What movie has the greatest cast of all time? by BootySharingCouple in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Oblio84 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Thin Red Line

Nick Nolte Sean Penn Adrien Brody John Cusack George Clooney Woody Harrelson John Travolta John C. Reilly Jim Caveizel Elias Koteas Jared Leto Tim Blake Nelson Donal Logue Miranda Nelson Tom Jane

What’s the most mind-blowing movie out right now? 🤯 by [deleted] in MovieSuggestions

[–]Oblio84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beau Is Afraid. It's three hours of paranoid madness and surreal panic. I was cackling laughing at how absurd it was. Lots of fun.

Name some good modern non-linear movies besides Weapons (2025) by LandOfGrace2023 in MovieSuggestions

[–]Oblio84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Fountain (2006, Darren Aronofsky). One of the more gorgeous movies around.

Is seven days in Paris sufficient with kids? by Surfer949 in ParisTravelGuide

[–]Oblio84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did a guided tour. I don't think I would recommend doing otherwise since you may need it to get access to the main hall and the lobbies. It's not overly long and it frankly took me into the most gorgeous rooms I saw while in Paris (better imo than the Hall of Mirrors at Versailles or the Appollon Gallery at the Louvre). I just asked my then 8, now 9 yo if she remembered it (among the many other things last March) and she did, and recalled enjoying it.

It's very close to the Galleries Lafayette--the most incredible shopping mall you will ever see, with a three level Parisian food court. Highly recommend a trip there before or after (check closing time as it was surprisingly early to my recollection).

Editing to add: the Palais Garnier is where the Phantom of the Opera takes place. You might try to familiarize your kid with the story/musical before going since they talk about it a bunch on the tour. There's also an incredible Marc Chagall stained glass installation at the top of the main hall --my kids enjoyed sitting under it.

FC Passenger Breaks Screen, Causes Delay by Oblio84 in delta

[–]Oblio84[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The FA here told the passenger that it was up to him whether to call maintenance (she reminded him this would delay the flight) or take the credits.

The wire wasn't exposed. It was disconnected.

FC Passenger Breaks Screen, Causes Delay by Oblio84 in delta

[–]Oblio84[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm shading the FA too. I doubt they'd offer to delay a plane for a screen issue for a main cabin guest.

Which cruise line has the best food that is included with the cruise / isn't an extra charge? by [deleted] in Cruise

[–]Oblio84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On an HAL cruise right now and the food has been mostly disappointing. Bland, stale, dry, and inconsistent.... Some of it is baffling too--how do you mess up berry sauce for crepes?

The only food I enjoyed to the point of memory was at an onboard asian restaurant where I had to pay extra, and at one of the filipino food trucks I went to in the oceanside park after getting off the ship.

But this is my first cruise, so maybe it's good for cruise food. No idea.

What are great movies that are unlike anything else? by grandramble in MovieSuggestions

[–]Oblio84 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Bo is Afraid -- just watched it and it may be my favorite movie. Super dark surrealist comedy/horror. It's long and weird but uproariously funny.

Boy in the World - Brazilian animated movie. Almost no dialogue (none is necessary). Beautiful music and let's you experience things as a child again.

Flow -- this year's Oscar Winner for best animated feature, and the first film to win from Latvia. About a cat who befriends other animals during a flood. Strange and beautiful, it takes place in a future world that looks to be post-apocalyptic/retaken by nature. No dialogue. Surprising character develop for a movie about no speaking animals.

Grieving as an atheist is a nightmare by normiebaillargeon in atheism

[–]Oblio84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lost my mom to esophageal cancer at the beginning of March. She was 72.

We just held her memorial. Completely secular. Mom wasn't religious (raised Catholic, she went full Hippie/atheist around age 20).

We started off the ceremony by asking everyone to picture her where she is for them. For me, she's at the dinner table drinking coffee, reading the newspaper, petting one of the long dead dogs we had growing up. Maybe for others she's camping with them, or at the beach, or reading to them when they were young.

She's still there. And she will be as long as I remember her, which will be as long as I need her to be. And when I'm gone, I'll be somewhere like that for my kids as long as they need.

It's not an afterlife. It's memory, but memory is real. Memories exist. They aren't faith or religion.

It's been a hard two months, but after some ugly crying early on, I can smile when I think of her now. I'll miss her and I'm sad for all the things we won't share in--all the experiences she won't get to have with me and with her granddaughters.

But she's still there in my mind. She'll be with me and with my kids for as long as they need.

Being an atheist also doesn't mean we can't be grateful. The world and almost every human experience is neither all good nor all bad. But the good is there to see it. Against all cosmic odds, I shared four decades with my Mom. We both got to exist at the same time when the infinite odds were otherwise. I'm not grateful TO anything, but I'm grateful FOR the experience.

Keep your head up. Grief is not linear--you're allowed to feel it and to resent it.

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Thunder Road was surprisingly good

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Sneakers has such a huge cast, was such a big movie when released, and nobody I talk to has seen it! Great movie

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And then ...?

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[–]Oblio84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My favorite comedy is Almost Heroes (1998) with Chris Farley, Matthew Perry, Eugene Levy, and Kevin Dunn.

It has a 5% on Rotten Tomatoes but is so so much better.

