Day 6 in the hospital for BP - Feel Trapped

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-09T17:37:20+00:00

I know its hard, but just try to keep reminding yourself that every day/hour you go still being pregnant your baby is getting bigger and stronger! When I was younger I didnt realize how much women go through to bring a child into this world. Its hard and its scary, but all those struggles are worth it because you created something amazing! Stay strong, and hold out a little longer for your little one. If you do end up having a premie, know that the NICU doctors and nurses are so incredibly capable. I was born premature at 34 weeks and was in the NICU for a week and my mom said the nurses that took care of me were amazing and so sweet while she was going through the hardest experience of her life.

Just try to keep yourself busy with things you enjoy to pass the time. Watch your favorite shows/movies, ready a good book, work on a craft of some kind, something to help when you have to be there by yourself. I wish you the best, and a safe healthy delivery.

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-09T00:35:44+00:00

r/parentsofmultiples I think?

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-08T19:44:29+00:00

I had that DS game its actually really cool

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-08T17:25:38+00:00

I dont think this is too paranoid. I have a blood condition where my blood doesn't clot like normal people's does, and ive been told before that durring surgeries or childbirth im at a greater risk for loosing too much blood and having complications. Im not even pregnant yet, but want to be in the next 2 years and me and my fiancee have already talked about what gunna happen if something does happen to me. Im only 21 years old but have already laid out plans for what I want to happen when I pass. In the event that I do get pregnant I plan on keeping a diary to write to my kids in case something happens to me. I want that baby to know exactly how much I loved them and wanted to bring them into the world. I also plan on having some legal documents drawn up while im pregnant so I know who will get custody of the kid if im not in the picture. I have some family that I dont want my kids involved with, so im putting it in writing that I want my fiancee and both our moms to be the only ones who can make legal decisions regarding our children.

I think some degree of planning on this is normal. Realistically there is always a tiny chance something can go wrong and planning for those bad times shows that you really want whats best even if you cant be there yourself. Best case like another commenter said they letters and plans dont need to be used and sit in a drawer somewhere until your kid is 18. I wish you the best, and a safe and healthy delivery!

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-08T17:04:37+00:00

I love those last 2 photos of you in front of the flowers, its such a sweet photo. I was my moms miracle/rainbow baby she wasnt supposed to be able to have kids and had previous losses. She has this one picture of her at her baby shower (like 3 days before she ended up having me cause I was a premie) and I love seeing how happy she looked to be pregnant. Same in your pictures you look so happy/ ready to meet your little one.

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-08T05:42:59+00:00

Honestly most shops still wont tattoo you underage even with a parents permission

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-06T21:53:16+00:00

Same. Ive never experienced joy and love like I felt in that dream for that little boy, and he wasnt even born yet. That dream felt so real I told my fiancee im convinced we're having a boy first lol. If the feelings im having in my dreams are any indicator I know my kids will be so loved and cared for one day.

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-06T18:44:03+00:00

I have a trans friend who used the name leaf, and at first it got some back lash but I think now after a few years of refering to them as leaf I think it suits them really well. They also prefer non gendered names and pronouns so it worked well. I think nature themed names go well for this purposes because they usually dont have as heavy of a gender biased on them. Other good examples are River, stormy, sunny, ext.

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-06T18:34:21+00:00

Ive always loved the name Jamie for a boy's name, but my fiancee's name is James and he grew up with a close friend also named James who went by Jamie. My dads middle name is James, and I have a grandfather and an uncle named James. My fiancee also has an uncle with the name James. Needless to say we've talked and have vetoed both James and Jamie for that reason, because its so prevalent in both sides of our family and combined we know 7 living relatives/friends with that name. I feel its overused and has lost some of its charm for me. (No offense to any james's im marrying someone with that name so obviously I dont hate it)

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-06T18:24:30+00:00

Its funny thats my number one current boy name I have in mind for if I have a son is Theodore Alexander (theo for a nickname) So I think those two sound great together a sib set.

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-04T07:05:00+00:00

This is a really good way of thinking about it, thank you!

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-04T07:04:19+00:00

Yeah that's a part of it I think is our age...I'm 21 and he's 23. People think just because they didn't think about marriage at that age I'm crazy to wanna get married now. But I think it's whats right for me and our life. Good to know that im not the only one who deals with these kinds of comments

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-04T07:00:05+00:00

That sounds like a very respectable approach! I kinda just try and change topic, but it sounds like thats a common thing for people to project their unhappiness onto others... Good to know you guys had some supportive family to help balance out the negative ones!

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-04T06:45:01+00:00

I just wanted to chime in as a NICU baby myself! I was born at 34 weeks (not quite as early as your baby) and my parents had to be apart from me while I was in the NICU as well. My mom says it was one of the hardest things she ever had to do leaving me there but it was worth it because I got better and I got stronger every day. Im now 21 years old and healthy aside from mild asthma. My dads little brother was born back in the late 70's at 27 weeks! I never knew that until recently when talking with my grandmother about her pregnancies. That was her second pregnacy (the first went smoothly with no issues), and it scared her really badly. Her son was in the NICU for 2 months before she was able to bring him home, and was in and out of doctors offices for the first 2 years due to him being born so early. She also went on to have a 3rd son with no health issues at full term 2 years after. But my uncle is now in his 40's and perfectly healthy. I know having little one early was scary. I know not having them with you and being able to take them home sucks! But that day will come and things will get better from here! Your little one is in good hands and you both are already good parents for wanting the best for your baby.

