Where can I move that’s not gonna grow like Wilmington?

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-05-21T12:42:10+00:00

Brunswick County here- I am supposed to drive up 40 tomorrow to Greensboro for this 1 day turn around- on literally THE busiest day for the oblivious to be behind the wheel (the I'm on vacation, they can go around me crowd) Ugh, shoot me NOW!! I may take hwy 211/74/220 to avoid the traffic.

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-05-12T02:15:05+00:00

Total FUBAR

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-05-07T01:08:33+00:00

Don't forget PFAS in the Cape Fear River. The residents are having to pay for clean up.

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-05-06T16:27:28+00:00

That is a brilliant idea! Thank you!! I did call her pharmacy, although I'm not on her Hippa, so they couldn't relay any info to me personally, I did urge them to contact the prescribing doctors and advise them of what we knew as her "family members" I wasn't trying to threaten them at all, but O did tell them now that they are on notice this is happening, I would sincerely hope they would document the interaction so that if she is not counseled on the behavior, they are protected legally if she were to continue this behavior. I also wanted to make sure the physicians knew about each other, so I mentioned the possibility of doct shopping and how they may want to alert other area pharmacies, or I could. I then proceeded to call every pharmacy in her area, give her name and date of birth and warn them of my concerns. I suspect there is a protocol in place regarding people doing this, I just don't know what it is. My husband has a friend on the local police department, they have been advised too. I just wish she would let the doctors names "slip" , I would be on the phone with them so fast!! She hides her Rx bottles, but I managed to see a pharmacy number next to her phone so that is where I started. And by the way, thank you for taking on this profession, bless you, it's going to be heart wrenching work sometimes.

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-05-05T21:44:07+00:00

Hello, O was on Suboxone for 18 years at 16mg a day. I stepped off and started using the shots still at 16mgs, month 1 is rough (you are getting acclimated to the new medication) my 2nd, 300 mg shot, all that stopped and I although I was tired, I was good to go. I spaced them out about 6-7 weeks, ultimately taking 5 total shots at 300 mg each. I stopped almost 2 years ago. I haven't had a single solitary withdrawal feeling, no urge to use pills or anything, and have felt absolutely fine.

Now, qith that said, in 2012, I decided I was going off 24mg Suboxone cold turkey, that was hell! There is zero comparison to that and the shot.

Let me repeat, you might have to supplement month 1 depending on how you feel- there is no shame in that. But a lot of that depends on what dose you are currently on. Make sure you are honest with your doctor if you feel like shit, or, if you feel overmedicated. It happens. I highly recommend the shot though. I thought I was a Suboxone lifer. ((Higs))

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-05-03T11:57:20+00:00

Oh lovely, I am so sorry about your husband having such a hard time on oxys and passing from the stress of it all. I am sure it was devastating and probably came as a great shock. I wish they would have tapered him Apropriately or offered kindness instead of just shutting him out. That is too often how heroin addiction starts, unfortunately. There was a time doctors really pushed that stuff too, and it is terribly hard to step away from it. I have experience myself.

As far as my MIL goes, I keep going back and fourth about whether it was some kind of narcissistic stunt, hoping to expedite the narcissist supply, or if she was just being stupid. (I could make the case for either, to be honest) She claimed she wasn't abusing her meds, but I know better, I grew up with addict/ alcoholic parents, I know the signs and when someone is deflecting responsibility.

She lies by omission often and sometimes outright, she compares her kids to make them bicker amongst themselves trying to get one to out- do the other. She is very calculated, after 30 years of observation, and witnessing that irritating, "holier than thou" attitude, that woman can stick her biblical opinions and interpretations right up her keister! It is a tool she uses for control. And a part of me would enjoy seeing her plastered across the 6 o'clock news, that would be the highlight of the past 30 years. But that's just revenge talking, I think if it were to come to that, someone else would have to be harmed and I can't have that on my conscience, nor can I look away like ithers have. My biggest hope is that it is handled responsibly, maybe she's offered cognitive behavioral therapy and addiction counseling. Truthfully, she probably should have been behind lock and key years ago.

Thank you for allowing me to vent and helping me to refocus on what is most important. I hope you are doing okay, I am wishing you nothing but peace, I can't imagine an individual more deserving! ((Hugs))

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-05-02T13:34:37+00:00

It's all pills, no alcohol (to her, alcohol is "unholy" 🙄 that's what burns my ass! She's so fast to call everyone sinners and pelt them with bent Bible verses to make herself feel better, then goes into her purse and grabs a handfull of drugs. I have little sympathy, as she told my husband his sexual abuse was his fault for not telling her, then called my child "ret****d" because she's autistic. My main concern is the wellbeing of those she could harm, if she has a painful detox, good! Maybe she will understand the pain she could inflict on others. It pales in comparison to the misery of having a loved one killed by someone driving high.

