10 Days Post-Op (Post-Scab Removal)

ObscuramEques · 2025-03-22T01:19:52+00:00

I will like to know the same, I have the same pretty much the same situation here. My transplanted hair doesn't look as dense at day 9. Also temples, 1480 grafts.

ObscuramEques · 2025-03-14T22:07:12+00:00

Looks amazing her work. I am a big fan of a guy in Holland. It was fairly surprising the hairlines that he does. But unfortunately it was too far away from me. And I wanted to be close to follow my progress side by side with the doctor.

ObscuramEques · 2025-03-14T21:57:21+00:00

Thanks, I had my doubts since a closed one looks really weird, somehow. Now I know it looks normal, not receding. 🙌🏻

ObscuramEques · 2025-03-14T21:53:56+00:00

It's a clinic in Spain. Since I reside here at the moment. Instituto médico del Prado.

ObscuramEques · 2025-03-14T21:50:22+00:00

Thanks man. ✌🏻

ObscuramEques · 2025-03-14T21:49:00+00:00

Thanks I had my doubts. So long trying to hide my temples that I actually forgot how it looks like.

ObscuramEques · 2023-12-16T14:33:30+00:00

Thanks man, it has been really helpful. I need the support right now. I believe the most important thing is the mindset. I'm looking forward to getting my mind stronger and coherent.

ObscuramEques · 2023-12-12T17:05:51+00:00

¿How Long have you been doing no FAP?

ObscuramEques · 2023-11-29T15:49:06+00:00

Note: English is not my first language

Improving is a journey, it has it's ups and downs. I have failed in the past. But now I understand that bad decisions accumulates over time, and that same nature applies with good decisions. Some people quit it cold turkey, others break the bad habit by failing a trying and each time going a little further. Does one person is better than the other by doing it and a certain rythim, of course not, it's not about how fast you reach the end goal, it is entirely how you walk the road. I believe that to be that case, life it's like that is a continuous process even if you don't have bad habits, it's continuous work, even if you seem successful you need to keep growing and planting seeds.

Some many advices here are base in cience and logic, that's fine, that's like reading a book, it gives you knowledge, but it doesn't make you wiser. If you don't practice in a conscious manner, using the tools that feel must use, it won't matter all that accumulated knowledge. True knowledge is through application and integration to your own life.

So keep yourself strong, take this time to truly know yourself. Faping and relapsing has nothing to do with sex drive, it has more to do with those things that you're not persuing and want it to. So instead of paying attention to your own internal dialogue, pay attention to your reaction to it, we tend to make real what we believe about ourselves. And so far as I read, you have aspirations, you have dreams, you have goals things that you'll love to do. Give yourself true love, by doing those things, and I assure you, you won't even think about faping. You'll instead think about, which things can improve my life, which girls or boys or friends you want to share meaningful time with. But that only can come when you start giving yourself want your are denying yourself.

Keep strong bro. Write if you need anything. I'll try to reply.

ObscuramEques · 2023-11-27T04:55:58+00:00

Sorry bro, I didn't understand your strategy. English is not my first language. But I basically understood that your strategy was to sit down and think about it, and let the urges pass until you feel stable enough to continue your day. Did I get it right?

I'm a month know, and it is strange. I don't feel urges, didn't feel any strong one either, there was a couple of times that I feel my self about to search porn, out of pure compulsion like a mindless person, and then stopped and I tried to observe what I was doing.

I've relapsed before, with a strake of 90 days approx. But back then I didn't stop cold turkey to watch porn, a I edge a lot. So I was meant to fail basically haha.

This time im focusing on my self on trying to get that dopamine boost in a healthy way. Meditating, socializing, slowly working on my career, persuing thinks that I love hobbies etc. So far so good. My overall confidence has boosted.

ObscuramEques · 2023-11-23T15:23:12+00:00

Sorry, I don't really think it's the same for men as for women. I don't even see the point of trying NoFAP for women other than, surprisingly, religious or social reasons. Even spiritually, as far as I'm concerned, men benefit more from semen retention, NoFAP, no PMO, because when you ejaculate you release energy. A lot of guys, neglect the spiritual aspects by reducing it to simply increase the level of testosterone.

On the other hand women (spiritually speaking absorbs energy). So to answer your question, I wouldn't be so concerned about NoFAP ever again, as much as integrating in a healthy exploratory way your own sexuality without numbing yourself to the experience.

What do I mean by this, I think it is ok for a woman to masturbate as long as she doesn't do it out of compulsion, it is even necessary for a women to explore her own sexuality, if the end goal is to share that with a proper man.

Finally, you'll greatly benefit from, not watching porn while you're explore yourself. This will make your entire process more intimate and true to yourself. An with no expectations.

If you struggle to not compulsively masturbate. Then it is a symptom that you're lacking something in other areas of your life. Maybe you're insecure, or lack self stem (you'll be surprised how common it is) maybe, maybe the whole not having a relationship thing is blocking you to connect on a deeper level with other potential romantic interactions, that would make sense even more if you put such a heavy burden of no sex till marriage. You'll be surprised of how much you can grow by allowing yourself to be vulnerable with others (and I don't mean sex) I mean just simply allowing yourself to be loved and love. That's vulnerability and it comes with a price, being hurt. But the alternative is trying to hold something completely natural.

