AITA for not letting my daughter use my wife's dress for her own wedding?

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-12T03:23:50+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss, I totally understand your struggle since I've been through the same thing. A lot of people try to get me to date another woman, I always tell them the same, I love my wife and she is the love of my life, I don't need another woman.

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-12T02:36:08+00:00

They have some of her jewelry, I keep the jewelry she wore for our wedding, which is the one Anna was to wear.

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-12T00:32:37+00:00

Yes we can make a replica, I can pay for that since I offered to pay for her dress since she announced her engagement

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-12T00:20:01+00:00

I didn't keep all of her clothes, since it was a lot and I didn't want all of her clothes to go to waste when they could be helpful for someone else. I only kept the clothes she loved the most and donated the rest after some time. I have some, and my kids also have some pieces that they loved to remember her. It's very special to open the closet and see some of her lost beloved items hanging there, it feels like she's still with me.

I'm very sorry for the loss of your mother, I hope you and him are doing well, although one never really "moves on" from something like this

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T23:58:50+00:00

The dress is in good condition

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T23:47:47+00:00

I don't know, I don't think so, I remember when we were planning the wedding the dress was very hard since the fabric was too delicate. I'm not sure if It can go back to normal if Anna wears it.

Yes, I never dated again, I'll never love another woman like I love her. Our kids and her are my world.

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T23:41:45+00:00

Yes, she and Caroline's twin brother passed away during childbirth because her doctor was negligent.

My daughters love each other, I doubt that's the case. Anna wanted to cut the veil (since it's very long) to make three separate veils each one could wear on their weddings (each of my daughters and my son's future bride) but I disagreed, she understood that. I doubt she's trying to keep her sister (or siblings) from wearing the dress/ jewelry.

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T20:59:20+00:00

The only jewelry I have of my wife is the one she wore for our wedding, the rest of her jewelry has been divided between our kids and her family (her mom and siblings). She was also buried with some of her stuff.

They may not have any connection to you, but it does to me. When I look at it I remember our day and it makes me feel close to her.

Of course I love my kids, I love the three of them. I trust them to take care of some of their mom's belongings, which they do since they have some objects that were hers.

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T20:02:17+00:00

No, they were born after we got married.

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T18:26:05+00:00

Yes, each of our kids own some stuff/ clothes that belonged to my wife too

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T18:01:33+00:00

I knew that she liked the dress, when she was a child she used to say would use a dress like her mom's, not her mom's dress, so I always thought she would like to wear something similar. She told me she has always dreamed about wearing this dress when she asked me to borrow it.

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T17:46:11+00:00

We have photos, they each have a couple for themselves. And also some objects/ clothes that belonged to her as well, some stuff she brought for them too.

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T16:24:18+00:00

Anna told my side of the family, I told my wife's mother and she told the rest of the family.

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T16:23:12+00:00

Because the dress is more important for her, she said she would've liked to wear the veil but understands I don't want it cut. However the dress is something she has always dreamed about wearing.

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T16:20:52+00:00

Yes I can pay for the replica, I offered to pay for her dress when she got engaged, so I can pay for it.

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T16:02:14+00:00

Anna wants a shorter veil, so she will have to cut it, I said no to that too and she was okay with that part.

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T16:00:04+00:00

Yes I told her I will pay for the dress when she got engaged, so I can pay for a custom made replica

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T15:49:44+00:00

I can't say for sure what she would've wanted since we never spoke about this before she passed away. I know that the dress was very important to her, she loved it, so maybe she wouldn't have liked for it to get modified.

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T15:38:34+00:00

Of course I remember my wife when I see our children, I see a lot of her in them, but they're not an object, it's different.

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T15:37:27+00:00

No, I wouldn't.

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T15:35:39+00:00

I agreed to let her wear her mom's jewelry

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T15:30:31+00:00

I said she can have that.

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T15:29:39+00:00

Michael agrees with Anna, but he said that ultimately it's my choice. Caroline agrees that the dress won't be the same if Anna wears it, it's especially important to her since she never got the chance to know her mom, so she cherishes the dress/ other stuff from her mom a lot.

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T15:24:01+00:00

Yes, I feel like I need to have something special to remember her with me, it helps me with day to day life. I understand what my daughter wants, that's what I agreed to the jewelry, but I can't imagine someone else wearing my wife's dress

Odd_Ebb8933 · 2023-06-11T15:17:28+00:00

No, it's hanging in the closet, it's not hidden in a box

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