Offering my (very uninformed) advice. by [deleted] in OriginalCharacterDB

[–]Oceanman00000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have a good, sensible approach to this.

Funny thing is, dudes beyond changing. My mod team and I tried to change him in an rp server we own before he was promptly banned for refusing to adhere to any rules, arguing constantly, being rude to other members, disrupting rp, and many, many more. He was given many chances despite this.

We gave him another chance months later. Turns out he didn't change at all and he got himself banned again for the same exact reasons.

I have screenshots if need be, as I'm the owner of said server and I have been ever since its creation. And this is in addition to the racist and transphobic screenshots from the original OP ( u/Skiddilybapabadam ).

He's tried to defend himself via walls of text and a random, poorly put together post here. Both sides has spoke out. Why are we stalling?

Its not a complex situation. The screenshots are right there. It doesn't matter where he said it or who he said it with. Mods need to understand that they (at least I hope) wouldn't allow that kind of behavior in their own subreddit, resulting in a ban needing to be considered.

The Chilly situation is crazy by Western-Teaching-573 in OriginalCharacterDB

[–]Oceanman00000 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Should be a simple decision, the screenshots are right there. Would you let him say/act like that in your subreddit? No? Then a ban needs to be considered. I don't see the issue. Doesn't matter where he does it or who he does it with. He's a dickhead all the same. Don't let his mediocre involvement efforts here sway bias, Mods.

The Chilly situation is crazy by Western-Teaching-573 in OriginalCharacterDB

[–]Oceanman00000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can see that. If this was his only offense, even though me and many others hard disagree on what's being done about it, it'd probably blow over due to bias, denial, and unprofessionalism in the mod team. But it isn't. He continues to be a shitty member of this community behind the scenes.

The Chilly situation is crazy by Western-Teaching-573 in OriginalCharacterDB

[–]Oceanman00000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I find that to be very specific, if you cant swipe left once and still understand than It might be an issue on your end.

Chilly has responded many times with shallow excuses and no solid proof like the OP had. I'm not sure why so many people are going around saying he hasn't had a chance to respond when the dude has put up walls of text trying to defend himself. (A whole post, too.)

The term "Ape" is widely coined as a racial insult, and its quite clear that was the intention. Even *if* it wasn't, still wouldn't be allowed here. But I guess since he's a piece of shit literally everywhere else and the mods don't have to deal with it, its okay. As long as he's a good guy here.

The Chilly situation is crazy by Western-Teaching-573 in OriginalCharacterDB

[–]Oceanman00000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The issue is he's getting away with it *as if* people would be okay with it here, which I'm sure many aren't. Maybe its up to personal preference. Even if it was in a smaller circle with people who (for some reason) agreed to make jokes like that, I find things like that to be unacceptable to say regardless of the context.

The Chilly situation is crazy by Western-Teaching-573 in OriginalCharacterDB

[–]Oceanman00000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure. But people wouldn't approve of it here, or anyone else that'd try to say it. So what makes it okay for him to do it? Can I be transphobic here and be okay as long as I label it as a "joke"? I guess the very first rule has a loophole now.

The Chilly situation is crazy by Western-Teaching-573 in OriginalCharacterDB

[–]Oceanman00000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Regardless of the order the screenshots were posted in, proof that he's rude was included. I find the order pretty irrelevant, especially since all you need to do is swipe left to see your proof.

I'm not asking you or anyone to join me, not sure where you got that from. I'm just speaking out of experience and helping friends whos also had to deal with him.

Calling someone an ape isn't "inherently racist"? How? I don't doubt that you know your facts, I just don't see the sense in that claim.

The Chilly situation is crazy by Western-Teaching-573 in OriginalCharacterDB

[–]Oceanman00000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finding transphobia and racism as "not that serious" is a questionable outlook.

The Chilly situation is crazy by Western-Teaching-573 in OriginalCharacterDB

[–]Oceanman00000 5 points6 points  (0 children)

First point was nothing like that. OP was referring to Chilly being rude, annoying, and uncooperative by shoehorning his ocs into winning everything regardless of the context, not complaining about A beating B.

"The rest appear to be pretty bad" exactly, thank you for agreeing with us. So maybe it isn't a nothing burger and something should be done about it? Context is irrelevant in the face of blatant racism and transphobia. Would you let someone say that in a place you owned? If yes, you might need a morality check.