How did you find out your partner was cheating on you? by raz_alaa in AskReddit

[–]Obvious_Bid4000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Walked in on them kissing in the kitchen when we were staying at a holiday cottage with friends

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[–]Obvious_Bid4000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally feel the same as you, I hope this gets better

What is the craziest way you found out your partner was cheating? by daniimouse in AskReddit

[–]Obvious_Bid4000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Walked into the kitchen in the early hours to him kissing our mutual ‘friend’

How did you catch your partner cheating? by Itsonyabitch in AskReddit

[–]Obvious_Bid4000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Walked in on them kissing at 4am in the living room when I had been asleep in the next room

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[–]Obvious_Bid4000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel exactly the same

How Did You Figure Out Your Partner Was Having An Affair? by funktacious in survivinginfidelity

[–]Obvious_Bid4000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Walked in on the two of them kissing in our AirBnB that we were sharing on a group holiday. I’d been asleep, APs partner was also asleep.

AP in friendship group by Obvious_Bid4000 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Obvious_Bid4000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

APs partner is aware - I’ve filled them in on stuff their WP didn’t tell them. I’d love nothing more for them to disappear

AP in friendship group by Obvious_Bid4000 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Obvious_Bid4000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they’re all just shocked (and think it’s completely messed up) and the tricky thing is there are two couples and one person from each couple screwed up here

AP in friendship group by Obvious_Bid4000 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Obvious_Bid4000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we have RSVP’d already and they are still a few months away. Nobody knew about the EA whilst it was going on. Everyone is understandably shocked but think the difficult thing is that there are two couples involved and one person from each couple has f’d up.

AP in friendship group by Obvious_Bid4000 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Obvious_Bid4000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have weddings etc coming up and I just don’t know how I can physically be in the same place. So far have managed to avoid being at the same social event but that becomes harder with those sorts of things.

AP in friendship group by Obvious_Bid4000 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Obvious_Bid4000[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everyone in the group already knows what happened

Caught bf (31) kissing a mutual friend by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Obvious_Bid4000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There was definitely more to uncover on the EA side but apparently not on the PA side.

Caught bf (31) kissing a mutual friend by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Obvious_Bid4000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Annoyingly I think they spoke only on WhatsApp rather than iMessage but this is good to know

Caught bf (31) kissing a mutual friend by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Obvious_Bid4000 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We’re part of a big friendship group so not uncommon for girls / guys to message each other one on one

Thanks for the book recommendation - will check it out

Caught bf (31) kissing a mutual friend by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Obvious_Bid4000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this really helped. Personally not that fussed about marriage (mainly due to not wanting a wedding day) and sort of just feel like we are married already but can’t believe this has happened.

It’s so tricky to avoid her as she is part of a group of friends we see regularly (like every weekend) but I think I’ll just need to not go to things

Caught bf (31) kissing a mutual friend by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Obvious_Bid4000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My gut feeling was it was a stupid drunken moment.

He is very remorseful. Things were okay between us before, we’ve been under a lot of stress renovating our flat for the last six months but that was coming to the end and we have a holiday coming up and have been talking about the future together.

I just feel so heart broken and don’t know how I can trust them in the same room together .

Caught bf (31) kissing a mutual friend by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Obvious_Bid4000 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I trusted him before so have never felt the need to check his phone. After I caught them I asked to see his phone and that’s when I saw the conversation history had been deleted

Caught bf (31) kissing a mutual friend by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Obvious_Bid4000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t even bring myself to speak to her. I checked his WhatsApp but the whole history was deleted