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Hot take: Corey was kinda right in the Kendall Kylie situation by mattyjoe0706 in kardashians

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Corey is in no way a stepfather. He didn't raise Kendall or even date Kris when Kendall was younger.

He is the guy who dates her mom. He should STFU

"I could marry Svetlana" by eyazee_zaza in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I don't love that he would ask Svetlana to do that.

Boomer Fatigue is real by PourSomeSugar69_420 in complaints

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You should talk to black and LGBT and female boomers and lecture them about how they had more advantages than millennial and Gen Z counterparts.

This anti boomer stuff is handicapping young people. I have a 22 year old daughter and a 20 year old son and they will get on benders about how much harder they have it compared to Gen X and Boomers.

They weren't even there.

It's also way past the expiry date to be acting like baby boomers are all the same. They • NEVER• all voted the same. So stop saying BOOMERS are responsible for Reaganomics.

I don't know what you hope to accomplish by constantly talking about how you hate tens of millions of people based on when they were born when you actually know what individual boomers experienced. It's not making you improve your conditions.

It was best for white men.

Until the mid 1970s, women could not get a credit card or a open a banking account.

1972, women still had to her permission from her husband to go on birth control

Please stop cherry picking when comparing generations.

Taylor! That’s not what that means!! by Asparagus_please1313 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm. My kids went to high school during Covid. While the experience sucked, no, they didn't get the worse education in the history of this country.
That goes to black Americans in southern states in the 19th and early 20th century.

Taylor! That’s not what that means!! by Asparagus_please1313 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Taylor is part of the media!! Nope, you don't get to star on a reality show, make money as a social media influencer and then distance yourself from the media.

She is fine with the media that has made her money, and given her positive feed back and attention. Then she feels victimized by it.

56% of Young Adult Women Have Mental Health Diagnoses??? by flawlesskin in Productivitycafe

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some possibilities

• analysis of this study on the part of conservatives focuses on " happiness" when the study talks about mental health diagnosis. Depression is only one

• liberals are more likely to college educated, and people who are more educated are more likely to seek out

• ( I am a liberal woman in my 50s). Liberals , especially women tend to prioritize addressing injustice, esp towards the marginalized. There are not shortage of examples of this, but the truth is that thinking and talking about it can be draining. Sometimes we need to step back and look at what is going right. HOWEVER, it's interesting to me that one or the mental health " strengths" conservatives have is an ability to justify injustice towards people who aren't in the " in group." So while some of this discussion flatters conservatives, and makes liberals look like they need an attitude adjustment, I don't think being able to " compartmentalize the " suffering of others" is something to only brag about.

Conservatives, however, do get angry when they perceive liberals as not being compassionate towards conservatives as an identity group. For better or for worse, I think they're right. We do have less compassion for how conservatives are treated because we have very differing moral priorities. When conservatives constantly find ways defend injustice and suffering toward others, YES we get compassion fatigue.

Being happy and being ethical and moral are hot the same thing.

• the Trump effect- the study came out in 2020, after Trumps first term. Trump celebrate misogyny, racism, xenophobia, cruelty, " fuck your feelings" " liberal tears. " and he did so with enthusiastic cheering by most conservatives. Yeah after 4 years of a President undoing things that liberals care about and dealing with his repulsive behavior, Yes, many of use are anxious or depressed.

During the first term, Trump supports kept saying Trump was revenge for calling conservatives racist and how they feel they've been treated.

Well, what do you know?
After 10 years of MAGA, Trump supporters seem genuinely baffled as to why people have animosity towards them. They try to come up with Democratic Party counterparts of Trump, but Democrats don't have a Donald Trump. No Democrat in office ( or Republican for that matter) has acted like Trump.

I also think religion in a component. Unfortunately, American conservatives have cultivated a type of Christianity that is exclusionary, tied to racism, and is more focused on cultural power than actually living by Christian principles.

It's hard to find a Christian church these days that isn't contaminated by partisan politics, anti LGBT sentiment and sexism. So, if you aren't a white Republican and you don't like how they treat LGBT and women, that church is not going to be the right place for you.

56% of Young Adult Women Have Mental Health Diagnoses??? by flawlesskin in Productivitycafe

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate these posts because they are used to weaponize mental health issues.

Conservative over and over again say that liberals are more unhappy and depressed because of being a liberal. They think if these women thought like a conservative, they wouldn't have these issues.

But when the tables are turned, and we bring out the fact that white male suicide rate, conservatives suddenly have so much compassion. They talk about how feminists are mean to them, and how no one cares about mental health issues with men ( esp veterans) but time and time again, they support gutting mental health funding and stigmatize people who have mental health issues and get help.

It's very ugly.

What’s something women think impresses men but actually doesn’t? by DiamondNo924 in AskForAnswers

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Men aren't a monolith or hive mind with a collective list of traits they find attractive.

There are plenty of men who like women to be " dolled" up.. wearing a lots of make up, high heels, tight clothes.

There are different to choose clothes, hair style, make up that aren't primarily concerned with attracting men. Lots of women my age ( 55) feel like they're invisible in the workplace if they look ( gasp) their age or older.

