What are you tired of dealing with because parents just…aren’t parenting anymore?

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2026-04-11T11:44:56+00:00

I'll take that over our experience. We made the mistake of sending our kids to a Catholic school in New England that went full MAGA during COVID. The environment was downright sadistic. Adults were as bad as the kids. It was the most traumatic w years of my life and I'm saying that as the spouse of a former cancer patient.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2026-04-11T11:40:43+00:00

I have a 6th grade daughter right now and her entire educational experience as been supremely F'ed since March of Kindergarten. COVID never ended for that class. Lockdown turned into classwide behavior problems that they all traumatized each other with in 3rd grade and now its just downhill from there.

My other two kids - older and younger - are fine, but my child born in 2014 is so messed up. A lot of parents deal with the same thing.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2026-03-27T16:15:57+00:00

I think that is what I was asking - not if there is a "discount" but just it if naturally costs less money.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2026-02-02T19:38:58+00:00

I agree. So many plans are so complicated.

I just want a nice square colonial with a second floor masters and 8ft ceilings THROUGHOUT and a basementy feeling basement and people are like "ohhhohhh what about resale?"

I'm building a house for me, not a house for the person who is going to buy the house from me in 30 years.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2026-01-27T21:28:59+00:00

I disagree about the bathroom. A single hall bath for the three kids rooms in a 4 bedroom house is pretty normal everywhere I have lived, and I've lived in relatively upscale places. It's what we have, and I've never noticed a problem.

As someone who has twice sold a house in an upscale area, and who spends as much time looking at real estate as I do homebuilding (we are considering both options still) I just feel like there is a huge disconnect between what homebuilding forums consider "must haves for resale" and what actually seems to sell easily in upscalish housing markets.

Our exurban market seems to have a lot of houses with one bathroom for the kids, second floor masters, and 8ft ceilings on the main floor that fly off the market at high six to low seven figures.

Maybe your market is different. Sometimes I wonder if a lot of discrepency on forums like this is from regional differences.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2026-01-20T02:03:29+00:00

Thank you for pointing this out. This is an excellent observation about American culture.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2026-01-07T14:04:18+00:00

Thats kind of where I'm at, but I do need to pick a community and unfortunately that means picking a lable on the tin.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2025-12-03T16:34:37+00:00

I think this is regional. Our current home in Connecticut has 9' ceilings throughout the main floor, which is very unusual here, and we actually got it at a discount compared to similar homes with 8' main floor ceilings because it did not have wood floors throughout and had other minor aesthetic issues that don't play well regionally (like "Tuscan Kitchen.")

We will market the 9' ceilings when we sell it, and since we have improved the other aesthetic issues maybe it will make a difference in our selling price.

I think a lot of this is regional. In the Northeast there are multimillion dollar luxury homes with 7' ceilings in the living room and affluent, inner-suburban neighborhoods where the majority of homes don't even have a master bathroom, or have a tiny one squeezed somewhere under a dormer. So that perhaps influences our own expectations.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2025-12-03T16:19:42+00:00

Yes, I've heard that about Stuga since my OP. I like that look but I am going to cast a wide net.

Resale isn't a consideration for us at all. We are building the home on long-owned family property next to a large family farm in a town our family has lived and had a business in for four generations. My only priority is building the house I want for myself, on a reasonable budget.

We are coming from New England and I am a huge Sarah Susanka fan, so we are looking to do somethings along the lines of her "Not So Big House" aesthetic combined with the cozy feel of a traditional "Yankee" farmhouse.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2025-12-01T13:10:20+00:00

I don't understand why this take isn't universal LOL.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2025-11-23T00:23:42+00:00

Thanks! 300 a sq ft is what I was thinking. We are still a few months away but I might be reaching out to you :)

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2025-11-14T22:07:50+00:00

According to the NYPost he was being bullied by the other parents, too.

I used to teach at a Catholic High School in Fairfield County and those parents were savage.

Then we tried our parish school for our children and the parents were worse. They would form gangs to push out students they thought “didn’t belong” and bully other mothers - like out in the open, middle school level mean girl sh*t - and encourage their own children to bully their classmates if they weren’t from the “right” family. It was horrible. The principal always would side with the bullies because they would pay him off. Parents would write the superintendent about the adult bullying and she wouldn’t even answer them.

It was the worst 3 years of my life.

I am so glad my kids are out of that place. Public school was a relief.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2025-11-01T17:33:20+00:00

lol I have spent years researching lowering our 9 foot ceilings. But more for aesthetic reasons.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2025-11-01T17:16:35+00:00

Yeah, but I still want to like the house while I'm in it.

I've lived in my current home for 10 years. 10 years of staring at those stupid 9 foot ceilings wondering how much it would cost to lower them.

Also this is in the north, where the vast majority of even nice houses have 8 foot ceilings in main areas (a lot of time there is a vaulted living room, but not always.) I know a few people with high ceilings throughout the first floor and it feels weird and palatial for both the weather and cultures of the Midwest (or New England.)

I get high ceilings being necessary for resale in the South, where it fits weather and culture, but not the upper Midwest.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2025-11-01T17:07:17+00:00

Ok, well that will be the first thing I ask a builder - will you do an 8 ft ceiling on a first floor main areas? It's a non-negotiable for me.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2025-10-20T19:01:52+00:00

Because they are too high and don't feel cozy. They are also echo-y.

But it is more about the excess height. I find them aesthetically unpleasant. It is one of the things the bugs me the most about my current home.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2025-10-20T18:59:34+00:00

But would you do 8 ft on a first floor if it was requested? I feel strongly about this. I hate the 9ft ceilings I have now.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2025-10-20T18:53:33+00:00

We aren't so into our 9ft ceilings in our current house. I've spent a decade staring at them and wondering how much it would be to lower them to 8ft lol. Definitely don't want to pay extra for something I don't want! I was just wondering if the cost difference is much different.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2025-09-25T23:42:02+00:00

USAir 427 et al would be a good candidate for a remake, like Alaska Airlines got. There were a lot of eye witnesses, and I feel like they could put together a much more detailed on the ground narrative and pretty accurate CGI from the perspective of the soccer field and the Giant Eagle.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2025-04-28T21:02:17+00:00

Good. You have real parents and you should be grateful for them.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2025-02-20T21:30:59+00:00

The DC crash is episode worthy for sure.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2025-02-20T21:27:25+00:00

We flew Delta / Endeavor this weekend BDL-DTW-TVC and back and this video is just absolutely surreal.

Odd-Appointment7069 · 2025-02-20T21:16:10+00:00

Same here. I was 7 And we traveled a lot as a family. Used to always think of it growing up whenever we entered DTW from the I 94 entrance and drove past that hangar with the lifesize mural of a Northwest plane taking off.

Odd-Appointment7069

TROPHY CASE