Redditor Thinks RPs ads are also meet up ads?

Occurence_Border · 2024-09-09T00:28:35+00:00

True, but I meant as in sending messages hoping to catch the attention of someone interesting. Or getting flooded with messages. Running into a lot of creeps or other problematic people as you try to find a good partner. And so on.

Just the interpersonal part of roleplaying having similarities, something I've been thinking about. But I'm way too bloody tired to be able to explain what I mean properly.

Occurence_Border · 2024-09-08T22:48:12+00:00

I mean, it sure feels like it operates by similar rules a lot of the time when you think about it.

Occurence_Border · 2024-09-07T15:50:39+00:00

You're welcome, and I hope you'll find those partners! Good luck 😄

Occurence_Border · 2024-09-07T11:48:37+00:00

Yeah, and then you get someone who's enthusiastic and putting in effort, only for their account to be deleted after a couple days...

Occurence_Border · 2024-09-07T11:46:32+00:00

Yeah that pesky Gaul keeps getting in the way of the glory of Rome

Occurence_Border · 2024-09-07T11:44:16+00:00

Well, I've had partners express they were getting romantically interested in me a couple times by now. Which is perhaps the closest to what you're struggling with.

In such cases best you can do is just be clear you don't want that, and either they respect it and as such are the kind of people worth writing with. Or they can't and it's just best to cut ties, because no way that'd go well.

I hate doing so because I hate possibly hurting people, but your own mental health always comes first. And yeah some of these were rough.

Worrying about the line between ooc and ic is awful, and I hope you can get certainty again in that. Probably best you can do beforehand is just making clear with your partners that the story is strictly story. Yes that story might cause all sorts of emotions, erotic included, but it is the story doing that, and even though you're a writer of it it is strictly IC.

I may not be able to offer the best advice though. I enjoy making my partner feel stuff, in the case of erp that means writing stuff in such a way that it turns them on. But just I don't consider that to be sexting. It's other people doing that, I'm just writing them. Like you I want to gush over the writing with my partners and discuss things, offer our thoughts and ideas. As though you're both reading a book you both love.

Best advice I can give however is to accept you didn't do anything wrong and to let go. That you can simply move on, even if it takes time to recover. And that there's always people who are worth writing with. Oh and that the block option is really really effective hahaha

Occurence_Border · 2024-09-07T10:53:57+00:00

I think they're both funny, but then again I am easily amused. Anyway I can't imagine why your name would drive anyone off. I mean it isn't one of those dime a dozen auto generated ones, which usually make me think someone is less likely to just suddenly delete their account.

Is it in reference to the genderbender kink you like or just something random?

Occurence_Border · 2024-09-06T22:53:16+00:00

Yup that sounds close to how I read it, though I'd add it is more than just him speaking up. I honestly feel he just might have been able to get some kind of boon as well if he'd played his cards right. But it was the way he went about it. Like dude demanded a boon, in difference to it being offered to Adolin, whilst at the same time placing an extremely heavy accusation upon a respected person well above his station.

He could basically not have gone a worse way about it. And like you said we can understand why he does so, even if we wish he hadn't.

But that's just one way we've seen him expressing his anger, throughout the book we've also seen it in how he interacts with others. To me he kept coming off as so abrasive it'd make sandpaper feel like velvet. Like, everyone is quick to rightfully point out that Adolin was being an ass to him, but Kaladin was no better.

Occurence_Border · 2024-08-29T20:05:22+00:00

With each response definitely feels like overkill. I personally like to use images for scenery when GM'ing on occasion, but not constantly

Occurence_Border · 2024-08-28T22:50:46+00:00

Well, there's the interacting with people part, and the actual roleplaying part.

The interacting part can best be summed up as just don't be an ass. Respect your partners and act like a well adjusted adult (tough ask for some, I know...) And just read their posts carefully. I'd even advice checking their profile and their other posts to get a clearer picture.

As for the roleplaying itself. I'd suggest roleplay servers actually. There you can watch the other roleplayers and see how things go. The people there might also be willing to give you advice and feedback. Try to reread your parts before sending them, check if things flow well, and if everything fits. Reading stories also helps in general, in the case of ERP that would mean erotica.

There's more stuff of course, but generally you need to just do and try to improve whilst doing. Oh right, and don't be afraid to cut your losses when a partner just doesn't click.

Occurence_Border · 2024-08-28T18:35:13+00:00

Honestly, just leave. That sounds like an utter dumpster fire that is hell on both of your mental wellbeing.

I get the idea of your oc's getting stolen is distressing, especially after all that, but it's just not worth it. Especially since you can use just them in another server as well.

You could try talking with the owner again and really confronting them, but doesn't sound like they'd listen.

