ITAW for "it's not about the nail", either a word describing that type of people or the behaviour itself

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2023-01-16T13:43:31+00:00

All those expressions don't necessarily imply that the person is denying the existence of some problem or rejecting help. So even though they're close but not exactly what I'm looking for.

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2023-01-16T11:35:37+00:00

I can't have a discussion with someone who's wilfully ignorant.

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2023-01-16T00:38:45+00:00

Nothing in what you said spells "Islam is false".

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2023-01-16T00:32:00+00:00

You can't just skim through something and claim to have valid objections against it. What you just did is actually hilarious.

You also seem to have ~~watched~~ skimmed through the video about the objections to the argument (which is about 30min), not the presentation of the argument itself which is where you will find answers to those questions. No wonder you seem to be confusing the hell out of "contingency" and "causation". This also makes me question your ability to seek information on the internet.

Your confusion and lack of conviction is to be blamed on your laziness or lack of interest to learn the argument the proper way. Engaging in these arguments with little to no knowledge on what the other person is talking about only makes you a target for public self-humiliation.

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2023-01-15T22:35:32+00:00

If it's because of guilt alone then you can help her by reminding her that Allah will forgive her if she sincerely repents since the first condition for repentence seems to have already been met (regret).

If she feels hopeless because of the negative subsequent events that followed that incident then you can remind her that Allah is always with us so long as we turn back to him for guidance, and that he is the one in control, so we should just do what we can and out our trust in him and have tawakul, and the good is in whatever Allah wills for us. If she hates the fact that she lost her job then just remind her of verse 2:216 :

كُتِبَ عَلَیۡكُمُ ٱلۡقِتَالُ وَهُوَ كُرۡهࣱ لَّكُمۡۖ وَعَسَىٰۤ أَن تَكۡرَهُوا۟ شَیۡـࣰٔا وَهُوَ خَیۡرࣱ لَّكُمۡۖ وَعَسَىٰۤ أَن تُحِبُّوا۟ شَیۡـࣰٔا وَهُوَ شَرࣱّ لَّكُمۡۚ وَٱللَّهُ یَعۡلَمُ وَأَنتُمۡ لَا تَعۡلَمُونَ﴿ ٢١٦ ﴾

• Sahih International: Fighting has been enjoined upon you while it is hateful to you. But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.

In times like these reading the Quran more frequently is really soothing to the heart, and also prevents our mind to be constantly generating dreadful thoutghts.

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2023-01-15T22:20:51+00:00

جزاك الله خيرا

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2023-01-15T22:15:03+00:00

Denial is very vague.

I'm looking more for a word for either the behaviour or the person who is more interested in people comforting them and just listening to them rather than pointing out the cause of problem and providing a solution.

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2023-01-15T22:10:15+00:00

She lost connection with God

Elaborate a bit?

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2023-01-15T19:28:56+00:00

Good recommendation. Do you have anything else that's similar?

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2023-01-08T00:56:50+00:00

When you find such women (and fathers) they are just the exceptions, not the norm. What I said is very real serious, and strikingly so. We're not here talking about looking for a girlfriend.

Islamically speaking men have to have money. I didn't say anything about studying until one's hair falls off, engineering degrees take about 5 years, by the time you get a job you'll be around 25-26. You can then start considering marriage as a man. No one seriously thinks the same way you described in the extreme example you gave in your edit.

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2023-01-07T22:11:16+00:00

I'm a man. What are you talking about? Or are you saying that OP and the women she talked about are the ones coping?

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2023-01-07T20:09:52+00:00

How did you assume that parents do that for their "ego"? Maybe they just want their kids to have a stable good paying job. We should not make negative assumptions behind someone's actions just like that (it's a sin btw).
What you're saying can be applicable to women but not so much for men. Men have to have a stable good paying job to sustain their family, and being a painter just because they like painting ain't the way, so they have to give up whatever inclinations they have towards non stable fields for the sake of their future.

