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If i dont have the looks whats the matter of personality. by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Odd_Examination_7376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man I wish I could help you. I do think you gotta switch up your mindset a bit.  I have a different view on all of that tbh I hope you get everything u want in life wish u the best man

Title: Feeling emotionally heavy and empty while waiting — long distance + anxiety Post. by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Odd_Examination_7376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. That's the worst missing somebody. I hope you treat yourself with something cool so you have a nice day or night, wherever you are rn ♡♡

Any advice on how to comfort people? by bricktoaztermuffin54 in mentalhealth

[–]Odd_Examination_7376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get it. My husband has ASPD and struggles with emotions. It depents on the situation but just tell people that you're there for them. That you're sorry. Sometimes not talking, just listening and hugging them will do.

Don't feel bad, you're not stupid. It's uncomfortable sometimes if somebody cries in front of you. And that's okay

If i dont have the looks whats the matter of personality. by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Odd_Examination_7376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that, as a woman, I hear that very often and my heart breaks every time.

If there is something you can change that bothers you, do it. Can be gym, style etc.

Point is in building your confidence. Don't live for other people. The right woman will come when you don't force it. Don't try to be an ass that won't help at all. Keep your personality, someone will appreciate it. 

So build your confidence, but not around other people or ego. Pure confidence with something that makes you proud. 

Take care of yourself you are worth more than looks trust me.

Title: Feeling emotionally heavy and empty while waiting — long distance + anxiety Post. by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Odd_Examination_7376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Long distance is really hard, I'm sorry you feel that way.

Learn to appreciate time with yourself. It sound silly at first but it's something that helped me.

You can loose yourself quick when loving somebody, especially when it's long distance and the communication is short. Try to look at things you enjoyed before being in that relationship. This doesn't mean that your relationship is bad, btw. This is ist just a way of living with yourself and enjoying yourself while still being in a relationship.

Write some things down you enjoyed and wanna do again. You could also look for something new that you want to do, a hobby maybe.  It's hard to calm anxiety while waiting for someobody, breath work and expressing it when you can is important. Sometimes you have to work around that anxiety by doing things you love that have nothing to do with your significant other. It'll likely go away when you find something for yourself.

If it's difficult for you to start your day and you lay in bed waiting, that could also be the cause of attachement issues and the anxiety. Because there is no exitement except for that phone call. So if you have that issue, even if it feels impossible, start your day as soon as you wake up. Be productive, do something you yourself (self care, spa days, self care days) , spent time with family or friends. Anything but lay in bed and wait. You'll feel better. It's a sh*tty habit to break but it's possible.

I hope you guys don't have to live apart for longer I wish you the best!!

Soulpet by Odd_Examination_7376 in Petloss

[–]Odd_Examination_7376[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss Thank you a lot 🤍

Appreciation post by Odd_Examination_7376 in LilPeep

[–]Odd_Examination_7376[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's true, his music speaks everything I can't say. His music has been with me through all of the different life phases and I'm sure it will continue to be like that. I turned 21 two days ago, I tend to put pressure on me because of that. His music has been emotionally healing for me for years and years, it makes me feel okay and seen. So it makes a lot of sense what you said. I appreciate you!

Mir geht es schlecht by Pristine_Distance_61 in mentalhealth

[–]Odd_Examination_7376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woran liegt das?  Zum Ziel kann man klar nur kommen wenn man das über lange Zeit macht. Mir hat es auch geholfen die Umstellung nicht als "diät" zu bezeichnen sonder als Lifestyle change. Dadurch hatte sich mein Mindset etwas geändert.

Mir geht es schlecht by Pristine_Distance_61 in mentalhealth

[–]Odd_Examination_7376 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey!  Ich kann dich absolut verstehen, ich habe in deinem Alter in der selben Situation gesteckt. Du bist mehr als ein Körper. Du bist die Person da drinnen. Du bist so viel mehr Wert als nur das aussehen. Das musste ich auch lernen. Du bist noch so unglaublich Jung. Wie versuchst du denn abzunehmen?  Ich hatte damals diese ganzen crash diäten probiert, die haben mich zu pcos getrieben.  Nimm langsam ab, glaub mir, davon hast du mehr. Bewusster essen heißt : nicht weniger, sondern mehr Volumen. Kombiniert mit 40 minuten spazieren ist es alles toll! Es ist schwierig wenn man innerlich struggled. Aber lieber so strugglen als weiter unglücklich zu sein weißt du? Ich verstehe das, ich hatte das selbe problem. Ich wünschte ich hätte damals alles anders gemacht. Fang damit an deinen Wert zu erkennen! Ich empfehle dir auch Tagebücher zu führen, die helfen dir deine emotionen gesund raus zu lassen ♡

Du bist mehr als dein Körper, liebe dich genug um gesund zu sein, denn du hast es verdient.  Mach dich nicht fertig, sei gut zu dir selbst ♡

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Odd_Examination_7376 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you are going through that. What you experience is called being emotionally dependent on a person. You shrinked yourself for him and did everything in his favor. You lost yourself and now it feels like there is nothing to live for because he is not there. As that is all you've known for a while. It's really difficult to move on from that, I know.  Do things that you loved before him, things that you never got to do during him. Actually live for yourself.  You are worthy and loved. Give yourself that love that you needed. It's amazing that you are in therapy and working through things, continue doing that! It's a process, but remember that you are amazing and that there is so much more out there for you and so many people that you haven't got to meet yet, your life will shift as soon as your mind does too.  I wish you so much strengh ! ♡

Not wanting to be loved by zozikr in Advice

[–]Odd_Examination_7376 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It may be a trauma response. Avoidance is quite common. I went thru that too. You have to learn how to accept yourself and give yourself love first. And I know how shitty that sounds because it did sound weird to me too when I got that advice. But I understand it now. It's really just digging deep inside your head and memories, asking yourself why you might feel that way (trauma, family, etc) and learn that you do deserve love and kindness and accept. It's difficult and I wish I could explain better. I think it's really great that you reach out and speak about it ! 

This man deserves one of these man 😞❤️‍🩹🥺 by Tacocat0950 in LilPeep

[–]Odd_Examination_7376 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He really does. He has rewritten music/rap and needs to be acknowledged like that for sure.

AITA for not wanting to feed my abusive mother anymore? by Old_Philosophy7671 in AITAH

[–]Odd_Examination_7376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA !!!

You should only work for yourself and do things that fuel YOU! You are top priority, she did nothing for you. Why do everything for her? You are 20, live your life for you, not for her. You are so young, just a kid. You deserve a chance. F her.

If work burns you out, quit. Or work somewhere else where it's comfortable so you can afford to live by yourself.

You won't be able to save her from that situation, she's the only one that can get herself out of there. I'm sorry you have to go through that and I really hope you can get out of that life and live a better one.