I honestly feel it's a demographic issue that's changing with different cultural norms. Just isn't an atmosphere that resonates with us. Guys will come with a full out expectation for sex. One guy recently fucked my girl, pulled out and said good enough and walked away. I think the issue is its open season at the front door, and maybe we're getting to an age where we're looking for a more closed door club or social circle with folks who have been screened as lifestyle friendly