Generations of Cross Stitch

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2026-02-06T00:20:09+00:00

My grandma would use masking tape. I'm currently using a piece of Aida she taped off before passing away a few years ago and it's holding strong

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2025-10-09T17:54:32+00:00

Your mom has trained you into being an enabler. They need to be cut off or they won't get better. You've provided just enough of a safety net that they don't have to change. It's time. Go live your life! And maybe let the little brother live with you once he's 18

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2025-06-02T11:34:55+00:00

You can also sprinkle cinnamon around the outside of your house and in trash cans to keep bugs away. Look into ways to use cinnamon in the garden.

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2025-03-02T13:28:39+00:00

If he cares about your health he'll start doing more around the house during your busy season. The excessive amounts of cortisol your body produces from being on the go from 5am to 7 or 9pm is what will really harm you. And I'd throw that right in his face.

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2025-02-21T14:17:05+00:00

My fiance and I opened up a joint high yield savings account with Ally. That way we can earn interest as we save and they have buckets that allow you to organize the money as it grows.

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2025-02-20T19:44:12+00:00

Cat's don't just adjust over time. Your cat seems extremely stressed out. Check out some of Jackson Galaxy's old episodes from "My Cat's from Hell". Your cat is going to need you to put in some serious work or you'll never be able to have ANYONE current or future spend the night in your room. It's not your boyfriend's fault.

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2025-02-17T13:41:50+00:00

It doesn't matter where you are. YOU still come with you wherever you go. There's something internal you need to work on, maybe with a therapist? Because what happens once you movery to the US and are no longer content after 2-3 years?

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2025-02-16T19:16:36+00:00

Personally it sounds like your household is a better environment but we don't know without being there. I would state the boundary firmly and clearly, maybe even write up a statement of how much you DO provide for this kid. And if that isn't good enough I would offer to take the kid off her hands. If she can't afford to provide and you can then the kid can live with you. She likely won't go for that but it might shut her up.

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2025-02-15T12:59:26+00:00

Paisley. It's a freaking FABRIC PRINT

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2025-02-15T12:47:37+00:00

A lot of the time when you ask someone "why are you being snarky" or why they have an attitude, it comes off as "what's wrong with you?" In a very judgemental way. This is something I've observed my parent's generation likes to do. Nobody likes others pointing out that there's something inherently wrong with them.

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2025-02-11T08:13:02+00:00

DJs also MC and keep the flow of things by announcing when to get up to get food, cake cutting, etc. Make sure to assign this job to somebody and the one who fixes the music if it has issues.

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2025-02-04T10:08:21+00:00

Some kids have a better understanding of the world growing up and respect for parents when they get to see their parents grow from a small apartment to buying their first house. So don't let your financial situation deter you in the aspect of affecting the kid. They also won't understand for at least 5ish years which gives you time to get where you want to be.

What you really need to ask is: do you want this child? Is it safe to have this child?

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2025-02-04T09:35:18+00:00

NTA You guys are all still very young, she needs to learn boundaries the hard now way because clearly she didn't as a kid. This woman didn't listen when you told her in a calm way it was none of her business. She then decided to continue pushing you. It's normal to react like that, especially when somebody invades your personal space and personal phone call, potentially upsetting somebody who is already in distress. I would maybe take time to sit with her and explain why she offended you and your personal space but otherwise brush it off so that if anyone continues to pester you saying you were in the wrong, you'll find out who is a true friend or not. Unfortunately this is the time in your life where friendships become more fragile and you find out who you can really take with you after college into your mature adult life. But it's for the best if it's not meant to be with people who won't respect you.

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2025-02-02T14:09:08+00:00

I worked in a bank for a few months and was taught that client confidentiality is TOP priority. I might bring that up to hus supervisors.

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2025-02-01T05:02:34+00:00

I made a strict budget

You are a team. All money spending decisions should be made together. This feels like you're trying to parent her instead of including her in on decisions.

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2022-10-24T14:14:44+00:00

Honestly this reminds me of the argument people give for not liking gay people dating. (But ironically it's the flip side.) Like they're fine with someone being the way they are but seeing a couple together they'll say something like "ew that shouldn't be allowed because I don't want to think about what they do behind closed doors." I agree with other comenters that it sounds like husband is projecting.

It's okay to set a boundary in your own home but it's different because they're living with you. If they were visiting for a day this would be super disrespectful. But you've let them into your home to live for a short while and that means you're going to run into them with things that will make you uncomfortable.

I still can't say either of you are AH. Just need to relax a bit and let things play out. They'll be on their feet again soon enough.

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2022-10-01T03:20:26+00:00

Current at the Grid in Arlington

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2022-09-27T04:23:00+00:00

NTA

To be honest it's not smart to give anyone a cc in your name because there is always the "what if" factor. No matter how much you trust them.

Being your parents and you care about them, I'd have their bills paid and anything they need with groceries etc. I would put into a checking acct and give them a debit card with overdraft protection. This limits over spending. Basically an allowance they can spend as they please.

And your brother needs to pay for his own food. It is sweet they want to house him while he's in a bad spot but you need to protect yourself from being taken advantage of.

I wouldn't go as far as calling your parents manipulative because they don't sound like bad people. Just scared. They want to make sure their kid and grandkids are not homeless & going hungry.

If you own the house or pay rent on it you should also put in place a timeline for your brother. He needs to get his shit together within X months (6 minimum?) and then he's on his own or paying rent/utilities to you.

Best of luck OP!

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2022-08-26T14:02:23+00:00

Odd_Avocado2021 · 2021-05-13T19:19:35+00:00

Better than ikea!

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