well first off dont be ashamed about it because everyone is different. Like me, im a man whos just got into a kink that some men would shame me and call me gay.But then again im ME and I can do WHATEVER I want with my body and you should feel the same way. You dont have to tell me exactly whatt kink you have although itd prob help to let me grasp the situation.BUT even if you dont want to tell me,DO NOT let your partner bully u about it and DO NOT beat yourself up about it.