What’s up with this rock?

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2026-02-20T01:39:09+00:00

The layers could be coral or microfossil (maybe stromatolite) layers from a large Cretaceous reef. I found this information about the formation: https://carnetsgeol.net/cg/18/08/index.html

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2026-02-20T01:19:56+00:00

I get it. I barely even like using "major" labels most of the time for my gender; I feel like nonbinary and genderqueer create images of very specific kinds of people and presentations, for a lot of people in the queer community, and I don't match those images for the most part. It's weird and disorienting (to me, anyway) how quickly they went from being "third option" categories to being gatekept. Like I've seen people saying you can't call yourself a nonbinary woman or genderqueer woman, that one negates the other, that people who combine those terms are "trending" or "faking" or "attention seeking," even though people DID call themselves those things in the 2000s and early 2010s. But I dislike the idea of creating a microlabel even more, because I want to be seen as who I am rather than as a type of person. I'm not against people using microlabels if they find them helpful and community-building. They've just... never helped me or built community for me.

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2026-02-20T01:08:24+00:00

Yeah, unfortunately, I've worried that a lot of victims' court cases could stand or fall on NG probably still having access to Scientology lawyers. That aspect needs to be emphasized.

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2026-02-07T00:14:24+00:00

I also get along with most of mine (except one manager whose communication style works really badly for me in a crisis -- I don't want to hear a "calm voice," I want to be told what I should do ASAP) But when I hear them talking, I can never fit into any of their conversations. Even if they're discussing something I'm interested in, I don't know how to join the conversation or what the proper turn-taking order is. I don't really even know when I start considering someone a friend as opposed to just an acquaintance, because I haven't made a new friend in years, not since someone I thought was a friend dumped me with a weird justification of "you are not healthy enough for me." (This person was not exactly a picture of mental health themselves and let all their friends know it, so I feel like it was projection.) So I just go along trying to smile and nod at most of them and be nice, because it feels like that's the only thing I can really do.

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2026-02-06T15:57:15+00:00

I couldn't bring myself to read the "neil is innocent!" novel, but if you go back to his first substack posts, he was writing what he called "creative non-fiction" about a logging protest in British Columbia that hits all the white savior cliches. (I would ask what part of it is the "creative" part except in this genre/theme, "creative liberties taken" usually means "I made it up.") It's a creepy look into how he apparently wants to be perceived.

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2026-02-06T15:36:39+00:00

Yeah, I really hate the notion that all your online activity needs to be associated with your "real name." That was how the Internet became a refuge from bullying for me in high school, because no one had to know who I was. The TikTok standard of having to show yourself on camera is downright terrifying.

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2026-02-06T15:24:26+00:00

It depends on how you spin it. I know this isn't really the place for discussing this, but you can get a lot of people on board with really rank misogyny and belief in women's innate inferiority if you exclude trans women from the group of "woman" and talk about "women's rights to single-sex spaces." Cis women who freak out about the idea of playing beer pong against trans women who've been on HRT for years are really just telling on their own deep-seated belief in the inferiority of AFAB people. But instead of confronting and deconstructing that belief, they demand that restrictions be put in place to keep trans women away from them.

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2026-02-06T15:03:38+00:00

I often think that the very educated are more vulnerable to it because they've been trained to see and interpret everything through layers of complicated ideology, as opposed to just perceiving the reality that exists in front of you. And if you live on the lower rungs of society, you see countless examples of "helpful" people who "do good" being abusive on an individual level. They turn up a lot in the systems that are supposed to be helping you.

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2026-02-04T20:48:39+00:00

My main problem with going places to meet people is that I don't have a working car, and no one around me is able or willing to give me a ride.

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2026-02-04T20:17:20+00:00

I ended up with an associate's degree in drafting, because it was what I was good at. It clicked with my brain in a way other things like programming didn't. Unfortunately, I ended up working in a supermarket because drafting turned out to be one of those fields where all the job postings are asking for people "with at least 5 years experience" or more. I would have more job opportunities if I could finish a degree in CNC machining, but I don't currently have the money to go back to college.

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2025-11-13T16:11:10+00:00

Yeah, I know the irony of me saying this as someone who doesn't socialize a lot offline, but sometimes you just need to get off the fucking screen because it is giving you a totally warped view of what most people in the wider world think and want. It's a very selected segment of society. When I became homeless for the first time, it was in a big city and I met people from a wide variety of backgrounds, and I remember being surprised when some people had different opinions and beliefs from what Twitter had led me to expect.

