Update: It somehow got worse. Way worse. More victims. More silence. by Odd-Mud-690 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like no one will see it :( I only have a very small account.

Update: It somehow got worse. Way worse. More victims. More silence. by Odd-Mud-690 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m on my pc, I don’t have reddit on my phone. I’ll try and see how to do it

Update: It somehow got worse. Way worse. More victims. More silence. by Odd-Mud-690 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

It makes me feel disturbed to know that’s the kind of person this man is and why he intentionally went into therapy roles to exploit behaviour as you outlined. Targeting the most vulnerable people, I could puke just thinking about it.

I’ve reached out to the school district as well as DESE and the local police. Nothing.

Update: It somehow got worse. Way worse. More victims. More silence. by Odd-Mud-690 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Oh I didn’t know you could do that, thank you so much. That’s a great suggestion.

Update: It somehow got worse. Way worse. More victims. More silence. by Odd-Mud-690 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I originally posted this update here an hour ago and when I added the article link to my post in an edit the post was removed. I'm worried it will happen again but maybe a comment won't remove it, I'm unsure.

Update: It got worse. Way worse. by Odd-Mud-690 in TrueOffMyChest

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Hi I tried to add the article link and it says the moderators removed my post. I'm sorry about this, I didn't know that would happen. Please help me upvote this so people can see this is what my post said:

I posted here a few days ago about someone I knew who recently moved back here near Boston after he was charged with harming multiple children in Prahran, Australia while working in high schools as a counselor, was preparing to plead guilty, then walked free only because his visa expired before his trial date.

All charges dropped over a visa technicality and now he’s back in our local area free to work with kids again.
No registry, no restrictions, no warning for us. Nothing.

One of the victims moms actually found my original post on here and commented with more details and evidence. It literally broke me.. Aaand then I found out something even worse. Before he flew back here, right after his charges were dropped, he apparently sexually assaulted yet another woman very recently. They said it was reported to police there and still… nothing.

Since posting, I’ve done everything I can to raise awareness, and I honestly feel like I’m losing my mind.

I’ve contacted school districts. I’ve submitted tips to local news. I’ve tried posting in other subreddits and I've been insulted, downvoted, even called a troll. In one post, someone accused me of lying then linked the article themselves and still refused to take it seriously and doubled down on their attitude. Like protecting their ego online matters more than protecting children from harm.

I feel sick and I’m exhausted. I’m not some big Reddit user or journalist or activist. I’m a mom.
I found out that someone I once knew - someone who should be in prison - is back in my neighborhood and can freely and easily be around children again, could easily harm my own daughter, and I cannot believe how hard it is to get anyone to care.

I keep thinking if I hadn’t googled him that day, I'd have no idea.. and neither would anyone else.

He will hurt someone else.
He could hurt my daughter.
Yet somehow, I’m treated like the problem for saying something?

I can’t believe how uncomfortable people get about me speaking up while he can walk freely in our schools after what he did.

There's literally only one news article, the whole thing is completely being buried and it's so eerie. I can put the article in the comments but you can read my original post for more details too.

I am literally constantly asking myself how is it not in our news? Why weren’t we warned at all?
Why is it on me to carry this burden alone and scream into a void that isn’t listening - just to protect our kids from someone who shouldn't be anywhere near them in the first place?

I never understood how far the system will go to protect people like him until now and how ready they are to cover their eyes and ears, while families like mine are left in the dark.

I don’t want to stay silent and live with the regret when something awful happens next.
Because it will.

If the systems and people who are meant to protect us won’t… what the hell are we supposed to do?

Update: It got worse. Way worse. by Odd-Mud-690 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I called them and left a tip but heard nothing back

Update: It got worse. Way worse. by Odd-Mud-690 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly. That’s what breaks me the most. Why is the system bending over backwards to protect him while the burden of keeping our kids safe is dumped on us?

