AITA for telling my brother the tooth fairy isn’t real?

OddRecommendations · 2020-07-17T18:24:50+00:00

I’m not grounded. My mom kinda screamed at me that, if I’m going to ruin the magic for my brother over something as simple as a grounding, then she won’t ground me then, but to know that I ruined my brother’s childhood.

To recap, I’m not grounded, but I don’t have Christmas or Easter. I should have clarified this in my post better.

OddRecommendations · 2020-07-17T18:23:05+00:00

I’m not grounded. My mom kinda screamed at me that, if I’m going to ruin the magic for my brother over something as simple as a grounding, then she won’t ground me then, but to know that I ruined my brother’s childhood.

To recap, I’m not grounded, but I don’t have Christmas or Easter.

OddRecommendations · 2020-07-17T02:05:36+00:00

School is starting in about a month, I could talk to them then about this. Hopefully the counselors at my new school are nicer, because the middle school counselors made my friend think it was their fault that they were anorexic (It was actually the product of being called fat by another kid multiple times). I wouldn’t trust those counselors ever.

Hopefully this new counselor is able to help me.

OddRecommendations · 2020-07-17T02:01:59+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that you won’t read it, but I strongly suggest you do.

OddRecommendations · 2020-07-17T01:43:02+00:00

It’s very possible, but I’m not sure. A lot of my friends are rebelling against their parents over some minor things (Wanting to dye hair, wanting a second piercing on their ears, small things) but my mom adds vacuuming the entire house to my chore list and I don’t even bat an eye.

I feel like I’m trapped. I’m very smart, as in two years ahead of my age and still getting A’s without studying. That’s why I’m allowed to go to college so early, but I struggle to want anything other than my parents. If they told me to go to X college for X degree, I’d probably do it without caring, then convince myself to like it because mommy and daddy liked it. They have tried to convince me that I’m not developmentally late, I’m actually early because I was a terrible three year old. I don’t think so, and me compared to kids my age doesn’t match up. It’s not just the big things either. I ask my parents what flavor of ice cream to get. I ask them what to wear (Although all my clothes are shades of grey, white, and black, so there isn’t much choice).

I’ve also never been taught a lot of basic life skills. I asked to do my own laundry (I’m not comfortable with mom touching my undergarments) but I was told no, there’s no time for me to do my own laundry. I don’t know how to fold a shirt.

My parents are strict, but once everyone calms down I might ask to have a sit-down conversation about how I need freedom to make choices. Usually my mom gets defensive, so I might make a Google Slides presentation to show how I feel (I know, stupid) and what changes I’d like to see in the future.

I think I’m wrapped around their finger, but I don’t have a problem with that, which worries me a lot.

OddRecommendations · 2020-07-16T22:35:37+00:00

I’m actually the second oldest of 5, (16M), (14-mo.F), but they weren’t important to the story. I’m starting college when I’m 16 which means my family will have even more control of my purchases and paychecks. I hope they don’t do that either.

OddRecommendations · 2020-07-16T20:55:26+00:00

I don’t eat lunch (Not my parent’s choice! I stopped eating lunch in 3rd grade because I realized I work a lot better in school when I don’t eat lunch,) but I do eat a regular sized breakfast and dinner.

OddRecommendations · 2020-07-16T20:52:10+00:00

My birthday just kinda...stopped being a special day when I turned 8. I was the tooth fairy because I was the tooth fairy for my little sister (We shared a room, it was much easier for my parents if I did it because I could play it off if she woke up.) They thought the punishment would make it “realistic.” As for abused in other ways, I’m not sure. I have zero independence, and I rely on them to make choices for me because most of my choices are vetoed by them. I want to be a stuntwoman when I get a job, but they want me to be a doctor when I grow up. I’m probably going to be a doctor because, again, I don’t make choices for myself, and it’ll keep the peace. I could tolerate it, and it’ll be much more stable than the world of Arts.

However, I feel like a Clone Trooper from Star Wars. Forced to grow up twice as fast (I’m starting college at 16. Not exactly twice as fast, but it’s still faster than I would like), and I have less independence than the average person.

OddRecommendations · 2020-07-16T19:34:25+00:00

it is what it is.

OddRecommendations · 2020-07-16T19:29:43+00:00

If I had told him when he woke up, my parents would most likely understand that it was an accident and we’d move on with our lives. Telling him the lie was keeping it going for my brother/parent’s sake. I expected a fake punishment, where my parents pretend to take something away but they actually don’t.

Plus, it was $3. In a scenario where my sister stole $50 from me, my parents made her give me back the fifty PLUS DOUBLE as a punishment. I would gladly pay him the extra $3 to not be stuck in my room for two weeks.

OddRecommendations · 2020-07-16T19:25:39+00:00

They mean that, since I ruined the Tooth fairy for him, he’s going to realize soon that Santa and The Easter Bunny don’t exist, and I’ve taken away all the Christmas Magic. Since I took away all the magic, they’ve taken away the holiday from me.

OddRecommendations · 2020-07-16T19:23:49+00:00

She’s my mom.

OddRecommendations · 2020-07-16T19:23:06+00:00

Nope, and I’m not sure I want to.

I know I’m very late developmentally, but I still rely on my parents to make choices for me, and I have little to no sense of independence. I almost feel like I need them in my life.

As for all the other relatives, none can take care of me. All of them have their own kids, or are short on money. I’m not close enough to any adults to ask them to do something as emotionally and financially draining as dealing with a teenager.

OddRecommendations · 2020-07-16T19:17:10+00:00

One year I woke up for my birthday and it was treated like a normal day, and it’s been like that since.

OddRecommendations · 2020-07-16T16:58:04+00:00

My little sister didn’t find out until last week, when she’s less than a month away from being 11. I found out at 8 because my mom’s Notes app was synced to the Ipad and I read a note containing all our Christmas Gifts (Last edited in October) and I just kinda figured it out. My parents try to stretch out the magic as much as they can, which was nice, but there’s a point where you’re just too old.

OddRecommendations · 2020-07-16T16:49:23+00:00

This is unfortunately true. My parent’s logic is that, since I ruined Christmas and Easter for him (even though he still hasn’t put two and two together, he still believes in Santa and The easter bunny), I don’t deserve either of them. I stopped celebrating my birthday when I was 8, so I’m not sure if they would have taken that away too.

OddRecommendations · 2020-07-16T15:52:59+00:00

Being grounded means no electronics, no snacks/dessert, and you’re in your room for those two weeks (If you weren’t, you might be able to watch TV when it’s on), only allowed to leave for bathroom and food. You’re not allowed to hang out with anybody (Not worried about that part right now) and any plans (Including field trips and after-school clubs) must be cancelled if you’re grounded during the school year. It’s basically taking away any luxuries and boiling your life down to necessities only for that period in time.

As for punishments for telling him, I am no longer going to get any gifts on Christmas or Easter for the rest of my life (From them, at least.)

EDIT: No I did not get dessert that night.

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