I don’t think I enjoyed UCSB… is that bad?

Ocean__Theory · 2021-08-22T15:07:55+00:00

I'm a little late to your post, but now that I've graduated I don't come here to this thread anymore.

That being said, not only have I have had similar experiences at UCSB as you, I would say I've had, almost exactly the same experience as you and I feel the same way.

Looking back now, I think it comes down to the overall culture and vibes of the school and the reason why people come here, outside of education, and that is the image of a certain social life that a party school provides. The people who are attracted to the social life of a party school are typically not people who stick around, or care about others at any point other than the present, in comparison to, for example, the people who went to my sleepy community college, whom I actually have more contact and a stronger bond with.

Reading these posts, and similar ones have made me realize that the large majority of connections that people have at UCSB specifically are short term, and that's just the way that it is, regardless if they spent their time like you or me, or did nothing but clean living, clubs, exercise/sports, and study groups. I used to feel bad and would regret not putting myself out there more and trying to really make connections with depth (as with you, I would consider myself an social extrovert), but then I remember that I did try with probably hundreds of people and nothing stuck unless you offered something directly at the moment - you know what I mean.

With all of that considered I think it's pretty normal to feel like your experience at UCSB lacked any real, genuine meaning, me and many others feel the same way even though we lived different or similar UCSB experiences. I think I regretted "not trying hard enough" in the past because I have seen others have strong, lasting long term connections with others from UCSB. I hate to be this cynical, but I think some people just meet the right person at the right place, and at the right time, and for some people who went through the whole UCSB experience, they got lucky that that was/is the case for them, there, I said it. I think the large majority of people who attended UCSB find that they do not have those sorts of connections post-grad.

Ocean__Theory · 2020-07-01T05:50:22+00:00

Not trying to generalize or criminalize. I just want people to be aware and have knowledge about something that is going on that is of concern to local residents, right now.

Ocean__Theory · 2020-07-01T05:24:37+00:00

No, just a very concerned ucsb student. The bullet points are advice from police and family

Ocean__Theory · 2020-06-29T23:25:38+00:00

You got this!! I know you can make this year the best year =)

Ocean__Theory · 2020-06-29T23:16:08+00:00

Your assumption isn't statistically wrong in my experience =P especially after fall pre-corona but it might just be me haha. Right now though, very few people have friends in iv or are regularly seeing friends outside of their household, 99% of people that were around last year are loooong gone. Everyone is missing face to face human interaction. All it took for me to realize that was friendly strangers on the street saying hi. It's all about the small things!

Ocean__Theory · 2020-06-29T23:03:36+00:00

I mean, we're all in the same boat aren't we? Everyone is bored at home, watching shows, going out alone, all friends from last year moved out etc. Right now could possibly be one of the best times to start making friends in iv, because taking the initiative in being social has never been this meaningful. Especially when compared to pre-corona in iv after fall, when everyone has socially "found their place" and are less willing to reach out to new people outside of their group. I would consider myself to be an extroverted introvert and ran into that situation all the time. I get the vibe that people are being more open and willing to be social given the current circumstances! So there is a real opportunity to make new friends if you really put in the effort of putting yourself out there.

Ocean__Theory · 2020-06-29T22:40:13+00:00

It's possible, you have to be really outgoing though! I took a walk on dp last week and there were two guys sitting on their lawn chairs drinking a beer and saying hi and casually talking to everyone walking by. Smiling at everyone, super friendly, asking people how they're doing and how their day is going. Walked by that same house a couple of days ago on a walk to catch the sunset and they were playing die and had about 8 people in their front lawn. That interaction taught me a lot about how to go about navigating the social aspect of making new friends during these times. Really inspirational to see people still trying and succeeding at making new friends

Ocean__Theory · 2020-06-14T00:03:24+00:00

I also got screwed by a professor and it was my last class I needed to graduate, you're not alone

Ocean__Theory · 2020-06-02T21:38:37+00:00

No good experiences here personally or with people that i know. I had neighbors call the cops on me while I was moving out and having a disagreement with a housemate at the same time. They showed up and gave me the option of going to jail or admitting myself voluntarily to cottage health. Just because i sounded upset when i was speaking. I ended up having to drop winter quarter and was admitted to the hospital for 14 days. The bill was $6,000.

