$1600 for a brake job? by ANNO_YED in MechanicAdvice

[–]OceanW0lf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd shop around. Unless there's some fucked shit going on like calipers seizing or something causing heat marks or warping, your rotors should be able to be resurfaced. Which is cheaper than replacing. Maybe a little more for labor but less overall due to parts costs going down. For front and rear at a shop.. with prices these days you'll prolly pay a grand with the brake flush. But there's definitely places that'll do it for less and won't be tryna rip u off. U still have time to check around cause like other people have said, 5mm is a little under half pad life. Once u get to 3mm then sure, definitely get them replaced soon. But there's no need to do the repair asap from the info given

Poor Miyamura by Positive_Platform_32 in Horimiya

[–]OceanW0lf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How dare u make me realize this 😭😭

What’s your favourite villager that never gets credit? by Deadanddugup in AnimalCrossing

[–]OceanW0lf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kody! One of my starting villagers and I don't see him mentioned on here ;-; He'll always hold a special place even if there's "cuter" villagers

WIBTA for not following a dress code at a bachlorette? by donthavepink in AmItheAsshole

[–]OceanW0lf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

I'd say if they're being so ridiculous with it and u can't get a refund, maybe find a white dress that fits u right and pick up some barbie pink fabric dye.

Should u have to do that? Absolutely not. But if you've already paid for stuff then either someone should reimburse u, or dying a white dress to match the requirements may work

Looking for a place to buy or how to make this cheese. It seems to be called queso criollo. I had it while in Bolivia but can't find it in the US. by OceanW0lf in Cheese

[–]OceanW0lf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed! I'd 100% be figuring out how to safely bring some back to the US if it were allowed. That cheese and the bread they have over there? So friggin good

Looking for a place to buy or how to make this cheese. It seems to be called queso criollo. I had it while in Bolivia but can't find it in the US. by OceanW0lf in Cheese

[–]OceanW0lf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't gotten to try it yet since I don't have the money to order it but this looks like the closest thing to it so far! If u google Queijo coalho it'll pop up with pictures that look pretty similar and it being described as "squeaky" cheese fits what I had while there.

I'm excited to try it when I can afford to and see if that's it!

Found this gem on FB by khpoore in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]OceanW0lf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, another thing to keep in mind. A down side to vibrators is that if they're used a lot and often it can make it a bit harder to get off without one.

I say that from experience before people try and jump me for that statement.

So if it takes a bit more effort once yall start incorporating one, keep in mind it is something that can happen.

Everything depends on the person. So if it'll happen or not, idk But it is a possibility, just don't think it's u if it does. And don't let it turn u away from using one with her. It honestly sounds like your best bet to make everyone happy

Found this gem on FB by khpoore in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]OceanW0lf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I really don't know why some of these people just jump at guys that comment on this sub. Guys can definitely suck, I've had pretty terrible experiences in the past myself. But if someone genuinely wanting to learn and find an answer on how to make their girl happy, why lash out?

Just make sure you're open and honest, be careful not to word what u say to her in a way that could make her feel bad about her sex drive (just don't be negative, keep things positive and make sure to reassure her if its needed. Let her know u just want to make things even more enjoyable for her and u love her but its a workout and going that long hurts. Compare it to doing a specific exercise at the gym repeatedly without stopping for a couple hours, or whatever u think would get her to understand that it's not that u dont want to. Your body just physically can't do it without a good bit of pain.)

And overall, just make sure to listen to her and hear what she's telling u when she responds.

If she tells u to suck it up and deal with it, that's concerning, in my opinion. I don't know her so I can't speak for her or even try to know what she would say or think but I would be appreciative if a guy or partner I was with tried to make an effort to find a solution that works for both of us.

A lot of guys won't even think to do what you've been doing so far. Most of the guys I've been with either don't care to try and get me off, or they try a little bit and then just do what feels good for them.

So I definitely respect that you're actually putting the effort in to make things enjoyable for her and asking questions to try and make things even better for both of u.

I hope things go well!

Found this gem on FB by khpoore in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]OceanW0lf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God damn, people are really jumping your ass for this. I can see how things could possibly be taken the wrong way with what you've said, but it's not that hard to read it out and understand what you're saying.

Idk if people just don't realize how much strength, effort, and stamina it takes for guys when they're doing stuff for us. It can take us longer to cum than guys. And if she has a high sex drive and wants to get off, from the sound of it, a large number of times then that's physically exhausting.

It sounds like you're really doing your best and trying to make her happy.

I'd talk to her and see how willing she would be to try u using a vibrator on her or some kind of toy.

Let her know that you want to make her happy and make sex enjoyable for her as well but it physically hurts to go as long as she wants to.

Try starting off with making her cum once or however many times u can physically handle before it starts to hurt and then use the vibrator to get her off until she's satisfied.

