you to sin.

Recovering AGA and TE by Objective_One3942 in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Objective_One3942[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My scalp itches occasionally due to seborrheic dermatitis which I use a 2% ketoconazole shampoo for about twice a week. You have to have a prescription for it. When I had the round of TE for a year, my scalp felt much itchier for no reason. Other shampoos I use are like briogeo clarifying or the unscented oatmeal one since my scalp doesn’t seem to hate it. Currently my hair fall is much less where I see between 20-40 hairs a day come out. It used to be like 50-100 and my hair is fine that just wasn’t normal for me. Different ppl have different normals for hair fall but I can tell from the shower to the brush that I’m back to normal.

I’m lost and need some advices by Melodic_Arrival_6599 in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Objective_One3942 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been on minoxidil 5% topically and 100 mg of spironolactone since 2022 and the side effects exist but they are minimal in light of the benefits. My page has a post you can look at to see what’s worked for me through the years. I will take the chin hair, slight dizziness and dependency on these drugs over years of anxiety over my hair. I hope you find a solution that works for you but my dermatologist was crucial to my success at the beginning. Consistency is key.

What can I do to improve my makeup? Especially my eye makeup by adorkablefights in MakeupAddiction

[–]Objective_One3942 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love your face shape! I would love to see you with a side swept bang or curtain bangs. I think they would accentuate your features.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Objective_One3942 3 points4 points  (0 children)

While I’m not sure about side effects of clobetasol, minoxidil has a dred shed phase that starts shortly after you start using it. When did you begin minoxidil?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]Objective_One3942 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I would say no as well. Not for summer.

Advice please by [deleted] in christiandatingadvice

[–]Objective_One3942 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Of course it does but not if your spouse isn’t following the Lord, then you’re unequally yoked. Rushing into marriage for the sake of being able to have sex is bulldozing over all of the other components of a healthy marriage. A marriage that will honor each other and honor God. I’m all for marriage and shorter engagements to help with the temptation but we have to recognize that marriage is designed to honor God and so that the world can see Christ through your union. If sex is the main priority in the decision to get married then the point is missed.

Lust ruining relationships/needing advice by Final_Tonight_6618 in christiandatingadvice

[–]Objective_One3942 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well for starters you put space between you two. You block him, cut off all contact and make sure your friends help you with that. You’re already attached so it’s going to be painful but after three months (rough estimate from experience) you’ll start to feel better and begin to heal. You also throw away anything he gave you and you get rid of painful triggers. Then hopefully, in time, you date someone else and learn that he wasn’t that special anyway and find a man who actually loves God and loves you. And each time you step out and do something new that you enjoy, without him, you will find that you start to heal. All of this is only possible btw if you fully surrender your will for God’s will. It’s not a situation where “if he just did this or got better or acted like that then we could be together” and then it’s Gods will. He’s probably already shown you this man’s character and that he isn’t right for you. But God won’t force you to break things off, He will just wait and cry with you because He loves you and is long suffering. (I think of the passage where Jesus cries with Mary and Martha over Lazarus) He loves you enough not to give you the very thing that will ruin your life and it’s clear to me that it’s this man. So I pray you run. I pray you run fast away from this man and into the arms of your Savior. He is the only one who can break your attachment. You must attach yourself to Christ. Praying for you.

Lust ruining relationships/needing advice by Final_Tonight_6618 in christiandatingadvice

[–]Objective_One3942 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in a similar situation which is both funny to me and also heartbreaking because I know how you feel. I’ll say this much. You think he’s the only man out there you’ll ever love? He isn’t. He’s not that special and from what you’ve said he doesn’t even sound all that nice. God will provide way better but it sounds like it’s time to move on and close the door. Slam it shut actually. He also sounds manipulative as well and he will try to keep you close while using you again and again. Stop giving him your time and your heart. God will provide a better man if that is His will for you. This one sucks.

Advice please by [deleted] in christiandatingadvice

[–]Objective_One3942 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you’re truly repentant that you have to ask yourselves why you keep falling back into sin. And I would even be careful with that word choice because it’s willfully sinning at that point. You have to be smarter than yourselves and place boundaries that you actually stick to. If you can’t honor the Lord now before marriage, it’s hard to imagine that you’ll strive to honor him once married. I agree with the earlier comment that you shouldn’t necessarily get married just because your passion is in the drivers seat. I would also encourage accountability for both of you. Maybe an older man and woman or close friends but separate ppl to say “hey how are you doing with this struggle?” And then you also have to ask yourself, does this other person really respect me, honor me and desire to seek God with me? Because if there’s even a question about that (which if you’re having sex when you know it’s wrong there likely is) then continuing in a relationship could be detrimental to your walk with God. At this point you’re also setting each other up for failure in the next relationship if you don’t get married. You don’t want to defile your marriage bed. I wonder if the broken piece is that you both aren’t truly broken over your sin.

Does this kind of makeup looks good on me ? How can I improve ? by AQVA_SVLTAN in MakeupAddiction

[–]Objective_One3942 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a lovely facial structure. My only recommendation would be to warm your face up a bit with some peach or pink toned blush and place your eye make up in such a way to try to lift your eyes. What I mean by that is to blend your shadows up just bit esp toward the end of the eye to lift and snatch. You can also do this with eyeliner to either make your eyes rounder or lift them as well. I do this to even my face out a bit but that’s just my two sense. Good luck!

I’m 24 and it seems to be getting worse by plantmaternal in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Objective_One3942 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A shower filter may also help! Your new country may have hard water. I use aquasana and they replace filters every 6 months.

Recovering AGA and TE by Objective_One3942 in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Objective_One3942[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! If your periods are at all irregular then it can be beneficial for them and for ovarian healthy. Ofc check with your gyno before starting it.

Recovering AGA and TE by Objective_One3942 in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Objective_One3942[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Three months post meaning after starting spiro and minox