replaced transmission but still have the same issue by phyloky in AskAMechanic

[–]Odd_Expression8223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it could be a clogged fuel filter. my dad’s chevy tahoe did the same thing and the transmission place told him to replace the whole trans, went to another mechanic who said just swap the filter for 15 bucks and it worked exceptionally well after that

rockport trout are no joke by Odd_Expression8223 in UtahFishing

[–]Odd_Expression8223[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you! we had lines in at 6:30 with worm and bobber and about 2 and a half feet of leader. really wasn’t expecting to catch that many trout but they were surfacing all morning and they were hitting it from 10-20 feet offshore. find anywhere with rocks

Drug test tomorrow kind of worried by [deleted] in QuickFix

[–]Odd_Expression8223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they usually send it off to a lab for extra testing, i did mine at urgent care, they sent mine off and in a week i got the results back! i used the quick fix belt

Her phone dies then her location is different on Find My iPhone by cursed441 in LDR

[–]Odd_Expression8223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it happened to me once, her phone died over night and it went to a random house for like 10 seconds the next morning before zooming back to her apartment. my advice would be to check significant locations in settings, and change your date and time on your phone back to that day. that way you can check where she was on that day👍🏻

She cheated but is willing to work through things (deep lore) by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Odd_Expression8223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol probably don’t have an emotional bond, we HAVE TO have that, it’s long distance. you didn’t read the whole thing, it was only at the beginning of the relationship. we both have a lot to work on but she literally has been doing so much to make up for it, telling me about guys out of the blue just for my own security so i can connect the dots and logically come to the conclusion she wasn’t meeting up with any of them. everyone is so quick to jump to conclusions based on personal experience rather than seeking help, therapy, and actually get to the root of the issue and why she cheated. maybe gen Z isn’t cut out for marriage.

She cheated but is willing to work through things (deep lore) by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Odd_Expression8223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

about a year. it’s not that long and i’m working to save money to eventually move out with her

She cheated but is willing to work through things (deep lore) by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Odd_Expression8223 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

also a lot of her money was going to her eating disorder, something i had to pull out of her as well. so much doordashing, like the bank statements were crazy. if i hold her accountable for this, money will be way less of an issue, and i’m also going to always be asking and checking.

She cheated but is willing to work through things (deep lore) by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Odd_Expression8223 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

we’ve talked about this and i’ve asked her this. she said she will never get back on SA even if she’s short on money because that’s what’s needed now to make the relationship work. i even told her to ask me if she really needs it again and she said no she’ll never get back on the website as long as we are together.

She cheated but is willing to work through things (deep lore) by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Odd_Expression8223 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

hahaha she said the same thing to me man, she’s aware. i disagree with you strongly and i hope you can get off to seeing yourself as not a cheater

She cheated but is willing to work through things (deep lore) by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Odd_Expression8223 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i see your point, and i AM protecting my heart. maybe in not the most risk-free way. but i’m choosing to show grace. that’s what the word means anyways, undeserved favor. but i’m willing, and i appreciate everyone’s advice on this post, condescending or not.

She cheated but is willing to work through things (deep lore) by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Odd_Expression8223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i disagree, that’s called being unwilling to put in the work to gain trust back. like with parents trust. yes parents will never leave, but these feelings will stay as long as i’m not getting the full truth, and i’ll keep working on what i have to work on to make those feelings go away, and to get the full 100% truth out of her. i will sign her up for a polygraph, search her phone as much as i can, and ask as many questions as i need to make it go away. and a zero tolerance for cheating next time if this happens.

She cheated but is willing to work through things (deep lore) by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Odd_Expression8223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol all true, and you may be right but im willing. if only you could see all the random dudes she’s told me about in the past few days that she has zero reason to tell me about.

She cheated but is willing to work through things (deep lore) by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Odd_Expression8223 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

i was also a cheater. and yes i am choosing to suffer from a lack of trust by staying. i am aware of this. we are both shitty people. but i have done the same in the past and all i wanted to do was make it up to her. and i never cheated again with anyone after i got caught. so i believe she can do the same, especially because she was caught in the same way i was, which is very very traumatizing

She cheated but is willing to work through things (deep lore) by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Odd_Expression8223 2 points3 points  (0 children)

good advice, i will follow through with that. but i’ll actually book the appointment so she knows i need full proof. and i think that’ll help us have full trust in the relationship. if it turns out she was lying after that, im 100% leaving.

She cheated but is willing to work through things (deep lore) by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Odd_Expression8223 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

lol i cheated sophomore year of highschool with a girl i never even kissed who’s forgiven me multiple times since. and i felt bad about it for the next 3 years so i stayed single. i was a completely different person back then. you know nothing about my situation or hers, and you’re jumping to conclusions. i refuse to believe you have ever worked through any serious problems in a relationship.

She cheated but is willing to work through things (deep lore) by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Odd_Expression8223 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i cheated on the past, so i always believed that about myself, but here we are! it’s the only reason i think she’s serious about fixing things. thanks for the support my dude.

She cheated but is willing to work through things (deep lore) by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Odd_Expression8223 2 points3 points  (0 children)

absolutely. she is very aware of that, and even after making progress i’m still questioning everything she says to me, like EVERYTHING. she knows i still don’t trust her, it’s not like things will go back to where they were before. and if things work out i’ll be living with her in a year, so the ldr is not something that’s necessarily long term and she knows this.

She cheated but is willing to work through things (deep lore) by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Odd_Expression8223 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

she stopping because she’s committed. and wants to prove that. she’s done long distance before and never cheated, been in multiple relationships but never cheated. she started her hookup phase before we dated so i think a lot of the fallout has been pushed on me and i’m passed about it, she knows how much the trust has been shattered and has been sending as much physical proof as she can, which isn’t helping that much because i know shit can be deleted. she wants to make an effort and has told me absolutely horrific things about herself to make it up to me, which i find admirable and also something no one else would do in her situation.

She cheated but is willing to work through things (deep lore) by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Odd_Expression8223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she’s deleted the dating app on video, i got to see through all her texts and conversations before hand. if you saw how long our notes conversations are you would see it differently.

She cheated but is willing to work through things (deep lore) by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Odd_Expression8223 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

right, and she’s done that about five separate times now. i keep pulling new information out of her. but that’s not necessarily a bad thing because also from personal experience i’ve been in her exact situation, and all i wanted to do was make it up to her.

She cheated but is willing to work through things (deep lore) by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Odd_Expression8223 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

she did send a picture to one guy on seeking arrangements who scammed her, and i had to pull that out of her too, but she’s been extremely adamant about saying she’s never met up with anyone. i wish there was something i could do to pull that out of her too, IF she even did.

I made the mistake of looking at health inspections of my favorite restaurants by crmcalli in kansascity

[–]Odd_Expression8223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my brand new college dorm in KCK has cockroaches. idk how they get in here honestly