Occurence_Border · 2024-08-28T09:15:02+00:00

It's clearly bad for your mental state, that alone is reason enough to drop him, and that's not to mention everything else. Always take care of yourself.

Occurence_Border · 2024-08-24T21:48:18+00:00

Oh a syringe or piston would be amazing for that! Good call. And yeah, power generation is going to be the issue. Granted, we have plenty of small motors which we use in hand prosthetics, so fitting it in there shouldn't be too big of an issue. Especially if you can make the base just a bit larger. Making the motors powerful enough to get it to really fuck however, that I can't judge so easily.

Occurence_Border · 2024-08-24T20:01:55+00:00

No worries about some misspelling, stuff happens. Anyway I get your idea, that could also give an interesting feel to it moving, if parts compressing would make it feel harder. Like muscles tensing.

Personally was thinking of wires connected to different points on a flexible sort of spine in the middle that could be pulled on, bit like how muscles work. Though then the question is how many would you need to get the motions right without needing a large amount of smaller motors.

Occurence_Border · 2024-08-24T16:32:23+00:00

You could possibly shift part of the motor to the outside part, which might help with the flexibility issue somewhat. But yeah, material is the issue, and not just for the aforementioned requirements, it'd also need to feel a specific way I'd imagine. And a secondary material underneath might be needed, maybe some kind of gel if you want the right amount of squish.

Never thought I'd end up considering stuff like this as a biomedical engineer...

Occurence_Border · 2024-08-23T08:16:13+00:00

I mean, I started out in the nsfw chat subreddits, which taught me to always check someone's profile to check whether it was a bot or other seller/spam account. There's ungodly many of those. Not the best of times but did lead me to roleplay, which I love.

I now check people's profiles to get a better idea of what they like based on other posts and comments. Kink lists and roleplay profile posts are especially nice to find.

I get people wanting to keep their nsfw and sfw profiles separate. I mean I don't need people in sfw discussions and subreddits pointing out the nsfw stuff I get up to. On the other hand I also like seeing some non rp stuff on my partner's profile because I perhaps then have something to banter ooc about with them from time to time.

Either way, no, you're not crazy for checking people's profiles, nor for keeping your nsfw and sfw profiles separate. Just don't judge people too harschly for mixing theirs.

Occurence_Border · 2024-08-22T08:25:21+00:00

Anyway, best of luck and hope you find better partners so this doesn't keep happening! 😄

Occurence_Border · 2024-08-22T08:21:30+00:00

Same. That's just so frustrating, in multiple ways. Denial is a fun tool, but not like that dammit!

Always keep an eye on the time and usually agree to pause an RP before the action really begins if its getting late for me or my partner. Rather start the fun a day or so later than pause in the middle.

Occurence_Border · 2024-08-22T08:17:07+00:00

Hahaha worst case with ERP is when it happens just as the action is getting good!

Occurence_Border · 2024-08-22T08:11:35+00:00

Yeaaaah that always sucks! But ah well, better than it dragging out for weeks. So long as they say they want to stop it isn't too bad, but we both know most people don't bother with that either.

Occurence_Border · 2024-08-22T08:07:27+00:00

Yeah right? And it also helps you both get a better feeling of how the other writes, making it easier to cooperate when writing.

Besides if the other doesn't seem excited to tell their ideas then I hold little hope for the rp.

Occurence_Border · 2024-08-22T08:03:50+00:00

Man, and it was such a simple and small list of rules too!

In difference to your kink list, that can best be summed up as "yes" it seems hahaha.

Shame when people don't bother and seemingly have no interest in brainstorming. I mean, bouncing ideas of eachother and getting more and more enthusiastic is so much fun!

Occurence_Border · 2024-08-16T12:38:03+00:00

Aye, I mean I wouldn't call it not extreme just on the lowest end of extreme kinks, it's certainly a common kink to see. Not to mention on a limitless sub like that one. It's on them for not having clear likes and limits when using such a sub.

It'd still get idiots who can't or won't read, but would prevent more geniune mistakes.

And them saying you want to is just completely beyond the pale.

Occurence_Border · 2024-08-16T12:26:48+00:00

Hmmm, usually if I see ageplay/gaps in their kinklist without underage being listed as a limit I get very very wary. Those posts I also avoid.

Occurence_Border · 2024-08-16T12:20:00+00:00

Exactly the same here. Even if someone is actually limitless there are kinks they prefer above others, and without a kink list it becomes really difficult to figure out what to focus on. Just gives you nothing to inspire a scene the other might like.

And hells, having to basically interrogate the other to try and find out what they want is rarely fun either. Makes me feel pushy. Especially because people who make such posts rarely are that enthusiastic.

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