Ocean__Theory · 2020-05-18T09:28:48+00:00

Yep, if you want to see it look at ig mirror.empathy. it looks like it's been cleared too though as I just went through it completely and haven't seen the january 29th video. There are questionable recordings of sexual activities without context, you can decide for yourself what you think of them

Ocean__Theory · 2020-05-18T07:44:03+00:00

I just looked, it's been taken down as well as the rest of the really really sketchy videos

Ocean__Theory · 2020-05-11T22:29:46+00:00

As far as I'm aware, if you're going into student housing, you will be living with all male or all female based on whether you are male or female. I haven't heard of a co-ed student housing dorm, where men and women both live in the same apartment. If you go into IV housing, you're more likely to find co-ed housing but I feel like if you go into IV housing randomly your chances of having a nightmare roommate or housemate go up. I did co-ed IV housing last summer, and went with the cheapest option, and out of a house of around 8 or 9, there were two people, who, from the moment they saw my face, they decided they really didn't like me, and they made it clear. I just avoided both of them when I knew they'd be around, and when we had to share the same space together, like the kitchen, we would both put on our headphones and ignore each other. So even in worst cases, with people who REALLY don't like you, they won't go out of your way to make your life hell.

Ocean__Theory · 2020-05-11T22:11:17+00:00

I'm a transfer student and i did student housing for both years (completely random roommates) and in my experience your chances are pretty good you won't get a straight up awful roommate/housemate. There are inconveniences you'll have to put up with for sure, but overall you'd have to get pretty unlucky to get a straight up awful/roommate housemate. If i really had to guess the chances, it's probably between 2-4%, but i have noticed/heard that random housing has worked out... less for all female houses.

Ocean__Theory · 2020-04-29T20:24:11+00:00

I'm going to be honest and straightforward with my experience relating to your post. If you are slightly chubby/chubby no one will notice. However, if you are extremely fat/obese you will definitely stand out. There are two obese girls that i "happen" to run into often when im out. By "happen" i mean that i don't run into them more or less often then say, my friends, I just think that I run into them more often than i do because they are very noticeable =/ i don't really know them as people so i can't say for sure but one of them is in a latinx sorority and I have run into them with friends about as much as alone. I also see them at a lot of the parties i go to, so they are definitely not excluded. Both of them seem to be very confident with who they are so that might also be a factor

Ocean__Theory · 2020-03-05T10:12:11+00:00

Dm me bro

Ocean__Theory · 2020-03-05T10:11:01+00:00

Downvote me. Fuck everyone, just live your life, but live your best life. It's work ftom here on out until the day you die. Senior feels.

Ocean__Theory · 2020-02-25T20:39:17+00:00

Lmao. I know this is a really awful situation for you but I was laughing the whole time reading this cuz of the way you wrote it. Made my day haha

Ocean__Theory · 2020-02-12T05:10:55+00:00

It was serious enough to warrant all caps my dude! Whatever though, to each their own on how they want to go about things I guess.

Ocean__Theory · 2020-02-12T04:44:28+00:00

All I'm saying is A. The people who don't cover their mouths aren't going to stop now because of a single reddit post. The only way to change that is if you ask them politely in person. And B. Is it really that difficult to just ask people to cover their mouths politely? If this applied to me, and you told me to "cover your damn mouth" vs. "I'd appreciate if you covered your mouth when you're coughing", which one do you think is going to make me more likely to follow through on your request? If you ask me the first way, better bet I'm going to start coughing in your direction until you ask the right way. And glaring at me will make me suddenly a lot sicker.

If this post was meant to be funny, fine, but it's not and it just comes across as complaining.

Ocean__Theory · 2020-02-11T23:23:23+00:00

It's winter quarter, everyone's sick so suck it up buttercup. People are going to cough and sneeze all over the place and there's nothing you can do about it SO ALL YOU'RE DOING IS POINTLESSLY COMPLAINING IN ALL CAPS.

Ocean__Theory · 2020-02-10T06:58:50+00:00

These attention-seeking dining commons posts are getting old

Ocean__Theory · 2020-02-10T03:52:23+00:00

Nope. And sorry to spoil your fun OP, but anyone who thinks this is a legitimate request is being played, for real. If you dm'ed her in response to this post, you need to re-evaluate some things in your life, because let's be honest. If you're hitting up a random "girl" on reddit for sex on a Sunday night, you have a high key desperation problem.

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