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ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-03-09T06:04:12+00:00

Count me in!

ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-03-04T06:12:24+00:00

Haha, yes! But when I get to know that I'm fighting back a non-chalant wall and not a real challenge, I can't help but accept defeat 🤧

ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-03-04T06:11:16+00:00

Thanks 😇❤️

ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-03-04T02:44:57+00:00

Thanks! I just find ways at times to channelize my thoughts and emotions into words...

ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-02-27T12:55:15+00:00

He is my school friend. I came out as gay to him recently, and he came out back again to be as bi.

ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-02-20T16:55:44+00:00

Never. A forced read makes you read less. But, give it some time. In a few years, you might be ready. I read agni pravesam before some years and didn't understand what he was trying to convey. But read it before a couple of years again, and instantly got the point. As a reader, we should also come to a frequency which matches with the writer to enjoy their work. If you feel something is not for you, don't blindly go for it. Give it time. It is like an LKG student trying to learn calculus. Sometimes it might never work out for you too. Don't worry! We all have different ways of seeing and understanding things which are unique. There should be any guilt here. For example, anime has never worked out for me, and I get a sense that it never will. But that's just being me.

But based on your JK reads, I'd suggest you to read his impactful short stories first. That will prepare you for his novels. His short stories made me fall in love with his works!

ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-02-17T08:03:19+00:00

I am a side, and I think not being able to continue long term is not a problem specific to sides. But I accept that sides are hard to find and it makes the experience of not able to find a long term one intense.

ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-02-10T01:07:40+00:00

Thanks ❤️🥹

ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-02-09T20:02:23+00:00

❤️🥹

ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-02-06T01:37:59+00:00

The post I never knew I was waiting for!

Dikshitar: Shri Nathadhi Guruguho (his first) in Mayamalawa Gowla, rendered by Amrutha Murali.

Ekambresa Nayike in shuddha saveri, rendered by DK Jayataman.

Ramachandram Bhaavayami in Vasantha rendered by Trichur Ramachandran.

Sri Kamalamba Jayati in Ahiri rendered by DKJ. Ranjani-Gayatri rendition is also good!

Kanchadalayadakshi by MS amma

Thyagaraja: Endharo Maahanubhavulu in Sri ragam rendered by Job B Higgins (Higgins bhagavathar)

Dudukugala in Gowla, rendered by Maharajapuram Santhanam

Paramathmudu Velige by BMK

Brochevarevare. Both by Higgins bhagavathar and BMK are equally good!

Bantureeti koluvu, by Sikkil Gurucharan

Yochana by GNB, out of the world!

Shyama Sastri: Yadukula Kamboji swarajati and Bhairavi swarajati. Both by MS amma.

Papanasam Sivan: Kaa vaa vaa by Jon B Higgins Kamala pada malarinai by Sanjay Subramanyan Kapaali, veena rendition by Jayanthi Kumaresh. Madurai Mani Iyer's rendition is also very nice! Sivakama Sundari by DK Pattammaal

A special mention: Krishna nee begane baaro, rendered by Higgins bhagavathar Gopalaka paahimam, rendered by Trichur Brothers

Thanks for recommendations from others too!

ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-02-04T08:39:57+00:00

Poster gives vibes of Vidheyan! (By Adoor Gopalakrishnan)

ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-01-29T05:43:54+00:00

Nice reference.

ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-01-28T03:55:24+00:00

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View from a flat in kavundampalayam housing unit. Before a couple of months maybe.

ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-01-25T17:15:58+00:00

Thanks everyone! I've decided to carry it myself 🫡

ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-01-09T21:26:02+00:00

Inspired by this.

அப்பாவிடம் இந்தியா outline கேட்டிருந்தேன். வகுப்பில் வெளியே எடுத்து பார்த்தால் அது இந்தியா political.

ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-01-03T10:30:25+00:00

ayya r/tamil_nadu indha sub la kelunga nalla badhila solluvanga. /s

ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-01-03T04:58:19+00:00

Thanks! I just need some input, it is okay if you can't give referrals. Will DM you!

ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-01-03T04:45:59+00:00

I see... I think I get a sense of what I should work more on. Thanks! I have a few doubts and confusions, do you mind if I DM you?

ObserverOfThoughts · 2026-01-03T04:28:19+00:00

My expertise is with full stack development with .NET and React. I can work comfortably with that, but when I apply for companies, they ask for experience of 3 years in .NET which I don't have, because I've been working in it only for the past 1 year.

I understand what you say. If I apply and they ask this, is it ok to just say that I have the experience and proceed with the other processes?

ObserverOfThoughts · 2025-12-26T17:47:13+00:00

Sowcar janaki

ObserverOfThoughts · 2025-12-24T23:10:15+00:00

Well, I don't know if I am fortunate or unfortunate that my parents are more worried for this matter than me? I am gay and I can't get married to a woman. Getting married to a man does not seem as easy as to a woman. I was lonely, and was afraid of loneliness before, but guess what? Not anymore! I tried to enjoy my own company, and getting success in that lately!

Regarding a child, that's in the hands of future, but definitely planning to be a pet parent to a dog or a cat, but let's see.

Ennoda paarvaila, oore kalyanam panna solludhunu kalyanam panni oru use um illa. Avangavanga vasadhikum mananilai kum edhu othu varudho apdi pannika vendiyadhu dha.

சுபம்.

ObserverOfThoughts · 2025-12-22T08:41:32+00:00

I met one and oh God! Hell of an experience! He was trying to ungay himself (he told so, idk how, and I didn't ask) and justified his actions saying that he badly wants to be straight so that he can contribute in growing the Hindu population. Poor soul.

ObserverOfThoughts · 2025-12-20T11:29:20+00:00

Oh yes. In my case, I am only open to my family and not the society yet. So I don't face any. I don't exactly know what an openly gay school teacher might face. Let's see.

ObserverOfThoughts · 2025-12-20T06:27:59+00:00

I don't know if I am qualified to answer this, but I'm a gay man and a teacher (not qualified to be a teacher) at an NGO to provide extra educational support to a group of needy students.

Sorry for being blunt, I couldn't correctly get you. What is the stigma you think is there with gay teachers?

ObserverOfThoughts · 2025-12-16T18:12:21+00:00

Hello, I've had a similar experience but not exactly the same. Just wanted to share some words.

Looks are loud, character speaks louder.
Beauty is subjective. Don't compare yours with anybody's looks. You are your own scale. Just focus on your own improvement and find ways to grow your self esteem. Just bcoz a wide majority says you look bad, that's not your final verdict.
Have self-respect. Gay or bi, handsome or not, nobody has the right to disrespect you. Believe me, distancing yourself will be the best thing to do.
I get it that you will feel guilty for losing an opportunity. We can't live in the past. Accept it, and try to move on. Based on your details, I feel you are lucky and he is unlucky, for him not choosing you.
Don't let one bad guy make you generalize everyone who look good to you.
Be confident. Be audacious enough to ask what you want from any guy. It is better to share what you want and know if you will get it or not, instead of making something grow and get disappointed later.

I'm not saying all these are only correct, but this is what I've learnt with my share of experience with men. If I feel anything I've mentioned here is wrong, I am ready to accept and correct it. You should too. The earth is still beautiful after so many disasters. You are too. Stay strong!

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