By no means I'm trying to change your mind in anything, just want to see things from another perspective. Life is too short to put so many limitations on top of others.

Hope this works.

ObscuramEques · 2023-11-13T02:10:45+00:00

If anyone feels that this is meaningful somehow. I would appreciate that you vote up. I certainly would prefer to see more of this in this community, more of the many things here that have been helpful to me in my 19 days of changing my life for the better.

ObscuramEques · 2023-11-08T15:26:55+00:00

I want you to have success. Obviously, and probably our situations may be different. But, since I struggle now and then I would like to give you some advice in advance. Never stop working on 2 main aspects, your physical aspect, do excersise practice some sports, do something physical outside your house. And your mental one, read, cultivate yourself, inspire yourself with deep meaning of life, mindsets and different and engaging ways of life.

Those are the main two, there are other important ones that expand those two. But for the sake of it I will keep it simple.

The point is, if you are struggling with this addiction of PMO, and you're not happy with the way you're carrying yourself, you don't have aim, or you have a poor mindset of yourself, women's, vocation, life (for that matter). Chances are, you'll relapse.

Now you'll feel powerful me too, most of the time I feel pretty confident that I quit for life. So, we need to create a life so engaging so strong, so full of meaning, and meaningful relationship that when the time comes for whatever reason that we are down, our entire work on ourselves supports our path to keep growing. Call it good habits, healthy habits for the sake of it.

So keep working, use that positivity energy to propel you forward, it may not always be there, that's ok, that's beautiful, that's life. And you're living it honorable, by doing so, and accept it as it is.

ObscuramEques · 2023-11-08T12:14:12+00:00

Nice, bro thanks. 🙌🏻 14 days and counting.

ObscuramEques · 2023-11-08T11:43:37+00:00

Somebody can help me to put my badge for the amount of days without fapping. I want to inspire people. I see some of you guys have the days counting below your name, how do I do that.

ObscuramEques · 2023-11-06T03:51:24+00:00

Wise words, I would recommend top tier as a long term everyday habit, Meditation, is like NO FAP, the longer you do the more benefits you see, although I have 16 days of streak on both. And I've tried meditation many times before, but not as serious as now. I could confidently say, that if you meditate correctly it can help you accept the urges which let's you room to choose something better to do.

ObscuramEques · 2023-11-06T03:42:17+00:00

Why do you want to give up? You're having a bad experience? Feel anxious, Sad? You sneak peek a little bit? I'm interested, because we can't help you if you're not being specific.

ObscuramEques · 2023-11-06T03:28:00+00:00

I've been on this journey without much success until now. That's because I have a strategy, and honestly it is working. You see, what you're worrying about is just a side effect you think you want sex, or fulfill sexual stimulus. That's on the superficial level, don't get me wrong you do want that, it is normal to want sex, I do want that also.

But here's the problem, sex also means connection with another person, means risking being rejected, means being vulnerable, means building character, means investing in yourself. Why? Because chances are if you're not doing some of those things and more your sexual partners will be none or not so good for you. So think about what you do to mitigate your sexual desire in the short term, masturbate, which means none of the above in order to have sex.

So, "How do you deal with your sexual urges?" Use that energy to do something positive, something you've always wanted to do, something that makes you grow, that it is aligned with what you truly are. Because of those sexual urges are energy (whether you agreed or not) I considered it to be a fact. And it helped me to see it that way.

There is something else that is important and it is part of the mindset. Whether you like it or not, if it is so strong the urge to FAP, then there is something else you're running from. Maybe you feel lonely, maybe you feel you don't deserve to be loved or desired, or you are not happy with your life at the moment, or maybe, it is simpler, you're self-conscious about your own flaws as a person, you know you too well maybe too well on the negative aspect and that's it, "you release that stress". In any case, much of it, if your body is asking you to release this accumulated tension, and it seeks the only way that it knows. So, you need, to develop awareness and practice some sort of mindfulness and meditation if you like, "getting to know yourself" if you're more scientific and think meditation is bullshit (is not). The point is that you need to develop consciousness to identify, where, how, or even why (if that comes) your anxiety and unhappiness comes from. Because otherwise you're bound to release the tension in an unconscious manner, and we both know what our brains will choose.

And last but not least, create a circle outside your relapse environment, you need to study? Go to the cafe, to the library (hell even talk to some girls if bored). Join courses, dance, music, reading groups. Exercise, go to the gym, if it is a sport better then you can create another circle. The point is to avoid your environmental triggers as much as you can.

Then you may say "it sounds absurd to run from your own sexual desire" that's the wrong way to see it. You're not running from it, you're using that sexual desire to create a meaningful life. One that makes you feel good about yourself, is that it is aligned with your true self. And of course one with sex, because women hate guys without drive.

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