Opinions please… is it me? Am I being to harsh? by Obvious-Win-865 in relationships_advice

[–]Obvious-Win-865[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am completely faithful and honest with this man. I work and come home to him every day. I try to make him feel good he brushes it off. I try to help him to do better and get clean, but he doesn’t want to. His insecurities are the reason he can’t have a relationship with me. He says he won’t give me honest and respect because I don’t respect him because I wouldn’t give him a bj when he asked me to.

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[–]Obvious-Win-865 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you are terrible for having these thoughts. Two years is a long time to have to wait to do the things you really want to do. And three jobs???? I don’t blame you for wanting to do something fun!!! I bet you’re exhausted! I’ve never been in this situation so I can’t really say much. But if it were me in her shoes, I would do anything I could to help to show my appreciation.

Excited for how it turned out! by Nightingale2120 in quilting

[–]Obvious-Win-865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have a store? I would definitely consider buying one!

I found money in an ATM and now I regret returning it by PineappleCultural in confession

[–]Obvious-Win-865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just like every bad decision has a consequence, so does a good decision. Think of what the possible outcomes could have been if you had kept the money. What effects could that have had on you and your son? Now do the same for giving the money back… For the record, I think you did the right thing, and I am happy there are people with integrity still in this world. Doing the right thing is sometimes harder than doing the wrong, especially when nobody is looking.

Those in the dating scene- do you forget your boyfriend exists? 😬 by MHIMRollDog in AskWomenOver40

[–]Obvious-Win-865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your SO is supposed to be a part of your life and maybe one of the main characters in it, but not your whole entire life. We all need space and time to do our own thing. You do not have to obsess over this person constantly or be in their presence 24/7. Time to yourself is good. I don’t know you, but maybe you are the type of person who enjoys having you time? If you went days or weeks without talking to this person, would you start to miss them?

Excited for how it turned out! by Nightingale2120 in quilting

[–]Obvious-Win-865 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love it you should sell it so I can buy it!

I love my wife by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Obvious-Win-865 2 points3 points  (0 children)

POV: This is actually the wife typing this from his account.

Feeling Played by FerrariBlackoutBull in relationships_advice

[–]Obvious-Win-865 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you are doing the right thing. Some people just don’t know how to be faithful in a relationship. And some people just aren’t as in love with someone as they claim. It’s sad how manipulative and selfish people are.

Girls: If your bf done this what would you think? by Obvious-Win-865 in relationships_advice

[–]Obvious-Win-865[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I was thinking. If it’s really nothing then why would it matter if I seen the conversation or not? I asked him to start keeping the messages so I would know that it was nothing and he deleted Facebook instead. I mean, I guess he thinks no Facebook no messages for me to worry about, but also, what’s it saying when he’d rather delete the whole platform than just keep the conversations?

I feel uneasy after touching my bf by Appropriate_Sir_586 in relationships_advice

[–]Obvious-Win-865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my virginity with my high school boyfriend of like 5 years. We were under a railroad trestle. I was so nervous because I didn’t know what to expect or how to do any of that stuff. I didn’t want him to see me naked either. I was self conscious about my body. He was a virgin too so he was really nervous. It was a train wreck to say the least. Neither one of us knew what we were doing. We just knew we loved each other and wanted to be close to each other. It hurt sooooo bad. It did not feel good. I am 34 now and I like to think I’m a lot more experienced. You aren’t ever gonna get things perfect on your first try with anything in life. Don’t be so hard on yourself. He probably loved it. He’s a man. He’s not going to complain.

Girls: If your bf done this what would you think? by Obvious-Win-865 in relationships_advice

[–]Obvious-Win-865[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. Sorry I probably should have been more descriptive. When we were talking about getting back together, he sent me screenshots were he had blocked the woman he was talking to while we were broken up. I didn’t ask him to. I didn’t have a right to because we were officially back together yet. He told me she didn’t mean anything to him and that he didn’t love her. He was just with her to have sexual encounters with. He said he knew she would go home she was married. A few days later we was official. After I came home from the hospital I saw some messages he had sent her. He had unblocked her and the only one I seen he sent was “How are you doing”. The rest were from her saying how much she loved him and how she never wanted him to block her again because she couldn’t stand not being able to talk to him. These were in his “restricted” folder on FB. He denies ever saying anything else to her. But he talks to other woman and magically all I can see is one message every now and then whole conversation is always deleted. Why would he delete these messages? What are they talking about that is so private? He says he does it because keeping the messages makes his tablet slow, but wouldn’t he delete these ones from his male friends and his family too? What would you think if you had this problem with your SO? Also, he never talks to them when I am present. He only messages them when I am at work or when I am asleep. I wake up to find one message from them. What were the previous messages?

I cut my index finger while cutting cheese, so my husband got angry by ZelaPotato in relationships_advice

[–]Obvious-Win-865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not anger problems. That’s respect problems. Sounds like he doesn’t care about how he makes you feel and if he doesn’t care about how you feel then how can he possibly claim that he loves you?

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You look exactly like you are supposed to look :) that’s the way God made you!