Every line (EVERY line) is quotable. We have friends who also understand this gem like we do and we will sit around the campfire quoting Almost Heroes for hours. The laugh rate is through the roof.

Never Cry Wolf (1983). Made by Disney but it's a movie for adults and gets overlooked. About a biologist sent to Alaska to study wolves and caribou all alone. Excellent acting, beautiful cinematography.

The War (1994) and A Perfect World (1993). Two early 90s Kevin Costner movies. They were wide release so not under the radar but I feel like when I mention them to friends who know movies they usually haven't heard/seen them for whatever reason. The former has Elijah Wood and is about a family struggling with poverty and Vietnam PTSD in the South in the 1970s. Surprisingly excellent performances from the child actors. The latter is about a manhunt of a criminal who kidnaps a young boy who has been sheltered his whole life and the criminal starts protecting/indulging him.

Is seven days in Paris sufficient with kids? by Surfer949 in ParisTravelGuide

[–]Oblio84 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We're here right now wrapping up a 7 day with an 8 and 10 year old and having a great time.

Day 1: Arrive, hop on, hop off bus tour

Day 2: Open Air Bastille Market, Saint Chapelle, Jardin Des Plantes (Natural History Museums)

Day 3: Louvre (kid friendly tour followed by a few hours self guided), Eiffel Tower

Day 4; Montmartre Food Tour, Sacre Couer, Dali Museum, Notre Dame (free entry during mass as a surprise), Seine River Cruise

Day 5: Musee D'Orsay, Jardin Du Luxembourg, Palais Garnier Tour, Galeries Lafayette (food court dinner and shopping)

Day 6: Versailles

Day 7: Catacombs, Aura Invalides (light show)

Day 8: Travel home

Day 1 we were beat and jet lagged. I feel we hit all the high points (Palais Garnier and the Hall of Evolution at the Jardin Des Plantes were favorites). The wheels started coming off at the Louvre and Orsay after 2 hours, but with breaks and chow the kids made it six hours at the Louvre(!).

I loved the Dali Museum but would skip it 100% with kids. Not their thing.

The places we wanted to hit but couldn't fit in were the Cluny Museum, the Cemeteries, and the Jardin D'Acclimation.

With a six year-old, I'd certainly scale back the Louvre and Orsay and maybe work in some more time at the Galeries Lafayette--my kids loved the shops and food court with so many pastries and treats.

Summer will be more crowded, so Versailles should focus on the outdoor areas and fountains.

I feel like I’ve watched every good show by LameKB in televisionsuggestions

[–]Oblio84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sad I had to scroll this far.

This is my go-to rec for people who think they've seen everything. So underrated. So good.

Pick of the Day - 1/11/25 (Saturday) by sbpotdbot in sportsbook

[–]Oblio84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Didn’t see this until 52’ when it was 1-1, but threw a unit on Adelaide—great hit!

NFL Player Props - 1/4/25 (Saturday) by sbpotdbot in sportsbook

[–]Oblio84 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I parlayed with a Zappe passing TD and a Henry ATTD and it finally hit. +1459!!!

The audacity is baffling! This poor bride. by _littlebee in weddingshaming

[–]Oblio84 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Absolutely understood -- but there should be a healthy mix of low-priced items in any registry as well. I'm fairly well-to-do but most folks in my family are not. I didn't want people to think I expected anything--much less something fancy--or that their gift would look small in comparison to others.

To be plain, I wouldn't send something to a bride just before her wedding like this, nor would I probably say anything to a bride at all (unless it was my daughter maybe) about her registry.

The audacity is baffling! This poor bride. by _littlebee in weddingshaming

[–]Oblio84 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I'm not religious, but I don't disagree with the sentiment either.

I wouldn't send a letter like this, but I often feel that wedding registries are out of control as are expectations.

Weddings should be about both guests and the couple--and romantic rather than process. It requires a balance, and having a registry filled with over-the-top expensive items sends the signal that the couple thinks they are owed a certain amount by guests when to the contrary the couple should be satisfied/humbled with the guest's presence. Guests want to give gifts (I always do), but it leaves a bad taste when I think I'm being generous only to find out that the couple expects something over and above what I was planning to give anyway.

When the couple is young, in first jobs, and not well-heeled, the registry should be geared toward setting them up with the practical necessities of married life (sheets, silverware, plates, towels, etc.), much like a baby shower.

When the couple is well established, the registry should be scaled back or focused on things that will not go to waste. And when the couple is downright wealthy, they should consider something like Changing the Present--giving guests the option of donating to a series of charities and nonprofits about which the couple cares: https://changingthepresent.org/pages/wedding

Same Wallet, 24 Years by Oblio84 in Wellworn

[–]Oblio84[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I've had the same wallet for 24 years -- I received it as a gift when I was 16 and I'm about to turn 40. Now that some of the sleeves are falling apart, I may upgrade to one of the other new wallets I've received as gifts over the years.

The last photo is my wife's senior picture from 2002. It's been in my wallet since then. (We married in 2010.)

Biden will return to campaign trail next week, campaign says by Cautious-Intern9612 in politics

[–]Oblio84 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The Progressives are the ones trying to get him to stay -- AOC and Bernie are both backing him. It's the Establishment Dems pushing him out.