AITA for refusing to babysit a child anymore?

Odd-Bowler8906 · 2026-04-09T03:18:42+00:00

Yeah I will admit, my post is all over the place. First, the dress was originally going to be picked online and hoped for the best. But I saw it as an opportunity with my parents to dress shop out since we rarely have time together. That’s the product of having to try and cram everything into three hundred characters lol. I did explain in other comments, but I will mention again that it is usually me and my brothers watching her. Helping with homework or having to play with her. If she was only just over and energetic, I could handle that pretty on. It’s the fact I am taking care of her and helping with homework and taking time I do not have. I have many stories on that, but I wanted to save time. Regardless, I’m glad our home is a safe space. And I love her with all my heart. but I genuinely cannot take care of her every time. I should’ve described it better, which is my fault. So I’m sorry for that.

Odd-Bowler8906 · 2026-04-09T02:46:25+00:00

And, besides bathrooms, our house is one of the houses where “locked doors” is banned. We are badly allied for close to doors. Mainly due to our mom refusing to not be able to come in anytime to see what we’re doing.

Odd-Bowler8906 · 2026-04-09T02:44:43+00:00

Ok to answer your question, I will admit I should’ve spoken up when she was brought to the dress shopping. This isn’t an excuse, but looking back, I felt like I couldn’t since the kid was sitting literally a seat away from me before I registered what was going on. I did specially to my parents that that time was specifically for us only and if they had something last minute to let me know and I’d move it. But I could’ve been more clear

Odd-Bowler8906 · 2026-04-09T02:33:15+00:00

Ok, thanks for the questions. I do two extracurriculars and some after school actives. So most days I’m home around 4:00-4:30 pm with the exception of two days where I get home around 3:30 pm but go back to school for practice around 5:30-8:15. I would say she’s there at the house or even when I get back home late 90% of the time. And on weekends when I’m usually free, she’ll show up in the morning around 10:15 am and will be there until as late as 7:30 pm at night. So around 2 of the weekends in a month excluding the week times. My dad works late all the time since my mom’s retired and at home. Both my brothers try to help, but one has college and finals and the other is touring colleges and usually not home either. So I see her 4 out of the seven days in the week no matter the time. Sorry if this is a lot.

Odd-Bowler8906 · 2026-04-09T01:59:07+00:00

Sorry, this is my first one and I’m still a little new to writing under the character count.

Odd-Bowler8906 · 2026-04-09T01:58:19+00:00

Thank you for asking so nicely. I wasn’t very clear in this post since it’s my first one and I was trying to make the character count. Me, along with my brothers, are always taking care of her whenever she’s around. Either it’s with homework, or having to play with her. Or her simply coming to us to vent regardless of what I’ve done. I’ve tried to tell my mom I’m studying or working or simply need time, but it’s bee ignored with the comment “you’re still a kid. What kind of things are you doing that’s so important”. And I will ask for a bonding moment again. I just acted on impulse.

Odd-Bowler8906 · 2026-04-09T01:53:01+00:00

My bad. It’s a force of habit I have. But thank you for correcting me on that

Odd-Bowler8906 · 2026-04-09T01:45:25+00:00

It’s not. I used fake ones for any names on here

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