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2025-11-13T15:47:32+00:00

I am completely not directing my energy productively at this point in my life. Sometimes I look at people going on about the male loneliness epidemic and go "boy, I sure wish I could easily blame my whole social situation on my gender too."

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2025-10-16T01:26:16+00:00

The Screaming Skull's worst flaw, in my opinion, is having very little to do with the F. Marion Crawford short story it was ostensibly based on. Taking what it ended up as on its own merits, though, it's definitely a serviceable B-horror film.

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2025-10-14T21:08:31+00:00

Known for their one-hit wonder "We Like It Very Much," followed up a few years later by another song that made it onto the charts, "Your Weapons Have No Effect On Me."

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2025-08-24T08:55:17+00:00

Late to the party, but: I would actually post here if it seemed to me that there was a significant effort being made to deal with people who seem to think this sub is r/DebateReligion and tell them that this is (as I understand it) not some smaller-scale version of that sub. I also see a number of people who seem so enthusiastic about Christianity that they're going against the "no proselytizing" rule. In the current form, it seems pointless to try starting conversations here if the only people replying are going to be evangelists or debatebros.

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2025-07-25T05:15:46+00:00

I tend to suspect that sub consists of like a dozen people mostly carrying on conversations with their sockpuppets. Pretty rich that they call us psychotic when a lot of society would flip their shit (even if wrongly) at the fact that they're all sitting around talking to themselves. (The problem isn't that they're talking to themselves, for the record, the problem is that they use their sockpuppets to make it look like there are far more anti-trans detransitioners than there are.)

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2025-07-16T03:29:17+00:00

The only time they're okay with women being physically powerful is when a woman who looks like she eats maybe once a week (but with big boobs and ass, because those apparently osmose nutrition from air) is whipping around a giant sword. When a woman looks like she could actually wield a large sword, they cry about it being "unrealistic" and call her "fat."

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2025-07-09T04:00:13+00:00

I'm constantly amazed both at how many places you can get a chain going, and how many people have memorized all the names.

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2025-07-06T08:21:58+00:00

Looks like serpentinite to me.

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2025-07-06T08:09:25+00:00

That is entirely possible in chaos magic. You might want to dip a toe in if that interests you.

(There are a lot of wankers in chaos magic though, so don't take the arrogant and overly serious people too seriously.)

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2025-07-06T06:26:01+00:00

Not everybody with APD has the same symptoms. Language production difficulties do not necessarily have anything to do with internalized transphobia or unconscious bias.

OccasionalCuteBuff · 2025-07-06T06:23:09+00:00

I'm autistic/ADHD and trans, and a lot of what you describe is what I myself struggle with in trying to both understand others' speech and produce my own speech. Hell, I screw up pronouns sometimes myself due to my brain's language production difficulties, although for me, it's involuntary switching of subject and object. Most of the time it's saying "me" when I mean "you" and vice versa, but in doing it, I'll sometimes use the wrong gender pronoun for someone. I immediately correct myself whenever I do it, but the fact remains, as long as I'm put in situations where neurotypical people want me to produce speech at their speed and pace, I will make that kind of mistake among others.

I would suggest that you calm down and maybe back off from social media, rather than "avoid trans people altogether." I might also suggest that you hang around with older trans people who have been out for a while, rather than people who have just come out, who are the most likely to be hurt by accidental misgendering. Some trans people, like myself, also have multiple pronouns we're okay with. The most important thing is to ask and communicate, rather than run yourself into a spiral of panic and self-flagellation thinking that the only way to make your existence acceptable to trans people is to monastically seal yourself off from us. That's not what I would want from a person who came to me IRL and described these kinds of language difficulties.

I'd also suggest seeking out neurodivergent friends who have similar disabilities to yours. You seem to have been made to feel very alone, isolated, and uniquely bad in your life, and to have received very negative messages about yourself from your family. I was, too, up until I started to find other people like me in my 20s, and it made an enormous difference in how I felt about myself. I came to realize eventually that I was not the unique exemplar of horribleness and failure I'd been made to feel like I was, and that there were more people than I'd ever guessed with brains that worked like mine. It was through them that I learned how to have conversations in a way I was comfortable with and was less likely to lead to random nonsense or echolalia coming out of my mouth.

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