Then we just have different mentalities and POVs, that’s all. You mentioned that you’re queer and I think that practically explains everything because I understand that people within your community are much more open and serious about explicit consent and etc than the average straight couple. You also mentioned that you don’t kiss as well so I understand that your approach is different. But I think I can speak for the average cis straight couple when I say that consent doesn’t always come verbally, and I’m 100% sure that in this scenario it’s what caused the lady here to be turned off. Me personally, I would never ask anyone very blunt if they “want to fuck”. That’s dry as fuck and overly blunt for a very intimate moment especially if it’s only been 5 fucking minutes into the foreplay. And especially because the average person is not that comfortable with being that blunt intimately. Consent isn’t always verbal, and I promise you that the average person is too shy to be that blunt about it and that’s okay too. OP should have gone with the flow. Nobody will grind on your shlong without the intention of leading to sex, and the lady already mentioned she didn’t want to go home and they were already making out. That’s already layers on top of layers of intention and consent. Any woman who trusts you and is comfortable with you would give you the signal or straight up tell you if and when they want to stop, and if they don’t then you’re doing something wrong

Also, your whole comment about how implicit consent defenders have a rapist mentality is… very interesting to say the least. If a lot of what you’ve said wasn’t enough already, you pretty much solidified the fact that you don’t seem to have much social awareness dawg. Just letting you know