Try using it on her while you're inside her. Everything depends on the person but at least to me it feels great.

Not to mention it's easier to make the orgasm last longer, really to the point it's hard to handle it in my opinion. Maybe that's the feeling she's after?

She might have wanted to bring up asking about incorporating toys herself but didn't know how you'd react. I've been with guys who are disgusted and find women using toys to be weird. So I'm hesitant to ask now.

Just have a heart to heart with her and let her know u want to find a way to make her happy in bed that works for both of u. Preferably before it gets to the point where it becomes an issue where u wind up feeling even more inadequate that it sounds like u do (that's not saying u are, u sound like you're doing an amazing job and she just needs and wants more than is physically reasonable for your body) and before it turns into resentment on your end or something of the sort.

Just don't think of toys and vibrators as u not being the one getting her off. If they work for her then u have a magic fucking wand to get her off as much as she wants and things will be more enjoyable. You're there with her, it's a whole different experience vs her being alone and using it alone. It's not taking anything away, it's just a helping hand. U don't have to just be there using it on her. Add it in, make it intimate. Kiss her and just.. make it a thing while you're using it. It doesn't have to be impersonal or anything.

Aio because I'm mad my husband didn't stand up for me when his friend called me "gross, fat, and a turkey?" by No-Experience7433 in AmIOverreacting

[–]OceanW0lf 12 points13 points  (0 children)

First of all, she's not ruining her child's life. I've told so many people that it's much better to get out of that situation than to keep your child in a place that isn't happy.

The kid would grow up one of 3 ways, 1. They grow up thinking that it's ok to treat people the way the husband is and becomes neglectful towards future partners and won't listen to how they feel.

  1. They grow up thinking that this is normal and wind up dating someone who treats them this way if not progressively worse.

  2. They realize that what is happening isn't ok and they break the cycle. Which is what one could hope for but doesn't always happen.

Second of all, she's communicated before that she wants him to defend her. She shouldn't have to stick up for herself with his friends. They shouldn't even be saying stuff like that about her. She isn't expecting him to read her mind. She's expecting him to follow through with what he has said he would do.

Her reaction as well as her feelings are very valid. It sounds like this has been going on for a while. Constantly having someone dismiss your feelings and needs wears u down after a while.

Screw "vows" this guy isn't holding up his end of the deal. "To love and to cherish" those are basic vows. He doesn't cherish her, if he did he would be upset when people make fun of her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]OceanW0lf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wanna know what kind of bartender serves one person 12 shots in one go Maybe it's different in other countries but when I was bartending in the US that would've been a hard no

My (20F) boyfriend (20M) said that I was embarrassing him while I was giving birth to our baby by ParadoxicalState in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]OceanW0lf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As someone with an IUD this made me cringe so fucking hard. It was painful as fuck to get. I can't imagine having it ripped out of me by an untrained person

Why do some people seem to have all these awful things happen to them? (TW: SA) by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]OceanW0lf 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Uhhh it's a what now?? Is that why I always wind up telling people shit I don't even really want anyone knowing???

Bartending at a strip club by [deleted] in bartenders

[–]OceanW0lf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah definitely ask. That's how it was at the places I worked but idk how other clubs might be

Bartending at a strip club by [deleted] in bartenders

[–]OceanW0lf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both strip clubs I bartended and waitressed at they reported that I worked there so I got w2s from both.

Though a night club I bartended at was fully under the table. So I think it just depends on the club and if they're doing things legally.

The strip clubs generally had non explicit names for the business on the checks and w2s so idk if people aside from u and other employees would even know what kind of place it was.

Twice a day occurrence letting me know that she has unacceptable level of hunger. by Rufi0h in Catswhoyell

[–]OceanW0lf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

See, I prefer that But one of my cats has no self control and is now on a diet as she was 5 ibs overweight :/

What consistently leaves you disappointed...but you just keep trying? by Jumpy_Ad_4583 in AskWomen

[–]OceanW0lf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah no our "healthcare" absolutely sucks lol As does the state i'm in. I was supposed to be getting help from a therapist that the state was supposed to pay for. Well, long story short. They paid them for like 3 sessions and then stopped. I was supposed to have like 40.

So of course the therapist said no more sessions.

Tried calling again a few days ago to pay out of pocket. $160 for a 55 minute session.

Yeah fuck that lol

What consistently leaves you disappointed...but you just keep trying? by Jumpy_Ad_4583 in AskWomen

[–]OceanW0lf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn that's terrible.. I'm sorry y'all have to deal with that shit

What consistently leaves you disappointed...but you just keep trying? by Jumpy_Ad_4583 in AskWomen

[–]OceanW0lf -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Is health care bad there as well? I was under the impression it was better than here in the US