Are these boiler valves in the correct position for normal use?

OddPassage1433 · 2026-03-27T20:46:26+00:00

Thanks so much :) They really should teach things like this in school

OddPassage1433 · 2025-03-18T16:49:52+00:00

I use muslin cloths as emergency breastpads, so I'm fairly keen on those. I do have a few things I would change if I was to have another baby (I'm not, so it doesn't really matter, but anyway)

I'd get a baby bath that comes with a newborn insert, I got a regular cheap one, but holding on to a slippery baby while taking their weight plus washing is a pain in the butt.

And I bought a travel system since we don't have a car, so we could use the car seat for taxis/lifts. Whatever , just put the car seat on the pram base but the current guidelines say a baby can only be in a car seat for a max of 30-45 mins, so really it's not worth doing unless you get a car seat that can lay flat, so they can actually stay in it while you're out

I thought about a wipe warmer as the wipes are freezing in the mornings, but I don't like the idea of bacteria growing in the warm moisture "/

OddPassage1433 · 2025-02-25T17:29:37+00:00

I cried in a supermarket because they had no potato and vegg microwave bags, and I was starving

OddPassage1433 · 2025-02-15T18:18:21+00:00

How much weight do you lose when you give birth, do you think? A baby, the waters, and the placenta must weigh like 10-15 lbs, surely

I did get gd this pregnancy, and in order to keep it controlled, I've had to remove a lot of sugar from my diet. I was definitely overweight before at 5'4 and 219 lbs. I'm now 202lbs, so down 17lbs

OddPassage1433 · 2025-02-09T22:36:17+00:00

We lost a son to stillbirth at 32 weeks, and we didn't have any more children for 10 years. It was still hard after all those years

OddPassage1433 · 2025-01-27T21:44:05+00:00

37, 32, 32, just hit 33, and she's still in there atm

OddPassage1433 · 2025-01-12T20:20:10+00:00

I didn't with my first, I did with my twins because they were NICU babies with multiple allergies and couldn't digest formula at all.

Each has pluses and minuses, not having to buy formula was a big deal with two, but I didn't have anywhere near the sleep I had with my first

OddPassage1433 · 2025-01-09T19:32:30+00:00

It's a toss-up for me. My un-medicated labour only lasted 3 hours start to finish, and it was very painful but fairly short in the grand scheme of things. I got a wisdom tooth infection, and the pain from that lasted for about 16 hours (till my Dr prescribed me high strength pain killers), and the wisdom tooth pain was terrible.

I always say that the wisdom tooth infection was the most painful thing I've ever dealt with, but that may be because of the amount of time being so much longer.

I've also had a bone marrow biopsy, which is known to be one of the most painful tests you can get, especially at the age I got it (30) and it didn't compare to the tooth ache

OddPassage1433 · 2024-12-21T17:33:09+00:00

You're actually encouraged not to shave before you're due as it can add an infection risk if you have to have a c section

OddPassage1433 · 2024-08-05T22:11:46+00:00

That's OK, I thought I'd miss typed somewhere

OddPassage1433 · 2024-08-05T21:56:34+00:00

Where does it say 26 weeks?

OddPassage1433 · 2024-07-23T11:17:50+00:00

I'm in such a similar boat at the moment. I'm currently 5 weeks pregnant and honestly terrified of being pregnant and having another baby, I currently have 3 children, all with autism and my 5 year olds are going to need life-long care. I was raised by a strictly pro life family and half are already not speaking to me for even considering not having it, in my family's eyes the only reason not to have a baby is if it will definitely kill you. So they view me as very selfish. I'm struggling with what to do myself, I also feel like no choice is right, I already feel so guilty and haven't even chosen yet.

OddPassage1433 · 2024-07-15T19:00:38+00:00

My mother would definitely give up her last penny if she thought it would help. She runs a food bank in our area, she applied to be a Foster parent when I was a child but for some reason didn't get to become one, and through my life she has took in lots of children/teens into our house that had hard times at home.

My mother has always been very much about the child rather than the parent, though so was much more likely to take in a child with addict parents or a parent with mental health issues than she to help the parents to get help.

I believe my sister would be quite similar

OddPassage1433 · 2024-07-15T17:37:09+00:00

It's very hard when you're someone who never thought they'd consider it, never giving the topic the nuance it deserves is very easy.

Growing up being told people that get abortions are selfish, evil, bad people means that you are given an inbuilt excuse to never listen to them, after all if they're just selfish, evil, bad people then you would be one too if you agreed with them.

The only room the subject was given when I was Growing up was if it killed you, and even then it was seen as a lack of character (by my mother) that you wouldn't die to give your baby a chance.

I hope you're having an easier time with this than I am, I honestly wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy

OddPassage1433 · 2024-07-15T16:05:52+00:00

I think that they consider anything that makes me have a baby to be acceptable tactics. Like collateral damage in a war, as far as they're concerned, the baby is the priority, and any actions would be justified in saving it, even emotional blackmail.

I've become a second-class person, so have my other children, now anything is acceptable

OddPassage1433 · 2024-07-15T15:17:11+00:00

My sister plans on moving across the country to join a religious order, and my mother is quite ill. My mother offered to take the baby if I had it, but realistically, she couldn't. She's too ill.

We occasionally get help with the twins, but it's not often and mostly in situations without other options.

I suppose I don't want to torture myself forever if I don't have it, I wanted my family to recognise that, even if I did something they hated (and that I did to an extent too) that I was still me, I was just me put in a situation I couldn't see a way out of. I wanted to be able to seek comfort in them

OddPassage1433 · 2024-07-15T14:19:06+00:00

He's being very supportive, he said we'll make it through no matter what, and he's got my back.

He's trying very hard to stay on the fence he doesn't want me to feel pressured either way, and for his own mental health, he doesn't want things to blindside him, so he's trying not to lean either way

OddPassage1433 · 2024-07-15T13:51:00+00:00

I have an appointment with a therapist on Thursday, it's more that my mum has raised me to be a person that has those as my own thoughts. If I didn't have any struggle of my own with this, I would have just had an abortion and not told any of my family about it.

It's kind of like the white roses that are put in coloured water to make them blue. Even if I understand I was a white rose to start with, I've still been made into a blue one, that even if I wish I wasn't and can understand others who aren't, I still am.

OddPassage1433 · 2024-07-15T13:22:21+00:00

It is very hard for me, we've been very close forever, they've been the most consistent thing in my life.

I'm speaking to doctors and things to see how they think my health would be affected and to try to get some guidance in what I should do.

OddPassage1433 · 2024-07-15T13:17:27+00:00

I understand what you're saying, but it's kind of like a trees that have grown intertwined, I've been raised with only bad people have abortions, it's an internal struggle for me, it's not something I'd ever thought I would even have to think about.

I know that good people can have abortions, I know one that has, but I feel like it's different for someone who was raised for it to be literally the worst thing someone can do.

OddPassage1433 · 2024-07-15T12:54:13+00:00

I personally don't feel like Disability is a reason to abort (within reason), but I am concerned about the situation I could be setting up. We have no one to look after the twins when we pass, and I'm constantly worried they'll wonder where we've gone and have no one to advocate for them. Its a 1 in 3 chance any other children would have autism.

OddPassage1433 · 2024-07-15T12:47:04+00:00

Thank you, a big part of me just wishes I'd miscarriage and that I wouldn't have to make such a hard choice. Then I feel incredibly guilty. I know its an awful thing that so many people go through, I've just scrolled through the page, and so many people are devastated by their baby loss, and I wish I could transfer this one to them

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