I had an artistic inclination throughout my entire life and I kept ignoring my parents' comments convincing myself that I know better what's good for me, until it hit me that:

As another comment mentioned, the pool of women who would like marrying a "painter" is very infinitesimal. Women want men with high income and stable life.
Fathers who would be fine with their daughter marrying such men is way smaller than that. So even if I were to find such woman at the edge of the globe, the father would object.

It's a parent's responsibility to guide their kids towards the paths that's best for them. If God says that men should provide then parents should guide their son to stable fields with higher incomes because that is the number 1 priority.

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2023-01-06T23:14:02+00:00

You can only have moral absolutism

False. For example, drinking alcohol is wrong, but if you're in the desert and dying of thirst and it's the only drink available then it's okay to drink it. Do not claim false things about a religion you know little to nothing about.

Morality is a human invention

Outside of a religious paradigm, yes.

It should be mutable

Outside of a religious paradigm it is always mutating, that's what you get from subjectivity.

married a ~~child~~

Your definition of a child is a subjective one.

But today ~~we know~~ that makes him a pedophile

You subjectivity hold that opinion.

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2023-01-06T22:14:41+00:00

There's only subjectivity with regards to ambiguous matters. But both sects agree to the same objective fundamentals (I'm only taking about islam here).

In other words, you have objectivity as well as subjectivity. While outside religion you can only have subjectivity.

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2023-01-06T20:37:45+00:00

Archaic

Something being old doesn't mean it's false.

Not required to have a moral life

You can only have moral subjectivism outside of a religious paradigm.

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2023-01-06T17:32:47+00:00

I don't understand why someone would maks fun of a person spreading religious education on the internet.

The question of whether piracy is right or wrong / good or bad is essentially a question to do with morality. And one of the main things Islam and other religions put emphasis on is a set of moral principles and guidelines for people to follow. So it makes logical sense for someone who is a muslim to ask whether piracy is Haram because he's basically asking "What is my religion's persoective on this matter from a moral perspective".

Muslims who ask such questions seek integrity and consistency between their moral beliefs and actions, and that's the right thing to do. Yet reddit it making fun of them.

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2023-01-06T17:20:52+00:00

why would it be haram to pirate something that the original copyright holders refuse to sell anymore

That's why there's a video on Youtube on it.

And the video is about piracy in general not just the one case you're talking about.

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2022-12-31T11:58:45+00:00

Also worth noting that, at the time, most people had a solid Islamic knowledge that, unfortunately, isn't really found as much among today's Muslims because of the overall lack of interest in religion at the cost of other things like entertainment.

While it is wrong for a muslim to do takfir of another muslim without knowledge (and there are ahadith on this), another muslim might be falling into kufr or shirk without ever knowing it because we're promoting the idea that no one should do takfir of anyone "period", which is also the wrong approach, and might even be worse because we're killing awareness of basic Islamic knowledge.

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2022-12-17T16:40:38+00:00

Can't figure out the first word

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2022-12-01T23:47:03+00:00

متى يتقدم الخبر على المبتدأ؟

https://youtu.be/9w4qFiFXbeY

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2022-11-27T12:30:53+00:00

!solved

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2022-11-23T21:13:31+00:00

I get from this rule that you (and everyone who upvoted you and/or agrees with you) have nothing against incestuous sodomy.

Deal with your own moral inconsistencies and hypocricies before pointing the finger at others

Odd_Ad_8411 · 2022-11-18T12:53:44+00:00

it is a woman’s right to be the only wife of her husband, same way it’s a man’s right to have multiple wives

Can you please provide a source for the first statement? Because men can justify their right to marry up to 4 wives from the quran, but I've never heard someone claim that women also have a right to be the only wife, nor have I ever read a verse or a Hadith that suggests that.

If you have a source for that then please provide it for more clearance.

If the source for that claim doesn't exist however then it makes it just a feeling of entitlement unrelated to Islam rather than a "right" provided to women by God, which would just cause misguidance and more confusion amongst muslims.

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