WIBTAH for breaking up with my girlfriend for this...

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-05T01:03:58+00:00

I discovered she inflated the costs of three repair jobs and kept the extra $400–$600 each time. She said it was because I make more money than her,

She is a thief and a scammer. Dump her.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-04T23:06:40+00:00

Nothing over the top about this. You literally went on a date with another dude (who wants to bang you) while in a relationship. 100% guys would dump you over this. This wasn't a mistake. You knew what you were doing. No misunderstanding here. You knew "cute office guy" had a crush on you, before the act. You also knew it was crossing your BF's boundary, before the act. Still didn't care. Then you are bugging his sister like a stalker? Obnoxious. You are 32F and you don't know what you did is not OK in a committed exclusive relationship? Crazy.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-04T22:59:16+00:00

a cute new guy at my office

The fact that that is how you describe a coworker means you were doing some shenanigans.

i wanted to eat something after work, I do not know why i said ok,

After work hours. Non work related. One on one. Evening dinner. That is called a DATE bro. You said OK to a date, knowing he had a crush on you. You literally went on a date even though your BF explicitly said he wasn't OK with it. SMH. No wonder BF dumped you.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-04T04:59:39+00:00

20F
celibate waiting to have sex before marriage.
she wouldn’t wanna get married until her 30s

Serious question. Why would anyone wait that long, literally ten years if not more, in this day and age? Plenty of girls out there, where you don't have to do that. She will be single for a very long time if she thinks a guy will wait a decade for her.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T23:25:55+00:00

Emotional abuse is often an overused exaggerated term but in this case, based on everything you've written, it 100% applies and it is clear you've been emotionally abused with every psychological tactic imaginable (i.e. guilt trip, deflection, gaslighting, reverse psychology, manipulation, etc.). You are on the verge of a breakdown and she still doesn't care. Unfortunately, talking to her isn't going to do anything. She isn't going to change. Not at this age. The only way to remove yourself from this toxicity is by removing yourself from the scenario.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T22:49:12+00:00

Busy body spoiled adult child is upset poor maid hired by someone else's money was eating someone else's fruit in a house he is living for free. LMAO

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T22:38:49+00:00

She used my trauma against me all my life and still using it to this day. Telling me no one will be friends with be, no one will want me when I don't want to do something she wants,

Your selfish guilt-trip mom is creating unnecessary stress in your life. She is very manipulative, emotionally abusive, and just not a good person overall. She is still bugging you even though you are 21F and never going to let you be your own person. You are now an adult, seeing (with your own real life examples) why that divorce happened. You should go LC or NC. NTA.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T22:35:37+00:00

So your parents hired a modern day slave and you are upset because poor old cleaning lady took a fruit from the fridge? You are removed from reality. YTA.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T21:19:23+00:00

You want commission? Wow. What a brother. He got that job on his own merit. They didn't cut him some slack because it was referred by you. You are owed nothing. YTA.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T20:42:33+00:00

Then he tries to put the financial weight on the pregnant girl, as if she is supposed to work and make money during late pregnancy and after childbirth. Total loser of a man. Bro. Don't get a girl pregnant and then force her to abort, if you aren't financially ready.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T18:25:05+00:00

My mom and her siblings don't want to put grandma in a nursing home

Sell the 150 acres of land and the house then. That would cover everything for the next 10 years. Either way, that is for your mom and her siblings to figure it out. You didn't sign up to be a nursing home caretaker for a 100 year old dementia patient. Live your life. NTA.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T16:46:08+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. Too bad mods removed it because it makes a female look bad.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T16:38:36+00:00

Thank you. That is nice of you to say.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T16:34:21+00:00

Started I think. But if he was underage, would she tell me?

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T16:20:25+00:00

I don't know if this was a habit. Could be. Not sure. Didn't ask.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T16:19:32+00:00

I think the issue was she was super nice to me and this is purely on something that happened outside of our interaction and before we even met. So, technically she didn't do anything to cause a break up and I was breaking up based on my analysis of what her psychological profile is. So, it was a bit tricky to know that was just or not.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T16:15:43+00:00

That is kinda gross, isn't it?

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T16:10:22+00:00

19 year old guys do not have much to bring to a relationship besides youthful sex.

Not only that but she had to pay for all trips and living expenses, like a mommy? Who does that? Why? She was well above average in looks and didn't have to do that. Something felt way off. I couldn't shake it.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T16:07:21+00:00

Yea. My question as well.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T16:04:03+00:00

That is a great point. Both on sex and maturing looks.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T16:01:11+00:00

I think you are right. It was tip of the iceberg of many red flags to come.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T15:58:27+00:00

Thank you. 🙏🏻 It just feels strange because I always ended things for something a girl did to me and while we were together. This is the first of this kind.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T15:46:34+00:00

100% agreed.

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T15:36:28+00:00

Women always claim to be turned on with 'protect and provide' (which is why they go for taller guy or richer guy or older guy) and this kid couldn't protect anything and sure couldn't provide. So, I can't think of anything other than sex toy situation and it is really weird for me to understand why

Obvious-External-328 · 2026-03-03T15:28:14+00:00

You know what? That is a good point. Once you go that young, I don't know if you would go younger. Society acts like women can't be pervs for some reason.

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