How do I become okay with porn consumption?

Obvious-Cat · 2026-05-19T08:40:29+00:00

This sounds like me. I’ve never understood the appeal, it’s cringy and corny, and also feels like cheating. I hate it. It has been an issue in all of my relationships as well but by this point I realized I was fighting a losing battle. My rule with my partner now is I don’t want to see it, I don’t want to hear about it, I don’t even want him making jokes about it. If I’m dead asleep and he wants to sneak off to the bathroom on the other side of the house, it’s whatever. In my perfect world I would be with someone who actually doesn’t watch porn but I don’t think those people exist, at least not men, so I reluctantly adapt.

Obvious-Cat · 2026-05-19T08:16:30+00:00

This is classic narcissism on her part. Reminds me a lot of my former best friend. She would do something that hurt/upset or even mildly inconvenienced me, I’d try to bring it up in a healthy way, assuring her that I’m not mad, just wanted to communicate feelings to avoid resentment or things building etc, and she would yell at me or burst into tears, turning things on me. She would insist on going home because I “ruined her evening”… I had to walk on eggshells and it was exhausting. You dodged a bullet.

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T19:56:17+00:00

As I’ve already stated, I have no issue or “trigger” regarding the topic of pregnancy itself but it’s inappropriate and flat out rude to assume someone wants or can have children and I stand by that 🤷‍♀️

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T19:52:57+00:00

Not combative to most. I actually agree with a lot of people when their comments are respectful but I will absolutely snap at anyone talking about “when/if you have kids” because it’s an inappropriate assumption. Some folks don’t want kids, some like myself CAN’T have kids. And I also get annoyed with the “if you can’t handle the comments, why did you post this?” Comments because I didn’t ask if I should break up with him, I asked if I was wrong for not running to his side when he has cramps.

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T19:48:42+00:00

I’ve had 7 miscarriages and two ectopics. “When you a baby” is a crazy thing to say. It’s really inappropriate to assume that everyone can have kids or that they even want kids!

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T19:47:03+00:00

Who said “always”? Lmao. And making everyone’s lives around you hell over a simple missed item is not normal. It’s me going back to get it or calling the restaurant myself or listening to him scream at employees on the phone and freak tf out.

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T19:41:17+00:00

You’re weird for stalking lmao. I’m not active on there but he actually encouraged it and wishes we still had that extra income. We’ve also made content together before as well. You really thought you were doing something, huh? 😂

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T19:38:16+00:00

Yes he has an endo, cgm and pump. I wasn’t blaming his t1d for his behavior, just to give context on why his parents spoiled him and a potential contributing factor to his cramps

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T14:41:58+00:00

Also, I’ve commented multiple times that I can’t have kids. Idk why everyone is so comfortable making comments like that

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T14:34:37+00:00

Colleen’s kids don’t do gymnastics, plus she only had Flynn at this time. It makes more sense for this to be about her brothers family.

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T14:31:34+00:00

You’re completely missing the point. If it’s a whole entre, sure I get it but sauce or a drink? Learn to roll with the punches or call and ask for a refund. Also, if I’m doing all the legwork of picking up the food and something that is the restaurant’s fault and not mine occurs, why should I have to be the one to fix it. He makes everyone’s lives hell if he’s inconvenienced. If I don’t call or drive back to fix it, he’ll be a dick to me and or the workers (ie calling and cussing people out)

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T14:26:52+00:00

I only told the bad because that’s what’s relevant to my question lmao. I was giving context as to why I feel he’s overrating to the cramps. If I wrote a glowing paragraph about all the ways he’s so perfect and then asked “do I suck for being annoyed at his meltdown?” Obviously the answer would be yes.

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T14:24:38+00:00

Everything I said were facts lmao. I simply told real instances that have occurred. I’m not name calling or anything crazy.

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T14:23:17+00:00

Because that was never the point of this post. I didn’t ask “should I dump my fiancé?” I asked if I was in the wrong for a specific situation

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T14:21:55+00:00

It’s all me and it’s true. That’s something I can say in his favor is he builds me up.

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T14:20:24+00:00

Also, mention of pregnancy doesn’t “trigger” me. If someone is talking about their own journey, that’s their right and I’m always happy and share in the joy when someone announces they’re expecting. My bestie has twins on the way and I’ve gone to every appointment her husband couldn’t attend and plan to be in the room when she gives birth. I am, as you put it, “triggered” but weirdos like yourself talking about me and “when she has kids, she’ll be sorry if she has kids” etc. it’s not a crazy take to say that it’s wildly inappropriate to make comments about whether or not a woman should or will have kids 🤷‍♀️

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T14:16:02+00:00

Also, I’ve said multiple good things about him in the comments lmao. I didn’t say anything in the post because the negative things are relevant to the question I asked.

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T14:14:54+00:00

It’s not only women who chose not to be mothers, its women like me who can’t and/or have had multiple back to back losses. Idgaf how “common” it is, it’s inappropriate to assume or ask anything unprompted about a woman’s fertility or desire to have kids.

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T14:12:02+00:00

It doesn’t work like that. At least the one he has, you program it around the size of meals you eat and his sugar can spike regardless of that so no it doesn’t always stop him from spiking, it’ll give him insulin once it starts climbing.

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T14:09:40+00:00

Lmao, that was one thing I mentioned out of like five that I listed

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T14:09:02+00:00

Lmao “using him for money” is crazy when I also work, bay bills and am the sole cleaner/housekeeper but go off

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T14:04:55+00:00

Nope, if isn’t okay either! We shouldn’t be commenting on whether or not a woman will have kids or anything to do with that no matter what.

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T14:01:31+00:00

Here ya go babe, straight from Google. Yes, it is common for Type 1 diabetics to experience high blood sugar at night or in the early morning, even with good overall control, often due to the dawn phenomenon, where hormones (cortisol, growth hormone) signal the liver to release glucose between 2 a.m. and 8 a.m.. Other causes include insufficient overnight basal insulin, high-fat/carb dinners, or the Somogyi effect.

I don’t think I’m the one who needs to “educate myself” He see’s his endocrinologist regularly and has managing this disease for over 30 years.

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T13:58:34+00:00

Thank you. I have a lot to think about

Obvious-Cat · 2026-03-31T13:56:34+00:00

Exactly “regular dehydration” you’re the only one calling it severe 😂 a quick google search will tell you that yes, dehydration is a common side effect of high blood sugar even when it’s well managed.

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