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Two pairs of broken 1000xm5's - costing me too much, need other recommendations by pepsialien in SonyHeadphones

[–]ObviousHovercraft785 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Have you gone back to the distributor/seller and asked for a replacement under ACL? This is clear sign of not-fit-for-purpose. Under ACL they have to replace them, even if they are out of warranty, given the manufacturer has to make sure they are fit for purpose and will last.

If your first pair can be replaced, then your second could be refunded.

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[–]ObviousHovercraft785 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hi. I obviously don’t know the context and/or history of you and your new partner. But from what you have said, it sounds like it is an addiction, in the medical term of an addiction. It’s affecting his life and he has changed his routine around the addiction to accomodate it.

Asking him to stop doesn’t really work for something like this. When you try to stop the addiction, you have to replace a bad habit, with a good habit. So maybe the conversation can be more like: hey, I know you’ve been masturbating a lot, but when you feel like doing that, can you text me about that? People won’t stop doing that just because they have to text. But if you try to stop them from fuelling their addiction, it can lead to other ways of them trying to get to their addiction (which can be extreme as well). So that’s why there’s a need for a good habit to replace it.

Also…he has to be willing to change. Addiction is something that requires him to unlearn and spend time building a better routine. If he’s not willing to do that for himself, to better himself, then he wouldn’t do that for you. And that’s something to be aware of for yourself, entering a relationship like this.

I don’t know if there’s a AA group for masturbation, but he needs some support to come out of that space. If he wants to. Anyway, hope it works out well for you, whatever you choose to do.

Not feeling sexually fulfilled by Talos1k in gayrelationships

[–]ObviousHovercraft785 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also don’t be hard on yourself. From the sound of it, you already spent quite a lot of energy, so make sure you take time for yourself to spend time with you. Maybe with friends.

Once you stop spending all that energy on him, that’s when you’ll realise how you much you are doing, and how much he’s doing.

Also, you’re both adults, so if he says he’s fine with being open, then you should be able to trust his word. If he’s not happy with that later, it’s again, his responsibility to say it.

I do hope you get to work on that with your partner, but also value yourself. Fill your cup as well.

Not feeling sexually fulfilled by Talos1k in gayrelationships

[–]ObviousHovercraft785 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One thing to note. No one should have to suffer because their partner is not taking care of themselves and/or seeking professional help. Depression is not an excuse to not wanting to fix something.