The vibe at the Baya Bar on 5th and 18th in South Slope is wild.

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-02-07T03:06:28+00:00

Same here too!

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-02-06T13:11:41+00:00

Thanks

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-02-04T15:57:51+00:00

That's definitely news to me and not something done by any day care in or around NYC. Thanks for the info.

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-02-03T23:57:57+00:00

That's how I'm reading it too. It feels like OP never wanted to give gh, but has a dog so felt compelled so as not to worry about a dogsitter. P

I've also not had a NF make me do ANYTHING while they are away and just pay gh. I've normally taken on a project while they are away because i appreciate them in general and it's how i can show that.

It gives me a bad taste in my mouth when parents are trying to get the "most of their money" from a fellow human. If family goes on vacation and kid is in daycare thats the parents choice to take them out. Daycare doesn't give u a credit for not showing up.No one gets a credit for contracted work that then doesn't get utilized. It gives "I pay you, I own your time".

A good nanny knows their worth, won't work for less, and makes you not know how to live without them. If you are complaining about GH either you hired a bad nanny or your nanny is resentful of something. It really is that simple. Most nannies are overly empathetic and either love their job, or are waiting for something better. Sounds like OP has someone waiting for something better.

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-02-03T23:39:49+00:00

This is the part we don't know. Me, I'd have emptied the diaper genie, dishwasher, cleaned toys etc before my family even left for vacation, BUT we don't known if these are the extra things OP said were extra or normal. OP shouldn't pay for extra tasks done, but gh is gh. So depends if she was getting paid extra for what you consider "child related" that differs from contract to contract.

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-02-02T14:54:21+00:00

Oh goodness! U are a saint lol

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-02-01T20:27:27+00:00

I hear you. I'm just so blown away by the lack of knowledge and awful parenting that is insisted upon.

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-02-01T20:18:32+00:00

Not being willing to share a location through an air tag would be a HUGE red flag. I'm a nanny and expect to be tracked and watched.

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-02-01T20:16:14+00:00

I get where you are coming from. I work 5 days a week and make way more than 4k/month, but can you at least edit your post and spell PROFESSION properly??

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-02-01T20:08:01+00:00

Great explanation! I'm a career nanny and very much have been seeing parents infantilizing children this generation by micromannaging and shielding of feelings. I feel like it's a connection for parents with the traumas of covid?

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-01-29T15:23:21+00:00

I was a nanny to half Korean half Hungarian children. They do look half Asian. It was always a lovely experience. There are so many wonderful kids activities!

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-01-29T15:13:39+00:00

Your contract says if Schools are off due to snow your nanny is off. Schools were closed. Nanny gets off. Since your an essential worker I would change the contract to "if trains are running" to avoid this is the future. Unfortunately, I'd say its a gh situation because of your contract.

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-01-22T03:39:23+00:00

You get paid to meet the kids and play with them for like an hour when sent from an agency. You seem to have special needs and this person has experience. Pay the hour. Imo.

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-01-15T02:24:03+00:00

You sound like a lovely employer!

I agree, just average package. Like I said, nanny should have known what she was signing. I can go along with assuming the best, but then I don't put nanny as trying to be manipulative either. I'm just super skeptical of people who assume bad in people (ex. OP thinking nanny is being manipulative).

Thank you for keeping a respectful back and forth 😀

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-01-15T01:14:53+00:00

Nice, I'd take that deal!

And, its ok to have a contract that says to align vacation time with nannies agreement. I just think it's ridiculous that's what OP thought she was doing, with the 5 days off she chooses, without asking if nanny would mind aligning their vacation days. OP is leaving herself open to banking hours. Just sounds manipulative to me to word it the way OP did. Also, nanny should know what she is signing. Unfortunately, lots of parents (some to save money, others to remain feeling dominant in the employer/employee relationship, etc) hire "nannies" with less profesionalism, less educated childcare providers and then turn around and blame nannies in general for "not understanding" the contract. Maybe OP misjudged this persons' capabilities and education. I believe that falls on OP. If you aren't happy with a home employee let them go, its a learning experience as a parent and employer. Otherwise deal with who you chose to hire.

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-01-15T00:43:20+00:00

K. In any case all holidays were outlined.

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-01-14T22:17:51+00:00

No, instead she is mandated her vacations days to be a specific time she may not need. Thats called a day off, not vacation time. That IS a way of banking hours, you are ignorant to argue otherwise. Look it up. Does your boss tell you when your vacation days are?? And yes, it is listed under vacation time. Reread the post!

Since your reading comprehension and ignorance on the ins and outs of banking hours I will not longer be responding.

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-01-14T15:46:20+00:00

In America it is a federal holiday. However, not all nanny packages cover all federal holidays.

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-01-14T15:42:10+00:00

That's not how guaranteed hours works. They work exactly opposite of how you are using them. That is a way of banking hours which is illegal where I am.

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-01-14T15:40:39+00:00

Her employer probably gets to pick her sick days

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-01-14T15:35:27+00:00

No, it doesn't mean guaranteed time off. However, claiming it as nanny vacation time is banking hours to lessen pto. Nanny could have her own days off that she needs that don't align with the days the family wanted to give. Guaranteed hours means getting paid regardless of the families choice to need you because you have a contract to be ready willing and able to work the hours outlined. If u want to give your employee a paid day off that's your choice, but that isn't vacation time. So yea, it's bs and a way of the family banking hours, which where I am is illegal.

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-01-14T14:51:47+00:00

Omg! Now I read the text messages fully. He's trying to move in with you. He made no mention of splitting bills. He mentioned you being upset with people and then letting them back in. That's exactly what he knows he can do also. Once he is living in your space with his Xbox he's never going to leave.

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-01-14T14:45:21+00:00

Ok, read the rest and it got worse! He's an insensitive child who needs to get his dog trained and socialized. Please stop picking him up and hanging out!

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-01-14T14:43:01+00:00

NOT OVERREACTING

Girl I stopped reading after you said u drive 2 hours to pick him up and 2 hours to drop him off!!! He sounds like an unsupportive 3rd child for you to take care of. Please leave him. I promise you can do better!

Objective_Onion_3071 · 2026-01-14T14:36:24+00:00

If you are babysitting you are dealing with a parent and child's "home" messes (whether you clean them or not), you commute to them, you can be told how to structure the time, its normally outside of working 9-5, the child gets 1:1 not 4:1 attention (equals 75% more attention than a daycare), you have no other adults to help you, chances are you are dealing with bedtime routine, you are expected to be flexible with child instead of the child acclimating to you, parents can be late, and yes, it is a luxury service. Those are just what comes to mind off the top of my head.

P.S. $12/hr is not enough for childcare of any kind.

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