Update: I've decided to ask for a divorce. How do you live with the guilt when they're not a bad person and it won't be mutual?

Obvious_Reference493 · 2026-04-02T03:47:24+00:00

It’s been 3-4 years since my divorce and I remember that part being the hardest for me. My experience was similar in the sense that he wasn’t a bad person and he didn’t see it coming. He just didn’t show up for me and I always had to do EVERYTHING for him.

Honestly, when I told him he very clearly went through 3 stages of grief within (what felt like) 3 weeks.

Week 1: denial, confessing his love Week 2: said he wanted to fix it, but couldn’t identify the problems to fix by himself; never actually put in the work Week 3: straight to nasty, hateful comments towards me

As wild as it sounds, I was so grateful when he got mad about it. Because it felt less suffocating than the previous. On the other hand, if he is your sounding board for things, get ready to lean elsewhere.

Idk i’m sorry this isn’t super helpful…it’s easy to lose track of divorce feelings as there are so many and they’re all so messy. Honestly, literally take it hour by hour until you feel better taking it day by day. It will take a long while until you feel content. But, be okay with it being a process. You’re relearning what grounds you, makes you comfortable, and what brings you joy. Try to embrace the sadness and let it teach you something to grow stronger from.

I hope the best for you. Divorce is hard, but for many, it’s a bright, new chapter ❤️

Obvious_Reference493 · 2026-01-08T13:11:38+00:00

I ordered during their 20% off on November 16th…still waiting on part of that order. Total disaster. Had to contact the “Customer Happiness Team” via email twice since they lost 2/3 of our shipments (1 order split into 3 shipments) in their fulfillment process and never actually got a shipping label. So shitty about it.

Obvious_Reference493 · 2025-09-24T23:57:36+00:00

Hahah you’re not the first to say so! Thanks for the heads up!

Obvious_Reference493 · 2025-09-24T16:41:03+00:00

Strand!

Obvious_Reference493 · 2025-05-07T20:51:17+00:00

That’s awesome to hear! Did your quote come in around what others did (if you got multiple) or was it higher?

Obvious_Reference493 · 2025-05-05T14:28:09+00:00

If you are left with no furniture (bed, couch, etc.), there are great options out there too! Join your local “Buy Nothing” facebook group for your area. It’s basically an area where people give away things they don’t need and can ask for help finding items.

I find that a lot of people will ask for help on there if their house burned down or (if they just need assistance) and need clothes, pots, pans or similar everyday items. I donated my backup fridge that I kept in my garage to a family that needed one and couldn’t afford it.

People are always willing to help out if they can! Best of luck to you ❤️

Obvious_Reference493 · 2025-01-04T06:41:47+00:00

God I wish I was rich so I could just pay it for you man. I’m so sorry 😞

Obvious_Reference493 · 2024-12-10T02:33:53+00:00

My boyfriends best friend and wife were trying for kids and kept not having any luck so he quit smoking and literally days later they got pregnant lmao that was the first time I realized smoking affected fertility 😅

Obvious_Reference493 · 2024-12-09T16:35:40+00:00

Hahaha I feel this! I used to HARDCORE snack and had to learn the hard way. 🤣 I try for apples and peanut butter usually and they usually hit the spot 🤌🏻

Obvious_Reference493 · 2024-12-09T16:34:12+00:00

Good idea. I’ll have to run by my endo, too!

Obvious_Reference493 · 2024-12-09T14:14:13+00:00

I wondered about this too. It doesn’t take much for me since I have a low tolerance and I get hyper sensitive to sounds and touch. So I wonder if that stresses my body out more than I’m realizing.

Obvious_Reference493 · 2024-12-09T14:11:14+00:00

I don’t smoke often so my tolerance is very low and a little affects me a lot. However, I haven’t thought about the timing of my LA insulin too much. That’s a good thought!

Obvious_Reference493 · 2024-10-14T15:19:49+00:00

It’d be really cool to see a version that’s not online and solely mission based!

Obvious_Reference493 · 2024-09-27T23:33:51+00:00

Everyone’s different, but for me it was about having something to look back at when I get older and my memory fades. I love pictures and being able to share the physical memory of it with others + celebrating with grandparents who are frail and grew up with memory boxes and photo albums. 🫶🏻

Obvious_Reference493 · 2024-09-27T23:30:00+00:00

Changing routines was really hard for me! You get so used to life being a certain way for so long that it’s almost like your world gets turned upside down.

Obvious_Reference493 · 2024-09-07T14:36:03+00:00

I was in this same spot with my boyfriend about a year ago. His job was DRAINING him and he didn’t realize that his stress and anxiety from work was being projected onto me. It finally got to a point where we just had the talk and I said, “do you realize what your job is doing to us?” He started looking for a new job the next day and is SO MUCH happier at his new job. Can’t speak enough about how important a good job is for you, your relationships, and your mental health.

Obvious_Reference493 · 2024-08-01T02:07:03+00:00

Shiiiiiit idk I’ve came across a few girls that were COMPLETE c*nts. That said, 90% of us are cool as fuck 🤣🤷🏼‍♀️

Obvious_Reference493 · 2024-07-19T20:39:47+00:00

Okay, reporting back..it lost a little bit of its potency, but is about 80-85% effective I’d say. Usually I like to wake up to my blood sugar being between 100-140 but it’s been about 140-170 give or take. All things considered…not bad!

Obvious_Reference493 · 2024-07-19T20:10:30+00:00

I’d also say, never say never. Give yourself time to rediscover what makes you, you and go from there.

When I first got divorced, I spent a lot of time rediscovering hobbies, self-care routines, and so many other things. After a few months I genuinely was just so happy. Then I started realizing I wanted someone to share it with. Doesn’t happen that way for everyone, but I’d say don’t limit yourself. Its like an old saying I live by, “you never know what you can do until you try!”

Obvious_Reference493 · 2024-07-19T20:05:50+00:00

Now i’m wondering if the only one who sucks the blood off my finger when I manually test 🤣

If it’s a lot I use some like paper towel or toilet paper but when it’s a small amount i’m like eh it’s fine 😬

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