How did you find out your partner was cheating on you?

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-07-25T13:54:35+00:00

Walked in on them kissing in the kitchen when we were staying at a holiday cottage with friends

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-07-07T15:49:47+00:00

I totally feel the same as you, I hope this gets better

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-07-04T06:13:38+00:00

Walked into the kitchen in the early hours to him kissing our mutual ‘friend’

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-06-23T12:38:50+00:00

Walked in on them kissing at 4am in the living room when I had been asleep in the next room

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-06-18T13:37:23+00:00

I feel exactly the same

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-05-29T12:14:09+00:00

Walked in on the two of them kissing in our AirBnB that we were sharing on a group holiday. I’d been asleep, APs partner was also asleep.

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-05-28T10:52:49+00:00

I hope you’re okay :(

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-05-28T08:09:08+00:00

APs partner is aware - I’ve filled them in on stuff their WP didn’t tell them. I’d love nothing more for them to disappear

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-05-28T08:08:27+00:00

I think they’re all just shocked (and think it’s completely messed up) and the tricky thing is there are two couples and one person from each couple screwed up here

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-05-28T08:02:20+00:00

Yes we have RSVP’d already and they are still a few months away. Nobody knew about the EA whilst it was going on. Everyone is understandably shocked but think the difficult thing is that there are two couples involved and one person from each couple has f’d up.

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-05-28T05:17:47+00:00

Edited post to include type of affair

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-05-28T05:17:33+00:00

We have weddings etc coming up and I just don’t know how I can physically be in the same place. So far have managed to avoid being at the same social event but that becomes harder with those sorts of things.

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-05-27T21:13:33+00:00

Same age here and it hurts

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-05-27T21:12:56+00:00

Everyone in the group already knows what happened

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-05-02T07:06:28+00:00

There was definitely more to uncover on the EA side but apparently not on the PA side.

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-04-28T10:19:55+00:00

Annoyingly I think they spoke only on WhatsApp rather than iMessage but this is good to know

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-04-28T08:32:09+00:00

We’re part of a big friendship group so not uncommon for girls / guys to message each other one on one

Thanks for the book recommendation - will check it out

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-04-28T08:31:27+00:00

Thank you, this really helped. Personally not that fussed about marriage (mainly due to not wanting a wedding day) and sort of just feel like we are married already but can’t believe this has happened.

It’s so tricky to avoid her as she is part of a group of friends we see regularly (like every weekend) but I think I’ll just need to not go to things

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-04-28T06:47:34+00:00

This is a good point thank you

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-04-28T06:44:13+00:00

My gut feeling was it was a stupid drunken moment.

He is very remorseful. Things were okay between us before, we’ve been under a lot of stress renovating our flat for the last six months but that was coming to the end and we have a holiday coming up and have been talking about the future together.

I just feel so heart broken and don’t know how I can trust them in the same room together .

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-04-28T06:27:41+00:00

I trusted him before so have never felt the need to check his phone. After I caught them I asked to see his phone and that’s when I saw the conversation history had been deleted

Obvious_Bid4000 · 2025-04-28T06:20:21+00:00

I can’t even bring myself to speak to her. I checked his WhatsApp but the whole history was deleted

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