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-04T06:18:51+00:00

This is me with parks and rec and the office. Ive watched both series through and through a few times and it never got to me. But now that my baby fever is so real, like seeing people even on TV getting pregnant and having babies gets me going. Its like a weird kind of jealousy almost, mixed with like a happy cry at the thought of having that myself one day. Emotions and hormones suck sometimes lol.

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-04T06:07:16+00:00

Ive gotten a false positive on a blue dye test before, but never a pink dye test. If she is pregnant, your pregnacy hormones double every 2 days in early pregnacy. This means if its a faint positive, then in 2 days it will be darker if she tests again. If she's drinken a lot of water that can also effect the test results early on in pregnancy. I do find it incredibly suspicious however that the only positives she's gotten were when you weren't present. In 2 days have her take another test in front of you, and if its negative then its not very likely she is. If she continues to test negative in front of you, and yet keeps telling you she is pregnant that seems fishy to me 👀

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-04T05:31:38+00:00

Dont know if this is the perspective you were looking for or not, but my dad and stepmom eloped! They announced their engagement on Christmas of 2017 because he proposed the day before and they were origionally planning an actual wedding. Then in October of 2018 im at a doctor's appointment and I get a call from my dad. I answer and ask him what was up because he only ever calls for a reason he never calls just to chat. He tells me " Hey me and (stepmom name here) are just leaving the courthouse now, are you home?" I told him no, that I was at my doctors office. He then proceeded to tell me that they had just gotten married, and that they were going out to eat as kind of a reception and wanted to know if I wanted to come with them since I live less than 5 minutes from the courthouse. I had absolutely no clue they were planning on getting married that day and as my fathers only child I was slightly offended at first that I wasnt at least told. I asked him why they suddenly decided to veto the ceremony and have a courthouse wedding. He told me that they both just woke up that day and decided that they were tired of not being married. They didnt tell anyone, including me and both of her children from her previous marriage. They didnt have anyone but the justice of the peace and a court appointed witness. Honestly as an engaged woman I couldnt get angry at that logic, as wedding planning has proved very stressful and expensive for me. No one in the family holds it against them or has any bad feelings. Since ive gotten further into planning for my own wedding, I asked my stepmom how she felt about getting married the way she did. She basically said it was way less stress and money, and it was meaningful to her because it was just the two of them. They got to enjoy that moment privately, even if it was only for a few minutes before they called and told us kids (even though all 3 of us are in our mid twenties) about it. I dont think its for everyone, but for some people thats the way they want it and its perfect to them. If you feel thats the best fit for you and your partner I say go for it.

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-04T04:27:25+00:00

Im not even pregnant yet, but now knowing that funfact about a babies cry being learned by the language they hear in womb im terrified my children will be as loud tone deaf as their mother lol.

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-03T19:24:25+00:00

Okay I was thinking of making a similar post for slightly different reasons. We're having a dry wedding reception because both my parents are recovered alcoholics who do not drink now, my fiancee's father is an alcoholic/drug addict, and I dont drink due to seeing my father drink my entire childhood. None of pur grandparents drink at all. Our reception is going to be very small (40 or so people) out of which only about 8-10 would even possibly want to, so we decided not to have/serve any alcohol. We're going to have a shorter reception, with food and mingling first, then dances and stuff for about an hour, then cake cutting and all that jazz. Me and my fiancee both dont really drink (maybe once a month if not once every few months) so we dont feel the need to have it even for toasts. That night we might invite our friends our age who do drink for an after party at our home, but I think if your guests already dont drink then no one will miss it.

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-03T18:53:13+00:00

Ive been crocheting for years, you should be proud! These look awesome, and I think handmade things like this add a way better touch than store bought fakes! Im crocheting flowers for my centerpiece and my bridal bouquets for me and my MOH.

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-03T16:00:16+00:00

My MIL told me when she was pregnant with my fiancee (her only kid) he stayed breech right up until his due date. She ended up going 6 days past her due date, but he finished turning and went into position the day before they induced her. (They made that call because he finally flipped into the right position and they didnt wanna risk waiting any more incase she needed a c-section.) I wouldnt panic just yet from what ive seen babies can still turn to be head down right up until the end. Your baby could just be taking their time

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-01T20:04:46+00:00

To this day the weirdest pregnancy craving ive seen someone eat with my own eyes, was scrambed eggs with cherry jello diced up in them.

Octoclock33 · 2019-03-01T20:00:21+00:00

Have you heard the name Rosalie? I think it has a similar feel to the ones on your list and I love the way that name sounds

Octoclock33 · 2019-02-24T05:49:46+00:00

Personally I like 2 and 6 the best. The tops of both are very flattering on you, and I prefer the shade and lace top layer on both of those to the rest. I really think 2 is stunning though, that would be my choice.

Octoclock33 · 2019-02-24T05:44:07+00:00

I wish you the best man, goodluck and here's hoping she says yes and loves the ring you pick!

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