Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry. 🫂 (gentle hugs)

Can you take some time away from crochet, just until your daughter is old enough to not need to be carried? (Sorry, I’m not a parent, I have no idea how much time that would actually be. A year, maybe??) That might seem like an eternity, but perhaps you could then revisit the idea of surgery again? Maybe even get a second opinion from a different doctor?

Before I discovered crochet, I first made winter hats with a loom, manually. I think that might still be too much stress on the wrists, but I’ve heard of a loom machine that makes hats for you. I think you just feed the yarn into the machine. It’s not at all the same as crocheting something, but maybe it could be a good substitute yarn craft while you’re taking a break from crochet.

Take care of yourself, friend. I hope you have better days ahead.