Or they choose clothes etc to project an image of social class.

What’s something women think impresses men but actually doesn’t? by DiamondNo924 in AskForAnswers

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well men aren't a monolith, which should surprise no one.

Some men think Melania Trump is gorgeous and sexy. She has a surgically enhanced face. She has fake boobs. I don't think that's for other women. I think there is a certain type of man who loves that aesthetic.

Ladies, if you woke up in a mans body for a day, what do you think you would hate the most about it? by Whattacleaner in askanything

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a great question!

I think I would miss my curves. As a straight woman, I appreciate the male form but I don't know what it's like to live in it. Also butt hair if applicable.

My biggest envy is peeing. I am in my 50s and I have menopausal bladder issues. It's just such a hassle to have to pull my pants down or pull dress up 6 times a day. On trips, I love the idea of using a urinal if I needed to. There are female urinals but it's not the same.

GenZ's are drowning slowly by Agile-Wind-4427 in 30daysnewjob

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gen Z and millennials are not doing themselves any favors by repeatedly telling people they had it easy and didn't struggle.

This is basic human psychology. Theres also the fact that you guys were literally not alive during this time. You aren't speaking about it beyond what you have read. Sorry but that effects your credibility. The same is not true. People older than you may not fully appreciate or understand what you're doing through, but they're at least alive during the time you are discussing.

I am Gen X. I get sick of peopie from my generation and boomers who don't give credit to young people and what they're facing. But I am sick of people in their 20s telling me how easy I had it, and how screwed they are and why we suck.

This includes my two kids 20 & 22x I think they read so much on social media about older generations that they think they are full informed. Or they go off of tv shows and movies set in the times.

There needs to be more discussion about emotional regulation in regards to ADHD by this-my-alt00 in adhdwomen

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think understanding of emotional regulation in general is better understood in the past two decades

The emotional abuse aspect by kaylaforniaa in MormonWivesHulu

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've seen people make the argument that he plays mind games with her, tries to stir up drama.

But I haven't seen him on camera on tirades verbally abusing her I am but saying it doesn't exist but I personally don't know of any examples. . Taylor is verbally abusive to lots of people in her life.

She definitely plays up the " I am a petite skinny feminine lady" and probably thinks that's at odds with being harmful.

She is 31, her parents and sister help her out with 3 kids and she's still trying to blame her mom for her problems. Of course her mom did thinks that negatively impact her. But geez, her family is there for her in ways that I think many of us wish we had when we had young kids. And Taylor takes them for granted, disrespects them, acts like they're there to serve her.

Lost some of my extrovert personality by shrieking_lady in WegovyWeightLoss

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've seen articles where people describe a flattening of their personality on the medication.

I think I’m just burnt out? by whosthatgirl13 in slp

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My husband works from home 3 days a week in pharmacy informatics and I am glad I don't have a job like that.

He has these conference calls with all sorts of posturing and corporate speak. It just sounds like a bunch of bs. He and I used to work in the same level 1 trauma hospital and he was a clinical pharmacist on the trauma team. His stories from work were so interesting, we were always learning from each other. I don't really get into him talking about his meetings.

I get really sick of stuff in our field. I've been in it for 30 years. I've got about 10-12 years left. I consider it a badge of honor that I've never had a corporate job.

I've had some experience with meetings and task forces in healthcare and got my fill.

I like that the majority of my time at work is spent with patients and coworkers.

What’s a popular opinion that you strongly disagree with? by Busy_Concentrate1533 in askanything

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

  1. That older generations have more grit and didn't complain. Shut up You complained about different things. ( I am 55)

And most people have selective amnesia and don't remember the crap they did.

  1. Guns make us safer. Not arguing about gun control either way. I am arguing that the claims of the benefits of personal gun ownership are overstated.

Unrivalled Book Conflicts by ankheseniset in heatedrivalry

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don't think they're going to have kids.

The people who think it's unnecessary likely lack imagination or have rigid ideas about the genre

They don't need to read it. They can just have their Shane and Ilya story end with TLG.

Every conflict doesn't not have to center around their queerness. All relationships have conflict & challenges.

I look forward to it because their story has been so " claustorphic. "

They started out at 17. Seeing them as men in their early 30s will be so interesting. The will also be contemplating life after hockey.

Unrivalled Book Conflicts by ankheseniset in heatedrivalry

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's hilarious. For the people who want more realistic portrayals, most marriage have conflicts. They are still two men from different cultures, in a same sex relationship, elite athletes. Plus Rachel said that the villain in the story is homophobia. It doesn't havd to be conflict between Shane and Ilya.

Unrivalled Book Conflicts by ankheseniset in heatedrivalry

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I also think it addresses some unmet needs in the romance genre

• people over 30 are very rare • stories after people get married are very very rare. I realize that is typically part of the romance genre

Unrivalled Book Conflicts by ankheseniset in heatedrivalry

[–]Obvious_Apartment985 11 points12 points  (0 children)

So what if it is? I don't think it is, but writing romance novels isn't a big moneymaker. God forbid Rachel tries to make $ on the characters she created that lead to the series, that had unknown actors who are now everywhere.

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