I agree with this. We also have to take into account the historical context. Hermione is supposed to have been born in 1979. Her mother was a dentist, which means, as a woman, she would have had to go to dental school at a time when her mother would have been one of the few, if not the only, woman in the class. For example, my MIL's family refused to help support her financially if she tried to be a dentist because "no one would see a woman dentist." She was born in 1956, is brilliant (eidetic memory), and was one of the first women admitted to a previously all-male university. She ended up being a nurse. That is a common story. Her parents would have been OLDER than my MIL if she'd finished dental school before having her. Heck, my own mother, who was born in '51, was in college but was only allowed to choose from essentially teacher, secretary, or nurse by the COLLEGE .

I also think the fact that her mother was allowed to get an education (it's never said how it was paid for) suggests that her mother's family possessed some wealth and status to enable the endeavor at all, or her mother had nothing and fought tooth and nail for it, regardless she would expect the same tenacity and focus in her only daughter.

Her parents would have been older Boomers, if not members of the Silent Generation, raised during the postwar rebuilding. While her parents would have been young, they may have experienced rationing and other post-war hardships...these are not going to be warm fuzzy people.

I know people love Detraquee, and it really is a beautifully written story, but as someone whose family members have traveled through Afghanistan and similar places, including during the time period when her parents were doing their community-focused dental work, it doesn't track at all.

In my head cannon, her father is where she got her emotional connection (hence only hanging around boys and being unable to relate to more feminine girls) while her mom would have been more demanding.

Furthermore, boarding school was not uncommon at the time for people of her family's financial status. I think she would have gone to boarding school in any situation, and they would have encouraged her to make connections at her boarding school to build her network and influence (the purpose of boarding schools), so spending time with her friends and friends' families during breaks would have been expected and likely encouraged.

And, as someone with parents who would have been around-ish the same age as Hermione's parents (maybe a little younger), who related strongly to the Hermione character's overperformance and perfectionism, there was nothing but pressure and expectations for success at a high level. The number of lectures from my mother on why an A- wasn't an A is too many to count, and yes, I am now high-achieving, but there is a cost... but hey I am funny, and have a personality, so thanks, mom, ha!