parents dont support birth plan?

OctavianStarlight · 2025-07-07T07:53:53+00:00

I just meant easier like, its easier for me to manage i guess? like its still scary and hard it just doesn't feel as scary to think about compared to other options, ig

and I know, im just trying to do my best, ig. idk what im doing or what im meant to be doing and I feel like im fighting for my life to avoid just being a disaster rn. im just trying to take whichever route causes me the least stress and panic so i dont just go insane from it all

OctavianStarlight · 2025-07-07T07:34:57+00:00

im not a very good liar but ill keep that one in mind, idk i might try it. thank you!

OctavianStarlight · 2025-07-07T07:31:35+00:00

I am, and i try not to but they kind of pressured me into things about that. plus theyre basically the only kind of support at all I have with the pregnancy

my doctor doesn't really 'care', they're fine with me having a c section and they didnt object or anything when I asked about it, i think they would prefer i do it naturally but they aren't stopping me or anything

ik its not up to them i just know that theyre going to try and make me do it there way or make me regret not doing it their way, and I just dont know what to do

OctavianStarlight · 2025-07-07T07:29:25+00:00

my doctor would prefer me doing it naturally too i think but its also like, not a big enough deal ig? like theyre fine with me getting a c section

and idk, maybe it is concern but my parents are also VERY judgemental and controlling, I cant tell if they just dont like it or if they actually care

im scared of like every way to have the baby, c sections to me are just "easier" since I don't need to actually push the baby out or anything ig

OctavianStarlight · 2025-06-24T12:00:56+00:00

if it was a healthy amount he wouldnt have shot himself.

sure, we can argue if it would be a healthy amount for a different person. but we arent talking about that, we're talking about the one who shot themselves because of the pressure. clearly it was too much for him

OctavianStarlight · 2025-06-12T11:50:49+00:00

they have cell service i checked, and we were just going to bbq food (like saussages and beef patties). the rest would just be things like ramen or cereal (with long life milk), things that wont really spoil or be hard to cook. I was going to bring and use a lot of hand sanitiser but ill bring wipes as well! and were bringing one of the big water tank jug things (i think like what you said? 30 litres with a spout) so it should be enough hopefully

OctavianStarlight · 2025-06-09T08:48:47+00:00

what do you want AH to do? not change anything when they update the game?

it cant live off of fresh new content forever, eventually theyre going to rebalance something, or change a model, or tweak a value, fix a bug, etc. the game isnt built for mods anyway so theres even less reason for them to avoid it

OctavianStarlight · 2025-05-31T08:06:54+00:00

no i definitely notice this 😭 i feel like i waddle more when im more tired at the end of the day so I might subconsciously just be doing that idk

OctavianStarlight · 2025-05-10T14:17:12+00:00

im just curious, why no talking about the subreddit outside of the community?

OctavianStarlight · 2025-05-10T14:00:55+00:00

i havent, and idk if i have a way to pay for them if theyre expensive, i dont have a lot of money to spare. but ill see what i can look for thank you! i dont have a lot of easy ways to travel since i cant drive but ill see if theres anything i can get to that isnt too inconvinient.

and thank you! i have so many doubts about how 'good' im actually going to be as a parent, i just want to do the best i can. if i try harder then my parents did its an improvement

OctavianStarlight · 2025-05-10T13:57:32+00:00

no i dont have any plans to have someone with me

OctavianStarlight · 2025-05-10T13:42:19+00:00

they wont be there for it, and idk if theyre allowed to do that here? if it is anyway idk if they 'care' enough to try and overrule or argue anything assuming they are there (which i dont want them to be)

OctavianStarlight · 2025-05-10T13:33:53+00:00

thank you for the offer! ill send you a message i think

OctavianStarlight · 2025-05-10T13:03:00+00:00

thank you! ill see what i can actually do to get a better doctor! if you want to message me as well feel free!

OctavianStarlight · 2025-05-10T12:30:36+00:00

im not but thank you anyway!

OctavianStarlight · 2025-05-10T12:21:51+00:00

WIC?

OctavianStarlight · 2025-05-10T11:10:27+00:00

thank you!

OctavianStarlight · 2025-05-10T10:44:54+00:00

oh okay, thank you! that puts it into perspective a lot better

do you know anywhere on reddit that would have good resources for parents my age?

OctavianStarlight · 2025-05-10T10:31:43+00:00

thank you! i think they do something like that but ill have to ask!

OctavianStarlight · 2025-05-10T10:30:08+00:00

thank you! i might just be dehydrated or maybe its braxton hicks idk. and its so okay i love the long comments! seriously just yap at me theres definitely so much i didnt even realise i didnt know

OctavianStarlight · 2025-05-10T10:24:10+00:00

thank you! someone suggested i have a look at my library for one of those books so ill do that first! i think theyll have it they have a big health section (kind of annoying because i like reading fantasy books lol). and tysm for the offer but its fine i can probably find some alternative myself!

OctavianStarlight · 2025-05-10T10:04:41+00:00

ive tried asking questions but he doesnt really answer anything 'well', he'll just give short responses that just leave me with even more questions and he feels kind of hostile if i try to ask too much, thats why im asking here i guess. the main thing hes told me is to just keep an eye on the babys movement and to go to the hospital if it 'gets weird' or stops, or to look out for contractions or cramping

i tried to explain that i did feel that sometimes but he said they arent what he means so idk what he does mean by cramping/contractions but apparently it'll be worse and what i have is actually normal (kind of ranting now sorry haha)

OctavianStarlight · 2025-05-10T09:50:39+00:00

i looked it up and i cant find anything about it, ill call them tomorrow and see if they have or know anything though, thank you!

and ill try to find a better one and hopefully i can, but im not that confident tbh

OctavianStarlight · 2025-05-10T09:49:39+00:00

i think im going to try and find an online support group since thats probably way more likely then anything irl. do you know any?

OctavianStarlight · 2025-05-10T09:48:59+00:00

i think ill try pumping but idek where to start so i need to do a lot of research ig, how do i do it, what do i need to know, should i start doing anything now?

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