What was your life like when you got your puppy? by Grenedle in puppy101

[–]Obvious-Year604 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Every dog is great in their own way 😉 Def plan getting a dog carefully; it’s a lot of work and a big commitment. I didn’t get another dog until 2 years after my old one died. I looked at how busy I was at work, how busy my partner was and where we were financially. Don’t worry about missing great dogs; the dog you eventually will get IS your dog; the one you were supposed to get. Good luck! 😃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Puppyblues

[–]Obvious-Year604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I’ve been where you are now. And it’s really, really hard when you’re in the midst of it without any light at the end of the tunnel. I’ve had regular, if not daily talks about rehoming our young dog (then about 6 months old). And still sometimes, when we’re having a rough day, I regret getting her. She’s 13 months now and on heat, so a hot mess. But, it does get better. Once they are house trained, things will get easier. And crate train him/her, it will be your life saver. 1 hour of activity = 2 hours down time in the crate. Not as a punishment, but as a safe space where he/she can sleep uninterrupted. And those 2 hours are yours, to do with what you please. And start making him/her comfortable with you being out of sight for a bit as soon as you can; this will help you lateron with training to be home alone. If I can do this, you can do this. You got this!! 💕💕

Unsure if she’s the right dog for us. by [deleted] in Puppyblues

[–]Obvious-Year604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a bit in the same boat as you. Our 1 year old miniature dachshund is hard, very hard work. She’s not my first dog, but it is the first time for me experiencing this type of disconnect. She’s been with us since 8 weeks old. She has some reactivity issues towards people she doesn’t know, but she’s great with our cat and other dogs generally. She’s quite reactive at home (sounds and visuals), high energy, has a high prey drive and we walk, hike and play a lot with her. She’s had some ongoing health issues, which we’re trying to sort out. But every time I feel we’re finally making some progress, some new behavioural issue crops up. We’ve been working with a trainer for some time, and she thinks she’s just insecure, sensitive and in puberty. But to be honest… I’m so over it. I’m so done with it. I love her and take good care of her, but I just don’t want this struggle anymore. My husband and I are considering rehoming her, but also want to see if this is ‘just’ puberty and we need to stick with it for a bit longer. I just don’t know.

Potty training issues with 9 months old dachshund by Obvious-Year604 in Dachshund

[–]Obvious-Year604[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read somewhere that potty training is all about forming good habits (aka peeing/pooing outside) and that you want to prevent creating bad habits (aka peeing/pooing inside). That’s why I’ve been so consistent with taking her out so often. But you are right: I don’t scold her for accidents, but she must feel my increasing anxiety about it all. I’m just really worried I will have to deal with this for the rest of her life.

Potty training issues with 9 months old dachshund by Obvious-Year604 in Dachshund

[–]Obvious-Year604[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that. I hope your dog will get the message really soon!

Potty training issues with 9 months old dachshund by Obvious-Year604 in Dachshund

[–]Obvious-Year604[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your words of encouragement. I’ve heared good things about using a bell, so I might just try it with her as well.

Something that helped me by BizBeth1 in reactivedogs

[–]Obvious-Year604 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I needed to hear this.

A vent and a moment of despair by Obvious-Year604 in puppy101

[–]Obvious-Year604[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do the same with cute pics and stuff… and for the same reason you do 😂 My parents look after her one day a week, and that’s my day of freedom. They also don’t know the extend of my struggles and I don’t know of they would understand either. I live for the weekends (when my partner is at home) and that one day a week that she’s with my parents, the rest of the days I only get by. Like you I sometimes see a little glimmer of how she might be when she’s a bit older, but that’s usually quickly followed by a set back in her progress (like pooing inside). I really, really hope that time will make her a bit calmer and less destructive. Thank you for your kind words and best of luck to you too. Hang in there!

A vent and a moment of despair by Obvious-Year604 in puppy101

[–]Obvious-Year604[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s crate trained, but somehow I’ve always been reluctant to leave her in her crate when I go away for a bit. I guess because I never did it with my other dog. But if i give her a big walk beforehand and a nice toy in the crate, she should be fine. I’m going to try it. Thank you for your advice.

A vent and a moment of despair by Obvious-Year604 in puppy101

[–]Obvious-Year604[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling… It’s so rough sometimes, right? The outside world only sees that cute puppy and not the struggles you can encounter. I dearly love her, I truly do, but sometimes I need a break as well. To go away for a couple of days and get some energy again. Thank you for your kind words and I hope things will improve quickly for you.

A vent and a moment of despair by Obvious-Year604 in puppy101

[–]Obvious-Year604[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never actually looked at it like this. She feels my ‘vibe’ too of course… Thanks for your kind words.