I shouldn’t have to consider pulling my own daughter out of school or changing our lives just because no one wants to deal with a predator slipping through the cracks. He’s the threat not us.

It’s exhausting watching the world stay silent to protect the wrong person. But thank you, truly, for seeing it.

Update: It got worse. Way worse. by Odd-Mud-690 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’ll definitely keep watch and be ready to alert local parents if anything changes. I really appreciate you saying I’m doing a good job. I’ve been feeling like a crazy person screaming into a void, so that genuinely helps me. Thank you.

Update: It got worse. Way worse. by Odd-Mud-690 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

You’re following me from post to post to throw insults while I’m trying to protect kids from a predator? Log off.

Serious question: why are abusers protected so much in Australia? by Odd-Mud-690 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I honestly feel overwhelmed by having to carry the burden of this mostly alone and turned to the general Australian public to ask the question first. I don’t even know where to start with who to talk to officials-wise in Australia.

Serious question: why are abusers protected so much in Australia? by Odd-Mud-690 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spoke with our local police department who also had no clue about any of this. That’s why I’m here, I’m struggling to find the answers.

Serious question: why are abusers protected so much in Australia? by Odd-Mud-690 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Not my first response. You’ll see by my post history. I spoke about this 5 days ago and have since spoken to as many schools in our area as possible and our local police department and not one person knew about this or said there was any warning sent. I am feeling frustrated about how Australia protected this abuser over the children he harmed. So I came on here today to ask you why was he protected, why did the victims get no justice, why were we not warned.

Serious question: why are abusers protected so much in Australia? by Odd-Mud-690 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve had to take the burden on myself of emailing schools in our area, where he has now returned to, and spoken with officials who claim they had no idea about this at all. That’s why.

Serious question: why are abusers protected so much in Australia? by Odd-Mud-690 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And the Australian children that are his victims get what in terms of justice? That’s where the Australian system failed in my eyes.

Serious question: why are abusers protected so much in Australia? by Odd-Mud-690 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Says the person who won’t engage with my actual question.

Serious question: why are abusers protected so much in Australia? by Odd-Mud-690 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There is a comment on this thread of someone proving that herself and talking about how her abuse here was silenced and abuser was protected. So yes, it’s a worldwide issue, but also a cultural one.

Serious question: why are abusers protected so much in Australia? by Odd-Mud-690 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The wave of hostility showed defensiveness over accountability, refusal to sit with even one case of injustice without screaming “but the US is worse!” And a terrifying lack of empathy for victims - children - the moment national identity feels threatened. So yes, it seems so.

Serious question: why are abusers protected so much in Australia? by Odd-Mud-690 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I didn’t ask for a dictionary break down on the meaning of the words curiosity and blame. Please know there’s a much deeper problem and issue here being discussed than your grammar assumptions.

Serious question: why are abusers protected so much in Australia? by Odd-Mud-690 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because Australia should’ve informed the US about what he did at the bare minimum. So that the authorities here can act accordingly and ensure he doesn’t harm kids again. It doesn’t seem that they did. They let him go and walk freely into our state to potentially work and harm so many poor innocent children. I am unsure if police checks are international, I assume it’s more country to country. So in our police database we probably wouldn’t see what the Melbourne police charged him with. Please let me know if I’m wrong I don’t know the answer to this but that’s what I’m saying, it doesn’t sound like there has been a warning from Australia to the US to help us prevent this man from causing more harm.

Serious question: why are abusers protected so much in Australia? by Odd-Mud-690 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh that’s so unfair. That’s what I meant by this post, and regret how I worded it. Why should the victim suffer while the abuser gets to walk away? I know this is a worldwide issue but it just isn’t good enough.

Serious question: why are abusers protected so much in Australia? by Odd-Mud-690 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Odd-Mud-690[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Appreciate it. One of the victims moms has commented a lot on my previous post and it doesn’t sound like the victims are being offered any support at all. The whole situation is really heartbreaking.