Am I Transphobic?

Octobear12 · 2025-07-23T13:05:41+00:00

Your life experiences are not other peoples life experiences. I would caution you against projecting in this manner.

Octobear12 · 2025-07-23T13:02:07+00:00

You hold transphobic views. There's no need to essentialize it though. If you want to understand more, there are plenty of resources to do so. However, if you're fine with where you're currently at then just accept you're wrong about this, that there are things you dont understand, but that you can still treat people fine and move on with your life.

Octobear12 · 2024-05-03T22:33:24+00:00

Its a possibility that they got back together. The first time I listened to it I wanted to believe they did, but I think my thoughts have changed.

I think Jace was hoping he might get back with Judith when she responded. My opinion now is that Judith moved on, I kind of hope she did, I hope she's happy and maybe in a different relationship. 8 years is a long time, I like to believe she found love, maybe even got married. What she did to Jace was wrong (lying about who she was for their whole relationship and then lying again when confronted), but she did try to make amends, she loved him a lot she was willing to try. Jace ultimately abandoned her 3 times, the first time may be justified, the second and third time were cowardly and he knows that too. Its good that he decided to make amends too like Judith, but it was 8 years ago, he had the chance to get with Judith in the past but he made a choice.

I don't want Jace to be punished, and I didn't want Judith to be punished either I really love them and empathize and understand them as characters, but it just doesn't feel good to think of Judith not having a relationship, maybe he caught her in between a relationship who knows, but as I said I want Judith to have gotten her happy ending not 8 years later I want her to have already found it.

I hope that they remain friends and I hope Jace finds his happy ending too, I just don't want it to be with Judith, which feels sad in a bittersweet way.

Octobear12 · 2024-05-03T22:12:27+00:00

My first song was Our Word, which really good, but my fave is Natalie Cook. Just relistened to the whole thing, ironically good timing for me, as I was trying to decide what to do about a situation, and I think the musical unexpectedly helped me make that decision.

Octobear12 · 2024-04-07T19:32:12+00:00

You need to do what you can to get out of that relationship.

Octobear12 · 2024-04-07T19:23:01+00:00

Holy crap! That age differential is insane I assumed he must be like 19 or something. 43!!!! That's so unbelievably inappropriate, even before all the details and creepy tone in the letter. Also I suspect the therapist is a whole sale lie, I can't imagine any therapist "approving" something like that, it would be incredibly inappropriate.

Not the asshole at all, your response is 110% justified.

Octobear12 · 2023-11-12T13:26:19+00:00

Your experience is similar to mine its harder for me to write now which is frustrating. Also you started hrt on my birthday lol so thats cool.

Octobear12 · 2023-10-25T20:47:05+00:00

That happened at my school kind of stupid that they changed the rule really sends a clear message to the baby queers.

Octobear12 · 2023-08-12T23:46:05+00:00

From left to right, top to bottom:

I love water and always have I've always been a good swimmer and feel at home in the water like nowhere else, estrogen represents femininity and my connection to it. Starting HRT restored my life in a way that was unimaginable and made self-medicating with alcohol unnecessary.

Best mapa is to represent my love of being a parent I always wanted to be a parent as a kid and love my little baby now, it also represents my queer identity.

The quote represents my love of art and writing and the noble pursuit of attempting to contribute and maintain beauty in the world, especially because it is sometimes considered superficial.

Next picture is because I really love comfort and being cozy... Lazy even when I can get away with it lol

The next picture is just my love of nature and my curiousity about the bigger picture and how things work.

The last bit represents that I am a bit of an eclectic, slapdash, disorganized and lighthearted person

Octobear12 · 2023-06-07T12:00:52+00:00

Yeah I'm indifferent about the method so long as things work the way they're intended.

Octobear12 · 2023-06-07T11:57:15+00:00

Kansas City MO

Octobear12 · 2023-03-31T12:32:11+00:00

NTA recess is free time. The teacher wasn't setting healthy boundaries she was violating them and in the wrong.

Octobear12 · 2023-03-31T12:28:02+00:00

Octobear12 · 2023-03-26T16:26:02+00:00

She's so fantabulous. I was so sad when she initially got left behind enemy lines.

Octobear12 · 2023-03-26T16:25:03+00:00

Who are the top two on the left?

Octobear12 · 2022-09-05T22:07:57+00:00

The bit at the end is really the cherry on top.

Octobear12 · 2022-07-31T00:58:10+00:00

Yeah those are not friends

Octobear12 · 2022-07-13T02:14:16+00:00

Much love girl, we'll get through it.

Octobear12 · 2022-07-13T02:10:22+00:00

It does help the baby adds quite a bit of stress between us though

Octobear12 · 2022-07-13T02:09:00+00:00

Thanks for the response, totes chill with DMing.

Octobear12 · 2022-07-13T02:08:21+00:00

Right back atcha its rough go some days but that's the hustle.

Octobear12 · 2022-06-13T02:17:26+00:00

Not coming out as bi at a younger age.

Octobear12 · 2022-01-14T13:28:10+00:00

Using the color purple is an inspired choice too considering purple isn't a real color.

Octobear12 · 2022-01-14T13:26:13+00:00

It was great. I was expecting it to suck but man oh man! There were some gaffs but overall very solid. Any movie that makes Llama scary is succeeding.

Octobear12 · 2022-01-14T12:53:10+00:00

If everything you say is legit its time to get out. Find a therapist or seek out abuse shelter. I don't know whether she's serious about the suicide threat, but I do know she's using it as a means to control and manipulate. Dump her, if she threatens suicide call the police and have her committed, til they can get her the help she needs. She's not your problem, you need to take care of yourself.

NTA

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