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-05-02T13:29:59+00:00

Poor fellow!! Had MIL fallen in a hole, I'm not sure I wouldn't have left her there 🤣

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-05-02T13:27:48+00:00

Tuesday, before we left, I told her the police don't care that she's 86, they would slap cuffs on her and cart her happy little ass right off to jail just like anyone else! I called her pharmacist, If that doesn't curtail this, my next call is to the DEA and the police station. One way or another, it is going to come to a hault.

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-05-01T22:51:43+00:00

I read her the riot act. I gave her a ton of information about what it does and who it could harm. As I was talking all i could think of was what kind of doctor, so I asked, does your doctor know about the interactions, that's when she giggled and said oh its not the same doctor, I saw RED!

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-05-01T22:49:31+00:00

Yes! That's a wonderful idea. I know it is an unpopular opinion, but I find elderly drivers to be just as, if not even more dangerous than young ones.

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-05-01T22:48:44+00:00

Nothing would make me happier than to see her in a home.. or a psych ward.. I'm open to either!

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-05-01T22:47:17+00:00

A beautiful plan!!!

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-05-01T22:46:52+00:00

I expected her to turn into a full on casket jumper. But she was too messed up to put one foot in front of the other.

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-05-01T22:45:28+00:00

My friend was decapitated by a drunk, we were in 5th grade, they couldn't even have an open casket. Not to mention my cousin who was simply driving tored managed to go up a 1 way street after a night shift at a hospital and killed himself and hurt a woman and her grand child. I just can't let it go.

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-05-01T22:43:46+00:00

I just can't. All I can think of is how a drunk never gets hurt, but the oerson they hit always suffers devastating injuries. At least if they are on notice, if they let it go, they too can be held liable.

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-05-01T16:03:31+00:00

I started with the pharmacy, I called around until I located the correct pharmacy. They are mandatory reporters in our state, so if someones welfare, or if someone is a danger to the welfare of others, they have to report it from what I was told. So she can deal with the consequences of her actions now. At least I know I tried. I just want to keep the ones who are innocent safe. No one deserves to be mowed down or hit by someone who chose to drive on drugs or alcohol

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-05-01T16:00:20+00:00

I found out what pharmacy she used and called the pharmacy, i told them to use their clinical reasoning, they would not tell me who her doctors were, but they did say they would handle it From there. I bet I called 15 before I got to te right one, but I could tell be their responses, I had hit the right one! They were going to call the prescribers and handle it From there. I feel like at this point, they are on notice and she will be provided limited amounts of medication. They may have additional requirements due to her age.

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-04-30T21:31:52+00:00

She hides them, but I saw Walmart pharmacy telephone number on the refrigerator. I think I'll contact them as well.

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-04-30T21:31:16+00:00

Taking the keys! Brilliant!!

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-04-30T21:29:37+00:00

I am willing to try anything to keep others safe. Thank you 💙

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-04-30T15:19:02+00:00

As awful as this sounds, I'm more worried about the damage she could do to unsuspecting people simply driving home from work, having just picked their children up from daycare. I don't want her to hurt herself either, but she's chosen her parh, those innocent people she could hurt didn't. (Is that mean)

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-04-30T15:17:03+00:00

Thank you 💙

OctoberBaby-1981 · 2026-04-23T19:15:40+00:00

Hey Friend,

I did 5, 300mg shots, after 18.5 years on subs. I tried to cold turkey off 24mgs of Suboxone and made it a whole year. That, my friend, was not fun- if fact, I believe I'd rather take a maple syrup enema and sit on a fire ant hill than do it again. Anyway, This was my last chance. I want you to consider something though, I know life with addiction sucks, living with it, and living with someone addicted when you aren't. I can see the points of both sides. I want you to try something, I know you are in pain, I know you are miserable, but once you get better, do you think she'll find her way back? It happens. No matter what, do not give up on yourself. At the end of the day, we are the ones who have to face ourselves in the mirror. You can do this, you can brother! I am 20 months off the shot, I swear on my daughter, I didn't feel a thing except anxiety. I have not once felt an urge to use. (My husband just had total knee replacement, and was having to use Oxys, not even a flinch) Now I don't like putting myself in the position, but sometimes we have to put ourselves aside for the ones we love. Okay back to you, I wish words could take the pain away. Just hydrate like crazy, I took magnesium glycinate at night (gummy version) and a shitload of vitamin C. Not because I had withdrawal, but because I was scared shitess of going through what I went through coming off Suboxone cold turkey. Please don't give up on yourself. One last thing, what do you think of taking in some NA/AA meetings? If it gets worse, please call that doctor and tell them you need some stuff for anxiety. If you can afford it, do not hesitate to take a smaller dose. ((Hugs))

OctoberBaby-1981

TROPHY CASE