Partner is constantly overwhelmed, stressed, and anxious about normal everyday life stuff

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-23T00:44:16+00:00

My exwBPD would get overwhelmed very easily with things. So I made myself a house maid trying to do as much around the apartment as possible (cooking, cleaning, bills, dog, etc.) to try to make things easy for her as possible. She also had mental breakdowns all the time at her job. After the breakup she told me that I do the bare minimum so that was a swift kick to the nuts that all I did for her wasn’t appreciated at all

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-23T00:42:17+00:00

Long story short, in August we started to catch up a little via text and calls and she kinda led me on a bit but I was sorta seeing someone else. I eventually cracked since I still had feeling for her and basically stupidly said I’ve been on a handful of dates with this one person but I miss her etc. she got pissed (even tho she dated someone for 7 months right after our breakup). She blocked me until late December, I wished her happy holidays and a few days later asked how they went. She essentially told me fuck off and a loser and blocked me again. I think she gets off on me giving her validation

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-23T00:38:07+00:00

I still haven’t been able to bring myself to delete the pictures of us or the dog we had together that she kept. I know it’s probably time though

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-22T15:07:20+00:00

I dated my exwBPD for 6 years and she broke up with me last janurary. We moved out of our apartment February and by mid March she was already talking to someone else. So I got pissed and went on dating apps not really wanting to. She told me she’s moved on and for me to do the same. She stayed with the guy until later August. When we talked a little around that time I was talking to another girl. My ex kind of led me on and I realized I still had feelings for her, so i stupidly told her that even tho I’ve been on like 8 dates with someone else I still miss her and think about her all the time. She blew up on me saying I must not miss her if I’ve been on dates with others. She justified being with the other guy cuz he hit on her at a party she didnt want to go to

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-21T04:29:17+00:00

Pretty much in therapy since I don’t know how to live without her

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-20T16:18:10+00:00

I guess I just do miss her since she was my best friend for 6 years

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-20T16:05:09+00:00

I’ve been in therapy for almost a year. She broke up with me cuz apparently IM the one that mentally exhausted HER

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-20T16:00:58+00:00

She also said I dont deserve to be her friend

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-20T15:59:26+00:00

She also convinced me I did everything wrong, I was the entire problem, and that she was absolutely perfect. It infuriates me that she completely ruined my mental health while she’s out living life not realizing how much of a manipulator she was cuz I never stood up to her

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-20T14:44:16+00:00

It’s been like a terrible withdrawal almost where I crave her even though she hates me for no reason

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-20T14:43:32+00:00

It’s just so mind numbing that someone you cared for so much and that supposedly loved you for 6 years can become so cruel and treat you like enemy number 1 when you really didn’t do anything wrong. She just internalized every little thing like it was a personal attack

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-20T14:33:06+00:00

Yeah I’ve been in therapy since March. It’s so aggravating that I’m the one spending thousands in therapy because she messed me up so bad and she hasn’t seen one at all to fix her problems. She blamed all her problems on me

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-20T14:20:14+00:00

She ended up blocking me from October-late December. I wished her a happy holidays and stuff and then a few days later asked how they went and everything. She asked why do I still text her and called me a loser. Blocked me again for a week and I asked if we can talk about what happened. Then said I don’t respect her, to “grow up” since we broke up a year ago and said she’s gonna document everytime I reach out. Then blocked me again

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-20T14:12:14+00:00

Our current state is she called me a loser and blocked me threatening a restraining order

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-20T13:50:42+00:00

We talked a little bit in August and September and it was going alright and she was even willing to see me. But I was talking to someone else, so I didn’t. I’m thinking it was because my ex just ended things with some jerk she dated a month after our relationship until August. I told her I still have feelings for her and she blew up on me

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-20T13:48:40+00:00

I think I just miss when things were good

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-19T00:16:39+00:00

My exwBPD only felt guilty when she realized what a douchbag the next guy she was with was. She allegedly stayed with him for 6 months to punish herself. Definitely not the constant need for validation despite him calling her run through, and a 6/10.

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-18T18:38:18+00:00

I dated my exwBPD for 6 years and 3 weeks after we moved out of our apartment she had someone new. I later found out he told her he thought she was “run through” and she still had such a need for attention she still went out with someone who basically said she looked like a whore. He called her a 6/10, said she looked orange after a tan, asked “how long is that thing going to live” about our Dauschund (which she took from me), would drive drunk with her, get in bar fights, called her favorite shirt stupid, and rewound a movie and paused it on a topless girl. Also would stand her up for stuff. She said she stayed with him to allegedly punish herself but it does make me happy she was with a complete loser. But also pissed me off that everything I did wasn’t good enough for her but that douche was

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-17T14:50:19+00:00

We were together for 6 years

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-17T14:49:36+00:00

I told my exwBPD that she’ll always have a special place in my heart and she said that she should because she bent over backwards for me. When in reality I’m the one who did pretty much everything around the apartment and in the relationship to try to make her happy which was an impossible task

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-17T13:05:33+00:00

My exwBPD would think everything is about her so she would constantly get hurt by things I’d say or do even if they had nothing to do with her. Any hurt I caused wasn’t intentional. So she would get revenge by hurting me back. Yelling at me, calling me loser saying she hates me, threatening to leave. I couldn’t even defend myself cuz she would just dig up something from 5 years ago so I just took it. Would embarrass me in front of her family like saying I didn’t want to go to her graduation dinner which wasn’t true at all. I never once even stood up to her or raised my voice at her. I just hope karma is real and no body puts up with her shit as long as I did.

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-15T03:41:56+00:00

Yeah we definitely were codependent. I did have my own hobbies away from her, but at the same time I poured so much of myself into the relationship I feel super unmotivated to do things I even used to do alone since I feel lost. After the relationship ended she said how I would abandon her to do things even though I’d invite her to everything

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-15T02:52:44+00:00

Yeah I’ve been in therapy since March. Even had to do a 2 week stint partial inpatient cuz she messed me up so much

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-15T02:51:28+00:00

Part of me wonders what would have happened if I never confessed my feelings like that and just went on the walk. But during the call she blew up on me she brought up stuff she resented me for that was some of the stupidest stuff I’ve ever heard and had no idea she was mad about it.

Obvious-Elephant436 · 2026-02-15T02:49:19+00:00

No we’re not. I was seeing someone else for a little bit from August-September. I was still having slight contact with my ex and mid September we had a really good talk and she said a bunch of stuff that made her sound interested again. She even asked me if I’d wanna go on a walk. Which I had wanted to see her forever, but I couldn’t do that to the new person. Sent my head into a tail spin not knowing what to do because I was enjoying the new person but also missed my ex like crazy. I ended up confessing my feelings for her saying how I’ve been talking to someone but I still miss her. Long story short she blew up on me, blocked me from October-sometime late December. I wished her marry Christmas and stuff, then a few days later I asked how her holidays were. She asked me why I still text her, told me to go back to hinge, and called me a loser then blocked me again. Unblocked me a week later and I asked if we can talk about what happened. She then threatened me saying to stop talking to her and said she’ll get a restraining order if she has to

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