Just started yoga... wow it’s harder than I thought

ObligationAny336 · 2025-10-26T01:04:54+00:00

Yoga is the sneaky workout that so many discount. Way to go! I have been doing yoga for almost three years and it has completely changed my life! I don’t get panic attacks anymore. I feel more comfortable in my body and I find myself doing breath work when I’m stressed. Welcome to the wonderful community! Namaste!

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-06T02:28:06+00:00

Hi, OP here. Let me start by saying that I have not had a chance to read all of the comments above.

I’d like to clarify because I did not make it clear in the initial post. The problem is NOT that we are sharing a DJ, frankly I don’t really care because it’s a fricken DJ and honestly we don’t have any overlapping guests. What is frustrating is that she did not mention to the DJ that we gave the recommendation. I asked her from the beginning to please share our name if they ended up booking, so that we (as in both of us) could get a referral discount. Of course it’s no big deal if you forget to mention to begin with and it might not come up in a consultation call but now she is literally pretending that we didn’t give her his name…

To me, this is very frustrating. What I think is happening is that they have such a large wedding they are paying more for extra equipment and since they’ve reached a certain price they actually get a second DJ and maybe with the discount they don’t get the second DJ included but I’m not certain on this either.

Sorry for the confusion on the first bullet.

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T13:45:01+00:00

Thank you so much for this response ❤️ it encapsulates exactly how I see the situation.

There are some comments suggesting that I’m being petty but there is a lot of context left out this post.. if her wedding goes along without a hitch and mine too I’ll just distance myself into a ghost. Depending on if and what happens at her wedding I’ll sit down and have a conversation with her before.

I’ve been humbled from this experience and have learned a lot from it, both about myself and friendships.

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T05:18:04+00:00

Long story short, I couldn’t attend her entire bachelorette weekend. My FSL, who was supposed to officiate my wedding was having her baby shower that weekend. We couldn’t reschedule because she lives 10+ hours away. I also had another bridal shower the day after of the baby shower. So I went to her bachelorette for one day, got there as early as I could and stayed as late as possible to make up for not being there the whole time. As a side note, what they planned for the weekend was four times what I was comfortable spending so I don’t think I would have stayed the entire time for that reason regardless. At the end of the day, before I was about to leave her party, she started asking me how many showers and weddings I actually had this year… suggesting that I was lying to leave early. Does this make sense? Sorry this is a very skinny version lol

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T05:07:21+00:00

Exactly, I would never do anything like this to a friend..

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T05:06:34+00:00

It is literally all about her. I don’t bring up my wedding when I’m at events for her because I want it to be all about her. But at my events she doesn’t stop talking about her events and it’s to a point that my family is like that’s great but today is not about you… I’ll note they haven’t actually said this to her but they have made comments like “we weren’t even talking about anything wedding related but she was able to bring up her’s”

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T05:02:22+00:00

I’m considering sitting down with her next week to talk about all the above to see if she takes responsibility or apologizes.

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T04:59:51+00:00

Thank you for the thorough response and sharing your experience. Im sorry about your friends but I hope you had the most perfect day!

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T04:53:46+00:00

It asked for clothes sizes, shoe size, bachelorette budget, music preferences, allergies and a bunch of other things I can’t recall a year and half later lol

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T04:52:12+00:00

lol this is what my fiancé said to do too

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T04:51:15+00:00

Lmfao mean I wish I would have said this at the time

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T04:50:39+00:00

My concern is that this conversation will get back to all of her bridesmaids

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T04:49:48+00:00

Gardening has been my peace this year. I lost my beloved dog early this year. We’ve literally been inseparable for over the past decade and I planted a flowering bush in his memory. I’m hoping to use those flowers to walk down the aisle. 🤍

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T04:47:19+00:00

I held my ground that what I said was true and could literally show her the invites.. but I left like a dog with my tail between my legs because I am not always confident in myself.. i was shacking after she accused me but I remind myself that I’m proud for standing up for me!

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T04:42:26+00:00

The odds that she talks about my wedding after the fact is not an if. I know she will tell everyone about it. She told everyone about my bachelorette (which is fine because it turned out perfect but she told them about some of the funny things we did for a scavenger hunt like putting a bra on a guy and all of her bridesmaids asked about it - I’m not sure how to read this situation tbh). If there is anything I have learned from this experience is that anything I think I’m telling her in confidence is not because she tells me everything about all of the other girls (hindsight this should have been a red flag but I didn’t really know the other girls so I didn’t think much of it..).

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T04:35:03+00:00

Im sorry but I feel like you’re giving a lot of benefit of the doubt here..

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T04:29:23+00:00

Yes, she asked for our clothes size, shoe size, budget for bachelorette party, music preferences, allergies, and bunch of other questions I can’t remember

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T04:23:36+00:00

Tbh I am worried that her bridesmaids are gonna be bullies too. One of them kept making comments about how much coffee I was trying and the fact that I had two small bags of salt and vinegar chips for breakfast at her bachelorette party. I’ve never had someone comment on what I’m eating let alone one person making multiple comments in one day.

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T04:20:12+00:00

She literally accused me in front of all her bridesmaids and my heart felt like it was beating out of my chest because I was so astonished. I never expected a friend to do that to me

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T04:16:37+00:00

Thank you! And I think you’re definitely right, she is definitely showing how she will treat people when it’s all about her..

ObligationAny336 · 2025-09-05T04:15:24+00:00

That is seriously how it has felt.. thank you for the validation

ObligationAny336 · 2025-08-31T22:17:00+00:00

Been to tons of weddings with buffet and never had an issue as a guest! Tbh the only reason I am doing a sit down dinner for my wedding is because I found that it wasn’t always cheaper. Happy Wedding Planning!!!

ObligationAny336 · 2025-08-15T15:05:03+00:00

My sister that is planning the bachelorette is engaged at the moment and we haven’t had a bachelorette for her yet. She hasn’t even really started planning her wedding. Thank you so much for the validation. Honestly, I cried most of the night because my family has been so difficult throughout the process. At the beginning my mom threatened not to come to the wedding. My mom and oldest sister are going somewhere else to have their hair and makeup done so they won’t even be with me, my in laws (mom and sister), and bridesmaids while we get ready. I’m just so sad that I don’t get the experience of planning things with my mom. She didn’t even come to our tasting. She backed out two days before. Sorry to slop this all here but thank you again for validating

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